Why do men primarily do this to their ex's??

Using the phrase men and women so it doesn't come across as if you're trying to educate men who you already know aren't like the assholes you describe. And you acknowledge men get abused too.

 

And so the next question becomes, how do men usually deal with it?...and how do women usually?

I'm betting much, much differently.

 

Got me wrong, MrF. I said men and women meaning that both are abused and both can be abusers.

The article I linked to makes that pretty clear

 

You sound like an effin teacher! "Now class...."

 

Hopefully one day

 

its not really reported because it would be a stigma on a dude to be abused by a woman. there are murders committed by women that are minimized. in the one thread I cant think of the name of it. a dude goes off about women getting favoritism and he talks about sharon osborn laughing at a dude getting his penis cut off because he wanted to leave his wife. no abuse involved nothing. they are laughing and saying go ahead gurl. so men will not report that shit.

most important two words in this thread

Im not saying what your husband did or didnt do is imaginary but lets discuss this part here. emotional and mental abuse is so ambigous and over used its bullshit.

A friend of mine caught his wife cheating and slapped her. so she called the police on him and he had to go to anger management. (lets stop rite there. if a man cheats he always get slapped or his car messed up. how many times have you heard a woman getting hemmed up for that shit). anyway, he stated what the counselors said what abuse was.....wait for it ....wait for it

1) if you are married and you drive the most unreliable car then that is abuse because that is a power move.
- he told me that he replied I drive the messed up car because I dont want the baby and the mother to get caught on the side of the road because the car may go out. they replied its abuse because its a pwoer move. they stuck with that statement regardless that other men in the group agreed with my man.

2) if she says she is going out and you ask where are you going, who with and when are you coming back....thats abuse. power move.

-- my boy stated a dude said so if she left and didnt come back for 5 days just let it slide huh. they responded its abuse

----I saw that same type thing on PBS one time. a brother on a local show said the samething and the women started egging him on. then he realized what he stated and tried to back track but they cut him off because the show ended. it was ugly. you should have saw his face

3) money----if you ask her to manage the money and you ask to see where the money is going thats abuse.

after awhile he told me it was really just a place to castrate a dude. I was dumb founded in hearing that

 

There's a difference between what my ex did and this kind of shit. Emotional & mental abuse can be very damaging, and yes, it goes on by women and men.

I'm talking about the sort of thing where, for instance, I wasn't allowed to have *any* money. He'd count out what was in his wallet every night to make sure I didn't "steal" it (while he ran up 30K in credit card debt in MY NAME, I'll add). I was limited in who I could see and when. I was repeatedly threatened with not only being hurt, but being "locked up in a nuthouse so you can never see your kid again"...I was told (which I knew was BS) that my family and all my friends agreed with him and were conspiring to have me put away, so I'd better watch my step, that I was useless, worthless, wouldnt survive on my own for ten minutes, that if I tried to leave he'd take my son and run and I'd never see him again, etc etc etc etc ad nauseum. I stayed as long as I did because I wanted to spend the first years of my son's life at home with him, and my ex was pretty adamant that I do so. But when he decided that hitting me was a good idea, that was the end point for me.

 

yeah, I know what you are talking about. Im talking about people taking things so far where they blurr the lines

 

They actually are, just check the pic thread and see the number of women who wanted to lick the computer screen and welcome him with open legs ,so if you are being sarcastic then you might be wrong there :lol::lol::lol:

 

Yes, I was being sarcastic.

 

Quite a description.
I STILL have not seen his pics, even though I was directed to the member thread. Not about to go through 100 pages for a Paniro perv though (sorry)

 

its worth it :smt050 lool

 

No hun, you took it out of context...I meant me perving on you, lol. I wasn't going through all that for a perv (look). You may be cute, but I doubt that cute for me to look forever for ya

 

:smt022 Awww don't tell me that shit, girl!





um...oh dammit, ok..brb....

 

oh
my.

 

Oh look, I did!!!

The reason I didn't now just connect it to you (the pics 2 above this one) is because you introduced those in April? and I never saw them..
This one was a pic I saw in May and when I commented, I didn't know who you were then, nor made the connection later when you began interacting in the news sections a bit later on.

So you indeed AREN'T a white man, ha ha.

 

I don't know what to say...tad speechless.

 

LOL. ahhh shit. they put you in that bag huh

 

No, as I have said, Black men are not monolithic thinkers and have their own views - even if unpopular.
I love that they CAN when there was time they never were allowed to ever express them.

I do understand that you hate that on the whole, a few rotten ones are spoiling it for the rest, and that you are also a Republican or Conservative who doesn't feel compelled to adore Obama's politics simply because he is who he is.
It is every American's right to question their President...thank GOD!

When I say I am speechless, I meant by the pics. You are pretty easy on the eyes, can't deny it -- it's probably why I spoke all of 3 words after seeing 3 of your pics??

 

Thank you for not doing that.