Im surprised no one really tried to define gold digger and seeking financial stability to properly give the difference. then we can talk .so lets define them

 

Goldigging is just a mentality where the woman simply has materialistic ambitions about a well-off male. She sees only the objects (i.e. car, house, money) and not the man she's involved with. At times, she may try to believe that her interest in her beau is authentic; however, the obsession of the material always shows itself in many ways. The end game is when the wealthy male realizes that after everything he's done to make her happy, he simply can't get it done. And the goldigger then searches for another prey.

Wanting financial stability is a more valid stance for women. It means that the female is already bringing a lot to the table and wants a man who's comparable in that regard. Two people who are financially stable and are in a relationship/marriage will bring years of comfort. She'll turn away from material stuff to tend to what really makes a union work. The intangibles will be her main concern as money is no problem.

 

Yes!!!! You defined it perfectly

 

Now we can proceed forward and discuss this issue. very good definition. Im sure others will probably differ in their definition but I believe this is suitable

 

Yes he has summed it up nicely.

As he pointed out too many women say "I want a financially stable man" when they mean "I want a man to pay for expensive dinners and dates that appears to have status"

Spend time taking care of your own and the rest will come.

 

Yep. I have never needed a man to provide for me financially. I'd rather have a man I'm with because I want him, not because I need him.

 

the thing we need to ask ourselves at this point...is it ok to be a gold digger ? I say lets be honest with each other. some guys dont mind being put in the trick bag. look at hugh hefner. he looks so pathetic. I mean really. The women around him are gold diggers (especially at this point in his life. maybe way back then he was simping/in the trick bag but today he for sure).

he knows they are gold digging and he cosigned on it sooooo is it wrong now..In this case and others like it on a smaller scale of course

 

In my opinion, pathetic is the right word, not only for him, but those young girls who surround him.

 

LOL. I mean if he was asking them to marry him for a publicity stunt then cool but it came across as though he is serious. it really went left when she started in on him about how nasty it was to have sex with him. I was like damn.

 

Everytime I see this thread bumped up this plays in my head. Do people use the word gold digger anymore anyways?

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Absolutely.


We haven't found another word to replace it.

 

Lol. I must talk funny then. I just plain ole say "she's after his money" or "he's just after her money".

 

Well, nowadays, this young generation loves to abbreviate:

TTYL, OMG, GTFO, slut, gold digger, ZOMG, WTF, RUS?, KMA, LULZ, etc.

 

You got gold digger backwards. It's old. I use the rest of those....just not gold digger.

http://odps.org/glossword/index.php...8b8bb3c89b8d41&il=en&p=1&visualtheme=odps2011

 

Not exactly. It says "A female, usually". As in, there are exceptions and I understand the original intent behind it was to describe women seeking wealthy men strictly for personal financial gain.

 

I don't think that was what se was referring to;-)

 

Exactly. LA is trying to get me in sheet with the feminists. I clarified that a man or woman could be after the opposites sex's money because women have money nowadays too.

I meant gold digger dates back to 1920 so it is not a current term. It's old. That is why I said....people still use that??!! Ima stay with my term. After their money.

 

Whatever.

You and you modern terminology Ms. Generation X.

 

Yeah, some people have a relationship where one is gold digging and the other is ho' digging. The ho needs to know they will be traded in for a cuter model at some point, the one with the money will go when someone richer comes along.
It's all good if it works for them, but no need to call it a relationship other than a 'business' one.

 

Didn't read the replies, so I apologize in advance.

I think because men have gotten the short end of the stick (no pun intended) in divorces and the like - in the past few decades, they have this radar up and out for any woman who's after their money. Now a lot of women are more financially sound than ever before, but you still have those who want to try to use or take a guy for whatever he's got. I don't blame men for feeling this way. I feel this way when I have guys coming at me wrong. I don't view all men in the same light though and take each man on a case by case basis. I personally like a man to be self sufficient, but that doesn't mean I want him for his money. He doesn't have to be rich, just as long as he can support himself. I'm old fashioned in the sense where I've always viewed men as a provider and protector.