When you joined this forum - what was your story?

I think I was engaged to my man at the time and was travelling over to Kenya to get married. I'm honestly not sure why I joined. Guess I was drawn to the site?

 

Okay, I'm a 28 year old chick from Australia who has just joined this site for several reasons. Obviously, I'm attracted primarily to black men. That just is what it is. Black is my preference, from an aesthetic stance. Naturally, I don't rule out relations with other races based on their race (as of course that would be racist, and I find nothing uglier), but from a purely aesthetic point of view black is what I am attracted to... Today I had a fight with a male friend of mine (white) when I disclosed this preference. He was really angry and seemingly deeply offended by this, and went off on some rant about how he wasn't racist but he just thought it "wrong" because people shouldn't have mixed children as it wasn't fair to the children etc etc. And he called me deluded in my ideological aspirations... Whatever. Anyway this prompted me to find a place with some more like minded people, and this site was generated in my searches. So here I am. Hope to make some friends

 

Welcome to the site. I hope to hear more from you.

 

Well, I just joined this evening, so bear with me. I found this site while perusing the web under the interracial dating engine search. So when I decided to check it out, I was pleasantly surprised to see so many people on here. After further research, I decided to join.

1) I'm still currently single

2) I'm looking to gain more insight from other people who are on the interracial circuit (i.e. dating, marriage, relationships), and hopefully get acquainted with a hot looking white chick.

3) I just joined, but I know it will pleasantly change for the better.

 

Despite growing up with technology I had never frequent a forum before this one.

 

I am new to the site.... Is it worth it?

I am looking for friends that enjoy dancing, live music and love seeking adventure. Is this the place?

 

i never responded to this post till now. so here's my answers.

1. What was your "status" when you joined up? Taken.
2. What were you hoping to get from this forum/site? Joined to socialize, make friends, get to know people in the same situation as mine.
3. Has either of those changed since you joined? The taken has. I recently found out some VERY disturbing news about what i thought i was my relationship & have since made myself single. On to the next, out the door. I'm still here to socialize though, meet people & general discussion, I do enjoy that

that will always remain...i can't remember how I came across this site but I do enjoy it!

 

Glad to see you're alive and well.

 

i am i've just been dealing with a lot tony. lol a LOT. if only y'all knew smh.

 

Glad to see you back :smt049

 

Why I joined this site..

Before I write about why I joined this site let me get answer the questions.

1. What was your "status" when you joined up? Married

2. What were you hoping to get from this forum/site? I joined to socialize with like minded people and also needed a place where I can vent my frustration

3. Has either of those changed since you joined? Nope, not yet, just joined about 10min ago

Ok, now lets get to why I joined this site. First, I would like to say I'm a BM married to a BW and have been for four years. We have been together since high school and we have two children. Within the past 3 or 4 years, my attraction to WW has gotten out of control. I find myself longing to be with a WW physically, emotionally, etc. It has gotten to the point where i'm not even attracted to BW, that is not to say that I'm not attracted to my wife anymore, its just that its not the same anymore.

Now onto the good stuff (or bad stuff) depends on how you interpret it. Within the last 2 years, I've developed a couple of flings (2 to be exact) with WW. I thought that maybe if I was to "be" with a WW that I would be "ok" or I thought "this is just a phase I'm in". Man did it not work, it actually made my attraction worst because now I want to be with a WW more than ever. The two flings made me realize 1. how much I'm attracted to WW and 2. That I really can love a WW and the relationship would be much more different from that of a relationship with a BW. I know that my logic/thinking is the "grass is greener on the other side" concept, however, its how I feel and view things right now.

I'm not a bad guy (at least I don't think I am), I have a career, I'm educated, and I'm a provider to my family. I think my problem lies in me only ever loving one woman. Like I said before, i've been with my wife since high school. Now, I'm wanting to experience love with a WW...

My last fling is now over because she moved away, and now i'm back to square one. As mentioned above, my attraction is stronger than ever but I'm focusing my energy into my marriage until another WW is bold enough to get my "attention". So why did i join this site? I needed a place to vent my frustration...

 

Welcome back LB! My story sounds like yours. Sorry to hear that but keep your chin up. His loss is some lucky guys gain.
Sending you hugs meanwhile!

 

I just found this web while googling about the relationships with black men. I'm white woman, spanish, not a lot of chances of getting to know black american guys here, but he just appeared in my life. Unbelievable. Its my first IR relationship. Its being difficult, because of the distance (he lives between USA and Europe) but I want to make it work. It has opened my mind and, well, can't deny I feel now atraction for black men, just that. I'm curious to read the posts and know more, even sometimes don't understand well, my english is not that good.
Greetings

 

1. What was your "status" when you joined up?

*Single

2. What were you hoping to get from this forum/site?

*Just a comprehensive view of the thoughts and opinions of those that are either in a IR or of those that are not in a IR... I fall in the later as that I am single!

3. Has either of those changed since you joined?

*No!

So, did you come on here with un-fulfilled desires?

*No!

Did you just stumble across it after years of IR?

*No, I dated IR while in HS, lving out west and overseas but that was many years ago. I was married to an African American woman for many years now divorced.

Did you have a one-off like me that changed your mind?

*No.. of all the IR I have had, all were long term!

And where are you now?

*After my divorce and going back into the dating scene I figured out quite quickly that the dating pool is so shallow that when you jump in these days your most likely to break your neck.. or something else so I burnt my dating card.

In the same relationship?

*No.. confirmed bachelor!

Hooked up from this site?

*No!


Explored more because of the support on here?

*No, I do not look for message boards/posters or blogers for support.

Or have you changed your mind and decided it's not for you?

*I am a lesbian.... I love women of all races!

 

What all women around here want....a cheater.

"Bold" enough to get your attention? It sounds like just breathing would have that covered.

Good luck and have a nice day

 

So we now have two (that we know of) brothers married to sisters hanging out on this site?

 

just because ur married to a 'sista' (get it right before u lose whats left of ur black card ) doesn't mean you don't like ww or share a genuine interest in them

shit im an equal opportunity employer around this mothafucka


besides i think id rather have a bm married to a bw around here, rather than have these asexual trolls that do nothing but breed hate towards non-blacks, without ever once mentioning anything relating to themselves and ww

what's that shit about?

 

Yeah. "If he'll cheat on his wife, he'll cheat on you too. Do you really want all that drama?"

 

I dream of it TP! I have never married as I am holding out for a cheater. I only hope my little girl dreams come true. If only I could be so lucky :smt054