How important are looks to you?

Sometimes you can know someone and even though they're not 'attractive' by societal standards, that same person personality....becomes their looks.

Am I making sense? Yeah, I am.

 

My dear. I thought the true worth of a person is not in their looks, but in their character and intelligence. There are a lot of so-called "beautiful people" out here, but they lack the essence of good moral character, much less in the intelligence sphere as well.

 

So if a woman was super smart. Challenged you, teased you BUT was really big. You could overlook that....the weight?

 

My lady. So what if she is as you describe. What attracts me to a person is what they can bring to the table. We place too much emphasis on the plastic these days, which in many cases is not worth a spit. Yes, i like the challenge of an intelligent woman no matter what she looks like. I have known many women (before I got married) who were not drop dead beautiful in looks but were beautiful of mind.

 

How would you get turned on? Surely there has to be some touch to it all.

 

What would turn me on is the verbal gamesmanship. This you ladies are supreme. The verbal chess of interlocking thoughts and emotions. The foreplay of non-verbal communications which takes the relationship to a level that excites the two involved. Many men will tell you that what excites them about a woman is her mystery, her mystique. Intelligent women are indeed a challenge. Men like to be challenge. Touch, yes it's a factor, but stimulating conversation takes it to a higher level. Words are indeed powerful in tapping the soul.

 

Pretty damn important. If I'm not physically attracted to that woman than I can't date that woman. I know I know "looks fade blah blah blah" but I'm still young and want a relatively bangin chick lol. I'll worry about that shit(fading looks) down the road when I'm much older

 

Everyone wants someone they're physically attracted too. How could you have sex with someone you don't find attractive? I don't care what people say, if you want to date/sleep with them, you're physically attracted to them. Personality only means something if you want to be with them long term, and even then, if the physical attractivness isn't there, you're not going to bother going past friendship.

Looks mean a lot in the beginning, over time is when the deeper stuff is more important.

And on another note...hasn't this shit been done to death already? Geezuz. :smt069

 

Great posts Blacktiger- it's definitly true. Physical attractive people can become very ugly, when they open their mouth or their mind. The same can happen that a person, you've first overseen, gets more and more interesting, impressing and attractive (out of that attititudes) and suddenly you find yourself in love with that man.

 

Annnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnd "she" is back.

SSDD:smt018:smt018:smt018

 

See my comments in No Name Thread.

 

Right, and continuing to show that she's suspect, lol. You would think that a lady from Europe, and London, might use Susan Boyle as an example of an ample lady, rather than Rosie O, who's not really much in the public eye right now, lol.

I guess she's bored in MS, lol.

 

LMAO! Good call on Susan Boyle. Maybe they've never heard of her in NewScastle?

 

when you do not know the other person looks are importan at first... you have to start from somewhere..

 

that is something you do not know ..and no one stay the same some get better others worse with time ....and some stay the same ..

 

And why does that choice make any more sense. I'm American and I thought of Susan Boyle, LOL. I guess that means Americans know things about people in other countries too, lol.

By the way, how are things in MS, sista, lol?

 

Just for the record, my closest friends live in the UK. Careful, dear.

 

The future is always unpredictable. If I'd been married at the time I was diagnosed with MS, I would assume a man who loved me wouldn't have left me as a result.

You never know what the future will bring, if someone's looks or health or income will change. If you truly love someone, you love their soul, not just their body.

 

I'd be willing to bet that I've spent more time in London than she has. Maybe I should start asking her about London references, lol?

She recently made another mistake as she feigned her understanding of London vernacular when she used, buggars, rather than buggers, LOL.

It's really fun watching her flub around in vain..Sister girl is bored indeed.

 

Enormously bored, no pun intended ;-)