Work relationships...any advice?

Has anyone ever dated someone from work? What's your take on them? Any advice to avoid any problems that could pop up?

 

I have, it turned out to be a really bad idea. I would advise against it if at all possible. Unless you or he plan to leave the job soon so that in the event the relationship sours, you're not stuck with him at work lol.

 

I would say if it is a job that you are just passing through, and a place you are right now to while away time, then if it is worth your while, why not. It just means you want to map your social life's cruises and some deep emotional ties to a work location also. As long as you are not violating any ethical codes, I am not sure it is such a bad idea in this type of circumstance.

But if it is a place where you intend to build a career and also build your life and fortune around, then you might need to be more cautious. This is because your source of fulfillment and emotional connection can also come from the work place too. This is something to consider in your list of priorities.

 

I really think that dating anyone you work with is a bad idea. There's a reason a lot of places have a policy against it, and if you're a sales manager for a major retailer, I'm going to go ahead and guess they have a policy against it, too. Most retailers do, especially for their management.

Also, by the very fact that you're working there a considerable amount of time, you're more likely to develop...something... for someone you work with. You guys have work in common, spend time together, etc. In the end, it usually becomes a lust thing, which doesn't do anyone any favors. If you stop working there (or they do), then I say go for it, because you've got a chance to build something real and see if it lasts.

 

Hum bug don't listen to db. I say go for it.
just kidding I actually agree with titiful wonder on this one.

 

I think there was a thread on here about people having sex in the workplace, so yeah I would probably discourage having a relationship at work and having sex at work also.

 

Ha! Thanks, MF.

 

My advice is the same as the others, don’t do it unless one or other of you is planning to leave that place of work. When relationships fail there’s nothing worse than having to face them on a daily basis; I know from bitter experience and I’d never date a colleague again. It was absolute hell when we split but still had to work together.

 

awww...the handsome black men that work in men's suits and furnishings...this is one of the highest margin departments in the store...after working for neiman marcus in management for several years i saw many a ww in management date the men in the clothing department...guess who left the store when the relationship was over? the women...always the women...didn't matter if they were in management and these guys were in sales...the guys made twice what the managers made and the store protected them at all costs...even if he is your lateral it won't be worth it if it doesn't workout...

lippy has no idea what store you work at or what dept the man you are interested in works for....what i will tell you is that michigan avenue is flooded with handsome black men that work in sales...go to the store across the street and find someone to date...

 

I think whatever advice is given here won't matter. If you want to date him, you will regardless of what is said here.

That said, factor how important the job is to you vs. how important the relationship with him is. When the relationship sours, it may end up being a very uncomfortable situation.

 

hhmmm, co-workers.....

cute in your early 20s, tacky/creepy when you've passed your mid 20's

 

that's not true. I only ask for advice if I care about the response.

That being said, the person in question is someone I don't work with directly. I'm not his manager and there's actually 8 floors that separate us any time we are in the building at the same time. There's no corporate policy against it per say (obviously not the ideal situation.) So I guess I was hoping to hear that these work relationships are possible with boundaries. Just looking for some personal experiences if there were any to share.

Either way....I've worked this hard to get where I am, I would never intentionally jeopardize my career. I've just heard that 65% of relationships start in the workplace....curious if 100% of those end there too...

 

I've dated in the work place... we broke up.... life went on...

 

I dated a guy years ago for over a year when we both worked at the same retail store (a Target type store). When it ended, it was a bit awkward at first, but we were both mature about it and life went on.

If you can gauge his maturity level and you think he could handle a (possible) break-up and you think you can be mature about a (possible) break-up, I say go for it.

You don't work in the same department. If you work 8 floors apart, I bet you could go days without seeing him.

I see nothing wrong with it, if both of you are mature enough to handle a break-up (if it comes to that).

Just keep it professional at work. :smt023

Btw, I still have a crush on a coworker that sits right next to me, LOL. Damn, it won't go away!!

 

Bookie is the master at work relationships. Especially car pooling

 

I dont get my romance where I get my finance

 

Bookie shows amazing restraint.

 

Hmmm....what do you mean by that, Mr. Mosley?

You have no idea how badly I want to tell him to just put his D in my V already!!

:smt081

(I kid. I would never actually say that!!)

 

You know exactly what I mean. :lol: