"Why I must consider non-monogamy"

http://www.sharecare.com/question/emotion-related-womans-sexual-arousal

Generally, before a woman can get aroused, she has to experience desire. In this way, female sexuality is different than male sexuality. For most men, all it takes is a little visual stimulation to get us in the mood for sex. That’s why men are the predominant consumers of porn and why something like Viagra works so well for men, but not for women. According to University of British Columbia psychiatrist Rosemary Basson, MD, many women are unaware of their physical arousal (increased blood flow to the genitals). Men are more easily aroused, and arousal is more directly linked to desire. Female sexuality is a little more complex. In fact, one of the main differences between male and female sexuality is that guys don’t need to feel emotionally connected to the person we’re having sex with in order to want to have sex. There’s actually scientific research to support the observation that women tend to feel sexual desire towards those men for whom they feel an emotional connection. It could be a function of evolution. Men have a virtually unlimited supply of sperm to propagate, but women have precious few eggs to be fertilized. So they’re going to be choosier about whom they have sex with, and part of that choosiness is the need to feel emotionally connected.

These days, of course, not every woman wants you to fertilize her eggs and many couples use some sort of birth control. But for many women, the need for an emotional connection hasn’t ebbed. This means the #1 thing you can do to get a woman in the mood for sex is to make a strong emotional connection outside the bedroom.

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A) No she doesnt. Rub on the clitoris in the right way and in general, there will be moisture my dear Regina
B) I love porn and find it extremely arousing. As do many of my female friends. I can watch porn and get wet. Fact.
C) I can get wet just from looking at a man's hands on the train (if they are awesome hands). Fact.
D) Female friends of mine have taken viagra and had similar experiences to men.
E) Yes men are more easily aroused and do you think maybe the cant-miss-it-there-it-is external aspect of the penis vs the internal female, or more hidden, female genitals could have something to do both with that and with it being noticeable to the owner of the genitals?
F) Females are more complex. Fact. So of course sex is more complicated for us. SOMETIMES. But sometimes a shag is a shag is a shag. In fact, scratch that MANY times it is.
G) Refer back to sexy hands on the train. I would have liked to fuck that boy and mate I dont give two shits about some pansy emotional connection. Likewise for friends of mine who sleep around just like men do. Sex, no emotion, good times.
H) Emotional connection, if it is there can make sex better for both men and women but neither party NEEDS it.
I) No, the choosiness is based in biology and finding a good mate to produce healthy offspring. And general choosiness because we are female and more complicated but again, not because we're sniffling emotional trainwrecks desperate for some any emotional connection with a man.
J) I know of one man in particular who cannot and does not have one night stands because HE needs an emotional connection to a girl. I shagged him because I liked the look of his ass and mouth. So there.
K) Bollocks again. It is not the number one thing. Making a woman feel beautiful and loved increases your chances of shagging her, yes. But it is far from the only thing needed or the most important thing. Refer back to women being complex. Theres a bit more to us than emotion.

I think you speak very much for yourself and your own personal stance, experiences and YOUR needs. Which is fine. But let me be clear, you cannot apply your experience to the general female population and siting websites is not going to change that you do NOT speak for me, ANY of my girlfriends, or some of the other hot-blooded sexy women on this forum.

Edit - one more thing? If I need emotional connection to have sex or be aroused does that mean I am deeply emotionally connected to my vibrator if Im having sex with it on a daily basis? Even if Im not wet to begin with and have to use lube to get started until she produces her own funky stuff just because I feel like fucking something and I dont have a man available? Lucky vibrator, must have such a nice personality.

 

So, let me get this straight...you're now trying to advocate that rape victims must have DESIRED their rapist in order to have been physically aroused during the assault?

Simply not the case. The following article from Slate discusses rape, rape fantasies, and arousal....

http://www.slate.com/blogs/humannature/2009/01/26/rape_fantasies_and_female_arousal.html

 

agreed with everything you said, especially highlighted, got a few funny storys about viagra too haha

 

Is it me or is it getting extremely hot in here. I need a cold shower :-D

 

LOL Some of the articles I posted say some of these same things you said. Doesn't change the fact men and women are still different and women still GENERALLY get aroused or in need of an emotional connection. I've have had sex many times of raw physical attraction and hell I was just horny too. But take into considering your in a post about cheating. If you are married how likely do you think you will be tempted cheat with that man on the train just b/c you found him sexually appealing? And just b/c we want sex doesn't mean we get nothing emotional from the act of it.

 

LOL who has sticky fingers now huh? Hahahahaahah :smt081

 

Don't bother baby girl she's slow

 

Touché fucker lol

 

I'm speaking for women in general not you as an individual. If you don't function like the majority of women then it doesn't apply to you. Studeis show that men and women are diffrent when it comes to sex.

 

I realise that is what you are saying. I disagree with the specific points you have made sweeping generalisations about. And I speak for 99.9% of my friends. I have a lot of friends, so I feel I am in a position to say in my opinion, the generalisations you are making are too stereotypical and generalised.

And now you have made a blanket statement regarding "sex" when I was taking about specific things you have itemised where I think the generalisations are incorrect (ie visual stimulation, porn, wetness and the need for emotion). These individual elements of sex should be treated as such and do NOT all fall within the term "sex".

"Sex" is penetration, and that is ALL. Sex is not emotion. Emotion can play a role in sex for both men and women and in today's day and age far fewer woman of today's generation (discounting significantly older women of course) can fit nicely into your generalisations.

MEN AND WOMEN ARE DIFFERENT IN EVERY SINGLE WAY. That is what makes us men and women. Of course we are different where sex is concerned. As a general statement this is true. However, the specific things you identify I do not believe can be said apply to all women, in general. Some do, some dont but not for everyone and by far from the majority today. That's what I think. Women are just as sexually active as men. Women cheat like men do. Women fuck around and have one night stands like men do. Women masturbate like men do. And it isnt all about emotion which is your main argument. Far from it.

Also, you still havent told me whether I have a deep emotional connection to my vibrator based on your logic?

 

Well, sometimes good ol' Mr. Vibe and I share magical moments together... for months at a time. Does that count as a deep emotional connection if we sometimes sleep together?

lol

Sorry, I just couldn't resist.

 

NO darling, it means that you actually DO have a deep emotional connection. Because without feeling deeply loved by your vibrator, understood - in fact, if your V didnt cater to your every emotional need you simply could not be aroused by, get wet for or have sex with it.

 

You're right. It never left my (bed)side (table) whenever I cried. It was always there (in the drawer) when I needed it. It never complained, or said a cross word to me. It's the one thing in the world I can rely on (except when the batteries are going, but we communicate well). No one has ever treated me so well (and the soothing shade of purple helps calm my nerves).

OH MY GOSH, YOU'RE THE EINSTEIN OF SEX! I shall henceforth call you Freudstein, Frauline of Fornication.

 

LMFAO!!! Mine's pink And my ears dont work like they should. You know what I'm talking about. Need to email the company about it because that is a serious issue. 8)

 

Have you not read everything that was posted?

 

Nope. Just your posts I chose to specifically disagree with. BAM!

 

Tell them that Her Royal Highness, the Triple F demands vibrator reparations! That should do the trick! lol

 

That is certainty obvious. Maybe if you would take the time to actually read it you will find your answer to your question about your dildo.