Saintaugusta and ladies, question!

We all know how you ladies love for your men to be big and protective but what if you witnessed him losing a fight, would you still respect him as a man. Say...

Your out at a movie with your man having a good night out and some asshole behind you is talking mad loud and putting his knee into the back of your chair...annoying as shit. You keep looking at your dude and he finally turns around and asks the guy to chill. The guy tells your man to shut the fuck up and turn his bitchass back around before he gets the taste slapped the hell out his mouth.

The theater turns dead quiet with everyone pulling out their cell phones of a potential fight, so your man feels a certain way now, like he got to defend his rep so he proceedes to attack the guy which turns into one of the worst decisions he's made at life, getting the brakes beat off that ass. Next day you find a plethora of videos of the incident posted on streaming websites.

Would the relationship still work? Would you secretly chuckle at him? Would you throw it in his face when you guys got into arguements or spats? How would you help regain a man's pride after that? lol

 

We move to another seat or get the people who work there to make them move thus avoiding a childish scene of fighting over something so foolish. :smt102 Being a hothead over something so insignificant is not attractive.

 

A real man is one who can walk away from a potential fight; he doesn’t have to prove anything to anyone, he knows he’s the better guy. It takes more strength of character to walk away than to come to blows. Even worse if he was too hot-headed to be able to do that and was seriously beaten up. If he were my man I’d be very disappointed in him for not being able to take a deep breath and move us somewhere else.

 

First, I'm not for fighting at all. Second, I hope he would suggest moving to another seat or discreetly let management know of the rude patron. So, assuming that stuff away, if he got into a scuffle for what he thought was right and didn't fare well in the scuffle my answer is no, I would not think any less of him (period). As a matter of fact I believe I would think more highly of him for standing-up for he thought was right. Again though, thats if physical violence was the last resort or he had no choice. If he started it for some petty reason, then thats a different story and answer. It would not matter whether he won or lost the scuffle in my mind. What matters is his intent. Thats mom's thought anyway...:smt061

 

Saintaugusta and ladies


I love the title.

 

First of all, If my lady is with me I'm not fighting unless I have too. My concern is for her safety not for my ego...

...after I asked dude to chill the fuck down, if it looked like it was going beyond that and coming to blows. I'd simply leave. If she thought I was less of a man because of it...she can be gone.

...if I fought dude and lost. Oh well...I lost. I think I'm old school. I fight happens somebody gonna win, somebody gonna lose...and ever dude can't whip every dudes ass.

I'll count my loses and bounce. I've been in A LOT OF FIGHTS, and I haven't won all them either. Oh well......

 

LOL...........you saw that huh?!

 

Totally agree. Him getting into a fight, especially over something so ridiculous is more disappointing than losing it.

 

Which is better, to risk the potential for injury or death by some idiot who's potentially carrying a weapon, to embarrass yourself and your partner, to allow someone to bait you into making an unwise decision or to be secure enough in your masculinity and mature enough to extricate yourself and your partner to a less volatile environment by moving to another seat or leaving the theater. I will always choose the latter.

 

Exactly! If a man fights, I'm gone.

 

Wow - why was my name the first you thought of? Yes I like my men big and formidable - his size and demeanor alone will usually prevent an incident from ever taking place. Most men don't mess with my men, who may be big, but not hot-headed. My last boyfriend, who is a tower of strength and masculinity lol would probably just chuckle at the threat and ignore it unless the dude put a hand on him. There was only one situation where my guy threatened physical force, and that was to some nosey punk who had no business interfering where he was... my boyfriend simply chuckled (deep and baritone in his throat, hearty, amused even) first told him to mind his own business, and then said (when the guy threatened to bring his friends),

"Go right ahead... I will crush you." And laughed again.

You could almost hear the whimper as the guy slunk away. If it really came down to a scuffle, my guy also happens to know a lot of highly effective restraint holds which would squelch the fight before it even started. He has never been a fighter, but knows how to effectively deal with out-of-control people.

I was very proud of him for that. I would be embarrassed of a hothead or someone who indiscriminately got in fights to "prove" something. He doesn't have to prove shit.

 

I wasn't sure if that was insulting or a compliment? Like you are not a lady??

 

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Let me end this thread for you. Always walk away I don't care if you're a "mountain of muscle" puny Pete. Walk away before you're carried away. 9 out of 10 it may be a loud mouth but that 1/10 who ain't playing around might pop you. This ain't no movie fuck what a woman thinks chances are she ain't jumpin in front of a bullet for you and she isn't taking care of you if you end up in a wheel chair. In fact think what your momma wants you to do. Let me answer for her, anything that brings her baby home in one piece. Too many I mean way too many young black men dying for no fucking reason. Fuck what these broads think, most are only in it for convience for them. Notice how not one said "if it were my man I'd try to get us out of there as quick as possible. My man means the world to me I couldn't bare him getting hurt" because our safety doesn't mean as much as their sense of safety or pride. Dude I don't like you real talk but I really don't want to see more young black kids grow up without a father. Walk away fam.

 

Drae, sometimes I think you're on another planet.

We were answering northsides question, which was nothing about 'try to get my man out there as fast as possible', it was about 'if he fights, how do you come back from it?'

Reality of it is, if a man is going to fight, nothing is going to stop him- and that's not the type of man I want around me. If a man is going to fight, then his dumb ass deserves whatever he gets. YOU WALK THE FUCK AWAY. If a guy calls you a pussy for it, then fine, who cares what the dumbass thinks? If the only show of manliness you've got going on is your fists, you need to do some deep self-evaluation.

 

His question was would you view your man a pussy if he lost a fight but my entire post was to advise him fuck what your woman thinks. Anyone who truly gives a rat ass about doesn't want you to fight so whether you win or lose is irrelevant. You ain't got shit to prove to your loved ones they just want you in one piece.

 

I would prefer my man walk away from any potential fight. That, as has been said here before, tells me he's a real man. BUT, if he did get into a fight I would still love the heck outta him. Even if he lost, even if his losing fight ended up all over youtube. I couldn't care less. I'm not going to leave him just because he loses a fight or embarrasses himself. What kind of a person am I if I do that?

And NO, if my man ended up in a wheelchair I would NOT leave him.

As for loving our men being big and protective. It's a feeling, not a need for him to beat the shit out of every asshole that comes along. Having his strong arms wrapped around us, we feel loved and protected. It's got to do with love, romance and sex. Even a skinny guy will feel, to us, big and protective when we've got his loving arms around us. It's a girl thing. Don't over think it.

 

I've never known my man to lose a fight so far yet, but if he ever did, I wouldn't lose respect for him. That seems pretty immature to me. I don't like him to fight whether he wins or loses because it could get him hurt (even if he "wins") or in trouble, but it's how he is usually, though I have succeeded in talking him out of it before, but if he lost I would take special care of him and nurse him back to health :smt077. I might have been embarrassed if asked this question over a decade ago, but I'm older now.

 

Thanks, nice to be around so many mature people. It was just a hypothetical question, Saint you did come to mind because I noticed how turned on you are by he man theatrics and with so many youtube videos of common people fighting over nothing the scenario popped into my head.

 

And you wonder why we say you bash women...


Every woman who responded said she would not want her man to fight.