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Yeah, that's sort of it. It shows that they've absorbed the anti-woman crap right along with men, and they're showing self-hatred when they come down on other women in sexist ways. Does that make it clearer?

 

Clear! And on point.

 

yep. there you go. remember BBW what has been popping off and then that article. mind you I never read that article until now.

lets go on to another topic in that blog before people say we are bumping. what else you got. I saw a ww tip on how to give hints to a black man that you are interested in IR. did you read that one ?

 

Thanks. We can all only relate to one another from our own experiences. I haven't got a clue what it's like to be a black man in our society. But I can extrapolate from my experiences as a woman to gain a glimmer at least, of understanding. That, and being willing and able to deconstruct my privilege as a white person.

You guys have no idea what it's like to be a woman in our society, but you can extrapolate from your experiences as black men to gain a glimmer, and by being willing to deconstruct your privilege as men, you can see the other side a bit.

That's how not only communication, but allying between movements starts. Allies are important.

 

I haven't seen that one yet, and frankly it sounds like something I should read. I suppose, given my appearance & age, a lot of black men might assume I'm not open to IR.

 

you have hit it on every point I have ever stated.

I have always stated that BM and WW have a common bond in that both have been oppressed and that is why the attraction is great. we can connect on that alone.

 

Absolutely - as I've said before we both exist in a culture which was set up by and for the benefit of people who don't look like us.

Plus...black men are pretty sexy ;-)

 

I saw that somewhere, but this particular topic is most...interesting...

The Four Types of Black Guys
January 21, 2010


Ok so before you take that first big step and start dating a black guy, you must decide on the type you want to date. From my experience there are four types of black guys.

The Renaissance/Intellectual - He is well educated and cultured, able to articulate his thoughts and hold a conversation. He is financial responsible, often a CEO or High level executive. He respects women and relationships, and is more than willing to be the head of his household. He is the “Holy grail” if you will of black guys meaning, ALMOST IMPOSSIBLE TO FIND. Think Barack Obama.

Thug/Playa - He is the stereotypical black male that is most often represented in the media and on the news. Often financial irresponsible, uneducated, and unwilling to hold a steady job. He may even have several kids by several different women, whose lives he rarely participates in. His saving grace is that more times than not he is a passionate and incredible lover, and your love making sessions are intense and memorable.
Many women are willing to overlook his many flaws because of this. There’s nothing like a good orgasm to keep a girl involved with the wrong guy. NEVER FALL IN LOVE WITH THIS ONE because you’ll never be the only woman in his life and you’ll be in for a lot of heartache. Trust me been there done that.

The Everyday Brotha - He may not be a “baller” but he holds a steady job or is a full time student working diligently towards his degree. He will introduce you to urban culture without putting you in situations like going to neighborhoods that will leave you feeling uncomfortable. (expect that from the thug) You can bring him around your friends without fearing him acting to “hood“. If you’re a first time black guy dater, this is probably the safest pick for you.

The Square - If you have no interest in being introduced to black culture, but don’t mind dating a black guy, then this is the guy for you. He is often called an “OREO”(black on the outside white on the inside) because he has little to no involvement with black culture. His musical interest is more likely to be John Bon Jovi than John Legend. You two probably already share the same circle of friends and go to the same hang out spots. You also never have to worry about understanding urban vernacular or slang. Introducing a black guy to your parents usually doesn’t go over well with them, but this one will probably be easily accepted.

***There is a fifth kind of black guy known as the DL/Undercover brotha which I will cover later, but for the record stay from him****

I'll have to read this bit later to get a better opinion. Right now, it's just...too hilarious to read. Give me your take on it.

 

You guys are going to have to weigh in on this one - I don't know enough to deconstruct it properly except to note it appears full of stereotypes.

 

I've been saying that for a long time. But never really put it directly. Hahahah. I like it a lot.

It's the perception of the generation, I think. Or perhaps, it's just a perceived assumption based on looks from a distance and not really getting to know you.

 

I read it and it was ok. the problem I had is that it seems like its saying that you should (a little) have some afrocentric clothing to signify that you are cool to date IR. example like wearing an HBCU t-shirt or bamboo earrings or something.

I half way agree but I just hope WW dont try so hard in looking HIP HOp or whatever. I like the corporate/suburb WW

 

I read that one and I laughed my ass off. I think I fit between the everyday bro and the The Renaissance/Intellectual (fair off because Im not a CEO or something but a grad student to be a teacher)

 

You're correct. Though we all share an X-Chromosome, men don't undergo the same trials and tribulations women have struggled from the get-go and even to this day.

The Trials of Le Dick would make a good book, ya?

 

I'd say I'm a mix of what you've said, but a little pinch of "The Square." I enjoy and appreciate black culture, so I think it doesn't really apply to me that much.

 

yeah, I can dig that. I mean more and more todays rap music turns me off, that isnt all of black culture of course, and disliking rap music doesnt make you less black (that can mean anything and must be define but not narrowly to exclude many to fit ones agenda)

 

I'd look silly in that! I'm the corporate suburban type. I'm petite, blond, blue eyed and WASPy looking.

 

Of course. We can't focus on one aspect of what's deemed black culture when in fact more traditional African-American culture have more of a family oriented togetherness.

 

Helluva title!

 

Oh yeah! And the content...is fluffy for lack a better word!

 

I love women like that. my typical woman I would go for would be a kathy lee gifford or jennifer anniston, hiedi klum or someone like them because they carry themselves in a manner that is universal , smart and fun at the sametime. I think I would love to marry someone like Elisabeth Hasselbeck from the view