Something that will always perplex me

hm. btw i'm back

anyway....i'm not too sure why people do this. I've seen it there & there myself but I've also seen the opposite(girls who ONLY date black men BECAUSE they are black but not immersed in the culture AT ALL & know nothing about it).
for myself, my parents raised me to be interested in all sorts of cultures(which I am) but I've always maintained & had friends & dated people within that ethnicity as well.
I've seen it happen a lot here that a LOT of the WW dating BM know nothing of caribbean, african american or african culture or could care less to. It's some sort of odd twist on the question asked in here. Personally that bothers me just as much because if you're gonna have a marriage or a family with someone who's of that ethnicity, why would you not want the kid to be involved with both cultures & knowing both backgrounds?
However, I get quite a bit of attitude from within both the W & B community because the majority of my friends & all my ex's have been black. Like I am not supposed to enjoy the culture, the food, because I am WHITE.
I personally have no problem with people immersing themselves into culture, I think it's great...but it kind of seems fake or an image they're trying to maintain in being involved in another culture that they cannot be with a black man. It's "cool" to be into everything else, to be rocking the hairstyles, the dress but NOT cool to be dating a BM. Irks me to no end.
There's also the opposite end wherein people think I try too hard to be 'black' or to have all black friends & boyfriends(which is not the truth. I still base people on who they are at the end of the day, no matter your skin colour, culture, etc). I think if you take on too much of the culture(as was written in here earlier & as I've seen) it becomes not natural, not a culture you're enjoying, but something you are taking on WAY too much of, especially if you haven't been raised in it, around it, etc. FOr me, this goes for anyone, I have seen it happen with other ethnicities here where they try to take on a culture & live a cultural life that is NOT their own & act as if they are no longer of that ethnicity.
But then my mother reminds me that she's so very happy she's raised 2 children who are totally into respecting & enjoying other people's culture(my brother & his wife are highly immersed in the asian culture) but still remembering where we came from too.

 

Ladyblaze - you're great. I've only seen a couple of your posts but you're right on.

Just want to mention nobody mentioned the Indians lol. I love some lamb korma and saag paneer, love the sitar, adore Baby Ganesh, and dig the sparkly home accessories. Had a pretty positive experience overall with a gorgeous Hindi man (much younger than myself) - I know he will never forget the few days we shared, nor will I. If I met an Indian man that I loved and wanted to marry and vice versa, then I would become more immersed in Indian culture, and same goes for African/Caribbean, or ANY difference from my upbringing (even white - had a British boyfriend for a while but I already dug the Brits). I really cannot afford to become emotionally invested in any particular culture because it brings up so many memories - am better to just be open across the board and hope that my true "match" will come along and make everything crystal clear. Then I would hope that THAT man is as open to other cultures outside of his own - the world is such a beautiful place!!

That being said - Go Canada lol - got my maple leaf but don't own any Barenaked Ladies. Dig some Alannis Morrissette though.

 

Raul, thanks for posting this. I hadn't thought about it much, but I guess for some people it can just be an interest or a culture/lifestyle choice, without signing up for all that comes with it, including dating someone from the ethnic group in question. That being said, some people can get momentary fixations on a certain culture if it's popular or ever-present in popular media. A lot of my buddies dated white women who never dated interracially during the 'Latin Boom' period, and when they were out of that phase, they were out of the relationships with those guys. All in all, that's their prerogative, but a couple of my pals got feelings invested and were hurt, especially one who had a son with one of the ww in question.

 

Interesting how this thread didn't have a whole bunch of insults in it like ED's I wonder why. Same subject matter.

 

Mr. Fan, where's the other one? Not sure who ED is. I remember reading something about this topic, but I just assumed it was a different post I was reading.

 

There you go fam

http://whitewomenblackmen.com/forum/showthread.php?t=17673

 

I'll just stay quiet lol

 

don't be shy now...you just have a way with words:smt054

 

I always wondered about this. In Houston, a lot of white women are into country, hillbilly lifestyle and i cannot relate to it. I am more of city guy. I do not want my future partner to resent me because I am not an outdoors man. When online dating, I tend to avoid these types, which are prevalent in Texas.

 

A lot of ww in America are of Irish decent. But I highly doubt brothas are into Irish culture (and you dont hear the Irish American females complaining). Its a two way street folks.

 

Best answer in this thread.:smt038

 

Really is it? You know that chick is suspect right?

Name any kind of chick from another ethnicity that you could never see yourself fucking with?

 

Oh dont get me wrong, I got love for all races of females but like she mentioned, a lot of people have certain preferences. Nothing is gonna change that.

I know a number of females that love Chinese food but wouldnt date a chinese guy (or asian guy for that matter). A lot of women feel that way cause of the asian stereotypes (little dick, not manly enough, passive etc).

Just the way it is.

 

And that's racist since its based totally on race. I'm not saying it should or shouldn't happen just calling it what it is.
Like who you like and love who you love but if the only thing keeping you from knowing me on a personal level is my race then you're a racist. Just calling things what they are.