the whining thread

"original gangsta"

 

If I have to explain it it loses its swag ya dig

 

I won't tell, just whisper it in my ear. I promise no swagger loss.

 

Thank you, ma'am. Sometimes it's hard for a little middle-aged white lady from the 'burbs to keep up. ;-)

 

Because I figured that since she was NEW, I wouldn't go down that route. I would have happily gone at it had she been here for awhile. And it's not like I didn't want to be found out- I just admitted that it was me. I was going to leave a message on the thread about it last night, but it slipped my mind because I usually do sign my reps unless it's so obvious it's me that there's really no need- there have been a few of those.

 

You should have taught in the inner city of Charlotte with me. You'd know all sorts of things. lol

 

Yeah because you wouldn't have learned that term dating black guys and growing during the 90s lol

 

*I* did, but Pixie needs a crash course- hence, I suggested my old stomping grounds.

 

fair enough

 

this...!!! we always have la or saty to bail us out after all the trouble we'll get ourselves into :smt023 imma gonna bring some aussie wine along for the ride

and this on both counts:mrgreen:

 

Ahh! I took a guess as to who it was by the time of the post and I was right. Thanks, Huntress, for owning it. Maybe ugly was a strong word. But it wasn't very nice. To say that submission doesn't exist in real relationships is a pretty strong statement. (Followed up by "ick").

If I may, I'll share why I support the verses that speak about submission. I like the way the Living Bible says it "Wives, fit in with your husband's plans..." I learned very early in my marriage that God is bigger than my husband's mistakes. When we disgreed on something, I put in my two cents. I am definitely not one to suffer in silence. But in the end, I chose to recognize him as the head of our family and I submitted to his way of doing things. Not because I thought he was right or because he was a good, loving Christian husband (he wasn't a bad guy and he didn't abuse me, but, as I found out later, he definitely wasn't worthy of my respect). I did it because that is what God desired of me. That was his command to me. And you know what? God honored that EVERY time. In each circumstance, it was best to do things the way my husband wanted to do it. Either he was looking at the situation in a more logical way, or he had more information than I did, whatever. There may have been one occasion where he came back to me and said "You were right. We should've done it your way." (He bragged about this to his friends, too. When their wives did their own thing, his friends were just a tad jealous of the way we did things. )

I have seen wonderful Christian marriages where both partners submit to each other. It simply means laying your own ego aside to be attentive to your partner's need in the moment. It's about dying to self.

I don't expect others to have the same viewpoint as I do - we all have our own stories - and for that reason I try very hard not to cram my beliefs down someone's throat. I just try to live them.

I respect your opinion, Huntress, and again, thanks for owning it.

 

Well, I grew up in the 60s and 70s, and I think there were 2 black kids in school with me. One was the local football hero and the other was a very shy quiet bookish girl.

Not exactly the 'hood.

 

Down what route - to tilt her in the red?

I would think a neg rep would be alarming to a newbie, because she's expecting to be challenged in the thread, not annonymously chastized and penalized (it's not like you couldn't have removed three of your berating words to slip in "signed, TheHuntress".) It's almost like a power trip for the neg repper. Sorry, but more often than not, neg reps are UN-CALLED for.

 

Well, I apologize for forgetting to throw my name there. I've owned up to reps, both positive and negative, several times around here. Sometimes you type and type and realize there's no room for the name.

I'm sorry, but there's a HUGE difference between the word 'submit' and the word 'compromise'. That's a lot of where my problem with your original post came in....and primarily where the word 'ick' came into play. Your additional explanation doesn't do much to help clarify that, because I think this might be an issue of semantics- which, fine, I guess our ideas of 'submit' and 'compromise' are very different.

Well, fortunate for me then, I can use my neg reps as I choose and it doesn't have to come to a vote on the forum first. And she wasn't going to go red with +2 in her favor. Come on now.

I get what you're saying, but I never saw the rep system as anything more than a method to communicate outside of the threads we have....the same as clicking a 'thumbs up' or 'thumbs down' button.