I actually disagree with this, living in detroit before I was adopted, I was often ridiculed due to my enjoyment of liking rock music, wearing non urban clothing, doing well in school (for some reason getting good grades is "acting white.) and other such tendencies. Even now, I have very few black friends, being adopted by my caucasian family taught me that personality, morals, and principles matters much more than skin color, and thus I no longer have the need or desire to associate with someone just because we share the same skin tone. But essentially, from my experience, I received the most amount of ridicule from black people due to my interest not fitting within the "standard norm." or whatever that maybe.
I will say that my desire came naturally at 16, when I laid eyes on the most beautiful man I had ever seen - a Mauritian bodybuilder friend of my friend. But it was my intense love of funk/soul/R&B music that helped perpetuate it. I learned through their words and voices their passions and angst towards love women, and life. I also never fought or even questioned my reactions when my eyes lasered in on the Black man in the film, show, concert. I didn't understand the attraction or try to, I just lived it. And it's never stopped.
My attraction is based on your quote for about 80 per cent. Ten per cent of my attraction for white girls is based on television. The other ten per cent is based on newspapers and magazines.
The problem is Wolf most of the white girls you want to date probably date you cause your black or not attracted to your race. Don't let this website give you the illusion that most white girls will be into you because the won't. There is definitely a ceiling on the type of white girl you can get as a black man. Most black guys date white girls white men don't want. Lower your standards and you'll be fine:smt112
I don't get this stereotype.. Its like saying all wm can choose all they want. That somehow there is more unattractive ww than wm.. It doesn't compute. IF we are going to use the old "bottom of the barrel" shit, then, there is just as many "bottom of the barrel" wm as there is ww so it doesn't matter how you look as a ww, there is always a wm that would date you. You see white couples like that on the daily so just stop drinking the coolaid. Besides, the bm that date a huge ww, what would they date if they dated a bw? Probably the same type. The "there is a definite ceiling of ww you can date" is really offensive to me, what the hell am I? I'm decent looking, in great shape, have a great edumataction and a great job... but according to you I must be subpar??? Why are you here.
says the man from the black community. Remember at least the community sees that you have African descent. I don't know your ancestry but many black people in the usa have european ancestry but would be referred to as black by Caucasians in the usa. Remember that you are part of the black community meaning many people are likely to accept you within this community despite your ancestral background. There is a reason why Barack Obama calls himself black. a large amount of black people in the usa have european ancestry but are very unlikely to be accepted as caucasian like black people are willing to accept any one with african descent as black(no matter how little). That's the harsh truth. Yes, we have issues with different cultures. That's nothing new. You could find Caucasian people unwilling to accept Caucasians talking Ebonics and listening to rap. It doesn't mean much.
This is contradictory. The first white woman I dated had never dated a black guy so that alone proves your comment wrong. Secondly, I feel sorry for you if you are lowering you standards(reasonable standards) so low. You have to have real low self esteem to be saying that.
Thanks guys, I just feel this is some ish that wm made up, to rationalize it.. and somehow, some bm mysteriously bought into it..... I really wish that these guys stop buying into this weakass insecure wm propaganda... They are putting themselves down..... sad as hell.
Totally agree. Anyone who feels they need to "lower their standards" in order to get a date must really have a self esteem problem. And FG, you're right. It's damn insulting to hear someone say that we are subpar. I say a big Fuck You! to that idea. I love myself and I'm fabulous (as are most of the women of wwbm.com)! And people can kiss my ass if they don't agree. :smt110
Excellent post, FG!!! I couldn't have said it better! I'd rep you, but I gotta spread it around! :smt023 I agree. A man with high self esteem wouldn't say that he has to lower his standards to get something. Also, a man with high self esteem wouldn't accuse other men of lowering their standards & of choosing bottom-of-the-barrel women just because other men's women don't fit their preference...when they say that about others, it boils to them tearing someone else down to build themselves up. It's extremely sad. It makes me wonder, if that's the thinking they're buying into, why even try to date if you're not dating women you want to date? In most cases it isn't about race either; if they do this with WW, they'd do it with any other race of women. For those who race is the issue, they shouldn't be dating interracially, because they are evidently doing it for the wrong reasons. It's a fucked up mentality & as it's already been said, it's due to low self esteem. It's saying they can't get what they want, so they'll take what they can get, & the truth of the matter is, if they do that in dating, they most likely do it in other areas of their lives as well. I feel exactly the same way, Sin. :smt038
I wouldn't say my attraction is mainly built off of TV. For me it was mainly living in a mostly white neighborhood and going to a school that was 99 percent white during puberty that sealed the deal for me. Ever since then I have found myself attracted to WW the most. I'm sure as hell not attracted to them more due to me seeing them as "easier".
Its not lowering standards basically what I'm saying is the majority of people are attracted to people in there own race. For a ugly humanoid like myself there is definitely a limit, you wont see me dating Kathy Ireland anytime soon.
Oh it wasn't entirely just my family, even though I do believe that was part of it. It was my characteristic as a whole. I was constantly called white because I listen to rock, do good grades in school (one of my majors is computer science) hell, I've even been ridiculed for liking and drawing comics as if black people can't like comics?! As for ancestral background, I look black but I'm a hella mut, two of my grandparents are native american, one is full black, and the other is Brazilian lol, but that doesn't mean anything cause I look black so people will just see me as black. I have no problem with that, the only thing I'm saying is that I disagree with the idea that the black community has tolerance for people that are different because from my personal experience they don't. My interests, personality, and others has constantly put me at odds with largely black groups. Many times I get the statement that I'm not "black" which I don't really care for. I just rather be me more than anything else, what people see me as is their prerogative.
