The thing I love most about WW

Well said, satyr (as usual).

 

Yes, but I did not realize she was hitting on me right away. If you want assertive WW, try Europe. They are all over the place.

 

If I see a handsome BM, I am certainly not going to be assertive, although I realize my rights in a free society and am as liberated as the next woman. Especially being aware of how conscious a lot of BM men of their sexual availability to WW, I would not want to feed a man's ego unnecessarily, or have him think I am an easy catch or a "bold" WW (unattractive IMHO)... besides, at my age, there's a good chance that he's married, has a girlfriend, or a bunch of kids... it's better to let him make the first move if he's going to make it.

In public I am far more likely to be reserved, walking past as if I am the only person in the room, but I may "accidentally" make passing eye contact, and if he smiles, I will give a smile back - I guess I am rather shy and introverted when it comes right down to it, and proud, too. My secret move is that I will allow him to see me being friendly and chatty with other people (neutral males, employees, acquaintances, etc. - say if it's at a gym) so that he knows I'm not stuck up. The boldest I might get would be to say something witty if the opportunity presented itself, or make a funny face if someone was doing something weird, but the timing has to be right - it should be like a private joke, spur of the moment...

To me it rarely works for the woman to be too aggressive - the man usually loses interest fairly quickly unless he is awkward and desperate and thinks he can't find a replacement.

 

Sounds like you gotta plan missy...I have rarely ever hung with a chic that was the aggressor ...'Stag-Hams' may get it from your boy though ...lol

 

"BM are thirsty for white tail (because often times cute WW are seen as a trophy prize) and she doesn't want to enforce the stereotype of WW being 'easier' than BW."


Maybe?

 

I caught that too. Interesting huh?

 

Sounds like nothing but games to me. :smt069

 

You called it from the jump.

You were right.

 

I comepletely disagree with you. If more women just approached the men that they wanted, you would see far more of them satisfied by the men they are with.

You see, there are far too many women out there who would rather settle for a man that they don't want, then approach a man they actually do want.

 

Women have no idea how easy men are lol

 

Especially being aware of how conscious a lot of BM men of their sexual availability to WW, I would not want to feed a man's ego unnecessarily, or have him think I am an easy catch or a "bold" WW

No, by this part of my statement, I meant that good-looking black men have enough aggressive white females hitting on them, because THOSE aggressive white females are the ones (a lot of them) who follow the theory that a black man would be looking for a trophy white woman. Not saying that the BM himself actually is looking for a trophy. I'm putting it on the aggressive WW women I see - the ones who would be aggressive with a BM and NOT with a WM, although they date both races - they automatically act sluttier/easier with BM.

Not EVERY ww is like this, of course. Some are naturally frank - this is just their way - if that's the case, of course they should just be themselves. I am just being myself, too, which is a little more aloof.

If I actually find a man attractive, or have been watching him for awhile and see admirable qualities about him, I'm going to assume the best in him, which is not that he is angling for a trophy. If he is handsome and intelligent though, I will assume that he has had all manner of easy and aggressive females throwing themselves at him, and I would rather stand out from the crowd by being my intriguing self - I don't have to lay it all out on the table from the start. If he is interested, he will take my smile or my little joke and run with it.

Y'all are just looking for things to criticize. Chill the fuck out.

 

At this point its difficult to see if you have an agenda or just a bad case of chronic hoof in mouth disease because I don't get how you don't see that some of your comments come off offensively.

 

Strange, because for the first month that I was on the board, they didn't. They only do NOW, because I posted a very blunt thread which pissed a bunch of people off, and now I can do nothing right so to speak. I have no agenda as far as WWBM are concerned on a broad scale. I am HARDLY trying to find a man on this board lol - most of you hide behind avatars, fake stats, and bravado.

I do know, however, that not ALL women are devoted to honest IR relationships and they make it hard for anyone who would be willing to have a real relationship with a good black man to be seen in a positive light, so I am very careful how I talk to BM in the real world. I try not to flirt too much at the outset, or I may be perceived as one of those trifling heifers who are just after some sort of so-called "fetish" deal, and that is the last thing I need. You just never know who you're talking to until you do a little observation...

Anyway, the kind of man I like is likely to notice me just the way I am, for being a little shy and reserved, a bit different, because hopefully he is too. I'm not looking for your run of the mill guy. So for that, I don't really care if you misunderstand me - I'll keep being myself and the right guy will come along. THAT's my only agenda.

 

If I could find the damned thumbs up icon it would go here.

 

Trifling heifers? Did you really just say that? SMDH

You know, my personal experience of men, black or white, is that they generally don't like women who spend a lot of energy trying to boost their own status by running other women down. Your mileage may vary, but in my experience, men tend to find that tedious, stereotypical and catty.

 

Look, that's just me - I use colorful language - even when talking about myself. I am my own worst critic, especially in real life.
Like I implied before - if you are determined to find fault, you will find it.

 

It appears you've already mastered that, in regard to other women.

 

As if you haven't seen the very same behavior yourself, with proof of character to back up your initial suspicions. We are not walking through the world with blinders on.

 

I have not seen the behavior you cite. I would also never use the term heifer to describe anything other than a cow.

So perhaps you are correct - you see fault where you choose to.