The thing I love most about WW

I love the word heifer - it's funnier than "bitch" lol. Yeah sorry not really jumping on the Kumbayah feminist group bandwagon. I'm all for equal rights, just don't really have a whole lot of female friends (for good reason) - the few I do have are loner types like me.

 

It's like She's letting BW call the shots.

 

Hmmm.....Never knew how to spell KUMBAYA till today....thanx SA

 

:smt023 No problem- I do what I can.

 

Black women don't play into the equation at all.

You assume I am playing a game by your rulebook, when I am just being myself, and letting the chips fall where they may. Those who don't like it will fall away, like chaff from wheat. I have a several female friends of the same mentality who are of various religious and ethnic backgrounds.

 

note to self: stay away from loner types in Kentucky that play hard to get.

 

Good living & great women in Kentucky ...nothing like a beautiful day in Lexington ...or hanging in Downtown Louisville ...especially for Derby week from what my boys tell me (I have only been there during non-Derby times).

 

There's a bandwagon? I didn't get the email. I'm a feminist, a bit of a loner as well. But that does not think I believe other women are bitches or heifers.

Your contempt for other women is duly noted. It is not singing Kumbayah to treat groups of other people with respect. One would think that should be obvious here.

 

I deal with individuals on a case-by-case basis. I do not DO GROUPS.

Some people do not deserve moral respect, such as women that throw themselves at BM for purely sexual reasons (who are not really interested in BM as men, or for IR love, but just for a fetish thing). These women are racist, in my opinion, and would never behave this way with a white man - take Sarah Palin for example (if the rumor is true). They use BM for novelties.

Of course one would have to talk with each person individually to know her true motivation. Some people are just naturally aggressive - that's just in their personality.

 

Not surprising. With your inflated self worth you are probably hard to be around for any amount of time.

 

And then you go on to do exactly that, with a piss poor disclaimer at the end. In your posts you have repeatedly lumped together groups of women and disparaged them in bizarrely gendered terms.

Were I a younger woman, I might be offended. As it is, I find it moderately amusing in an "oh, poor dear, no wonder she has no women friends" sort of pitiable way.

 

The women on this forum are an exception. In my experience, it is more difficult for women to get along with each other than it is for men to get along with other men, or with women. I've always been surprised at how well the majority of women on the forum interact pleasantly with each other. Using this as an example of female to female interaction offline in the real world is not even remotely accurate.

 

Actually, that's not factual. If you recall your last stint on the board, prior to your recent appearance, you displayed a lot of contempt towards all who disagreed with you, for the same reasons as now.

A review of your much earlier posts should make this evident. Where's Mikey???

 

Amen baby. And a lot of women I've been around who have a bunch of female friends are faker than an Atlanta girl's hair and nails.

 

I am very lucky, my female friends rock. I have a lot of good male friends too. I can get along without a partner, but without my friends, male and female, I'd be lost.

(BTW I will make limited sense today - woke up with the flare raging - blurred vision, pain, balance issues, dizziness, neck out of whack - so I am heavily medicated.)

 

That is also what I've observed. I'm not saying all women are like that, as I know quite a few who aren't, however the majority of women I worked with in corporate environments were drama-prone, overly sensitive, hypocritical, catty, and disingenuous. Often they'd smile and be best of friends with someone, only to run them down the instant their back was turned. That's the main reason I distanced myself from them and preferred to deal with men. Even if a man is a complete asshole, that's usually apparent pretty quickly, whereas with women it's more of a snake in the grass situation. Naturally any interaction is subject to the personalities of all parties involved though, and I freely confess that I'm what would typically be described as a very strong personality. People tend to either be immediately drawn to that, or utterly repelled by it. I don't think I've ever had anyone warm up to me, they either liked me or hated me instantly.

I don't have any trouble making friends, but honestly I can take them or leave them. I find that a lot of people desire fluff type relationships, be they friendly or romantic. They want you to say what they want to hear, and they want you to act as they desire you to be, and friendship or love is conditional upon you doing precisely that to some people. I don't do scripted interaction, and I also tell people what I really think, and I fully expect them to do the same with me. To me that seems so much easier than having to put thought into every word or action to make sure you don't step outside the other person's comfort zone, but apparently a lot of people are accustomed to the game and find it uncomfortable or impossible to be genuine. In the rare instances that you find someone who can just truly be themselves with you, I think that's amazing and most definitely a friendship worth maintaining. But in my experience, it's really a rarity and I'd take no friends over fake friends any day. There's also entirely too much emphasis on 'what's in it for me' with a lot of people, and I simply refuse to think in those terms.

Sorry you aren't feeling well, Pixie. I hope you get some relief soon. :smt056

 

Yeah, I don't game either, and have frequently been described as an alpha female. I think my friends find my bluntness refreshing, and amusing. The people who don't like me, like you say here, generally took an instant dislike to me.

Usually they're people I find weak and obnoxious, so who cares? Most of my women friends are more like you and I - I don't do that fluffy stuff at all, it gets on my nerves.

And thank you for the kind wishes. It helps.

 

At least if they instantly dislike you, you don't waste time on them. But then I also tend to get a feel for someone in about the first 30 seconds, I keep an open mind, but I'm rarely surprised or disappointed by people.

Sadly, it seems a lot of people simply can't take flat out honesty, even if it's delivered politely. I was ruined from birth I think, my entire family is just very blunt but politely so for the most part, and I was accustomed to that. I thought the whole world was like that... until I got married and realized that there are some people who you just cannot speak your mind to. Encountering truly closed-minded people was a big wake up call for me, I was literally taken aback the first time I voiced an opinion which contradicted the family think, and they all got up and left, immediately... it was like synchronized swimming LOL. It's one thing to not like an opposing opinion, but it's entirely another to not even be able to listen to one.

 

wow...i knew they must have broken the mold when they made lippy...i am also considered an alpha female...born leader...i have alot of female friends...quite a few male friends (no i don't sleep with them) and i work with all females...we play well in the sandbox together...quite honestly i feel that employment laws along with human resources interventions are forcing women to either get along in the workplace or get out...

i don't have time for the self righteous drama queens:mrgreen:

 

That would have freaked me out a bit as well. If anything, I'm the more polite and least blunt of my sisters. I'm not a patient woman, except with people I love.

I call out dishonest BS where I see it, and some people find that very disconcerting. Their loss