Goldigger vs. Wanted Someone Financially Stable

:smt042 You start off with one opinion and then change it in the last sentence. You think men should be wary of women after their money so they should find someone self sufficient.........and yet the man should provide for you? I am confused on how you feel.

 

Oh my God. I must be dreaming. A woman calling out another woman for hypocrisy on wwbm? First sign of the apocolypse folks. Kiss your sweet asses goodbye.

 

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Us women can disagree without getting shitty with each other, though. We just state our point, discuss and then move on. We are more grownup like that.

I'm just saying asking someone to provide for you is not self sufficient.

 

Yeah this isn't inflammatory

 

The whole idea of being "provided for" gives me the willies. I wouldnt feel like a fully equal partner in a relationship like that, and it's very important to me that I be with an equal, not someone "over" or "under" me. Except in bed, then either of those works ;-)

 

I guess I've been gold digging since I was adult enough to date, etc. I want my man to know beyond a doubt that he is going to front me with love, passion and taking care of me. In turn, my doing home chores, getting children ready for the day and good lovemaking seems like a fair trade to me. But it hasn't been for me, until I met my current man and he knows that I want to, for instance, make him a super duper breakfast after a great time in the sack (such as last night); all the time being exhausted to no end from strenuous love play. And wash, iron his clothes. Yep, wanting to do these things, for me, is a welcome exchange of merit.

 

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Better hide, if the feminist mafia sees this they will hang your divorced Texan ass on the tallest tree near San Marcos River of Texas.

 

To me, a love relationship is not financial, i.e., it isn't a *trade* or a *sale.*

Trading sex and ironed shirts for money is just a barter form of the world's oldest profession, from my personal perspective, but to each their own.

I prefer a partnership. Sex isn't about exchanging service for support, it's how grown ups play. I'd hate to make it my job.

 

I didn't change anything nor was I being hypocritical. I stated how I understand how men feel. There are men who get taken to the bank and then some, so I see why they'd be leery of some women. When I said a provider, I don't expect a man to provide for me, I meant that he provides period and not some lazy bum. That he's a contributor to the household. I was thinking along the lines of marriage and kids. I do believe in stay-at-home moms if the couple can afford it and with that line of thinking (hence when I said I'm old-fashioned), he'd have to be able to support his family. Of course this opinion isn't popular around here, cause most of the ladies are independent and the men want women with a paycheck and in these days and times, both parties need to bring home the bacon to get by. My sister was stay-at-home mom, and both my cousin and one of my friends from HS are currently one as well. This is just my opinion....

 

Not being inflammatory.My personal observations. And over and over. Just watch next time the guys have a quarrel on here. There will be name calling and insults on their person. The woman are more likely to stick to the issue.

 

That's coz women love to argue & are Sissies, lol

 

JC at least a lot of the men have the integrity to personally attack someone when theydon't like them instead of the fake "girl power" support I see from a lot of the women. The amount of talking about people behind each other's back is almost like hs. Which one is a bigger sign of immaturity?
I don't want to stir the shit pot but please quit trying to play the women are better than men card. That's ACTUAL man bashing.

Let me also add as a testament to the maturity of men on here. We can get into it but there are rarely any grudges held. That's usually what the women do on this forum. A discussion about fat women 4 months ago makes me a fat woman basher forever. I called Karma a straight up bitch, Flame a woman with sand in her vagina, Ymra a straight up idiot who doesn't know what he's talking about, but we all moved on from it. Any criticism seems to make many of you quick to hit the ignore button or scream woman basher. So you might want to rethink that immaturity claim my friend.

 

Make no mistake I agree with you on your last post but the second part was contradictory of the first part. Understanding where men are coming from but wanting someone to be a provider don't match up.

 

Uhhh.......the only thing inflammatory in this thread is you trying to get me and IB at each other. If I was kissing her ass or skirting the issue would I have even asked her to clarify her position?


She came back and clarified what meant in more detail.

 

Who tried to do that?

 

I think every woman has a little feminist in her whether she calls herself a feminist or not. Or where she falls on the spectrum.

As I have said I don't identify with being called a feminist but I appreciate the women who went before me that stood up for women's rights. We can vote... think our own thoughts.....have what job we want and be in men dominated sports. I don't want to be called a feminist just to have the rights I should have a a human being.

 

Aint nobody gonna call you feminist JC, more like way too feminine, lol.


I am speaking of the FeminiNazis, lol

 

Oy vey! lol

A lot of men are scared to get married these days with a fear that they'll be taken for half or whatever. I understand why they feel that way, but that doesn't mean a man can't be a provider of his household (that has nothing to do with a woman going after a man solely for his money). I'm talking a man providing for his household and family (being married), not the after effects or beforehand of some greedy woman.

That ain't gonna happen....

You surely did ask me to in which I did.

Definitely no ass kissing there...

 

Who said she was ass kissing? Where did you guys get that from?

And to your point of the provider I think we are finally phasing out of that which I for one am really happy about. The idea of being the sole provider for the family is nerve wrecking especially how volatile the economy is. Unless you're a doctor everything seems expendable and can be cut at any time. It seems like we're moving into a world of temp workers with no rights because someone else can always do the job cheaper but I digress.
To me the only way we can be a team is if we both earn because lets face it money is the life blood of a marriage/family and you can never have enough blood.

 

I did mention that in this day and age, it's hard to not have both parties bring home a paycheck. I was talking more along the lines of being able to stay home and raise your kids and that isn't forever.