what are your personal "red flags" when dating?

lmao...it's a wonderful concoction...!!! artyman:

 

ooohhhweeeee... flip-flops on drunk people should be banned!!!! At least we were a hit at the store.....once we got there!! LOL.

 

Pay attention....LOL

 

Pay more attention..............
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FG said most of what I look out for and head in the opposite direction if I detect them.

Also having your phone on silent but still on vibrate and it continually goes off during the date...

Not reaching for your wallet after dinner, not even to pay for your share.

Whispering in my ear suggesting we go and "have coffee at my place or yours" on the first date..

Getting straight on the phone to text as soon as you are finished the date... (I dont know if it is just me, but I find that kinda weird,,, atleast wait till I am out of sight,,,, well that is what I do if calling my girlfriend to talk about the date,,, lmao)

Continually saying to me "come on,,, you must get a lot of dates??" and insisting I tell when I last went out on one... I find that a little invasive and tend to think that comes from an insecure place.

On the first date asking if I like lingeree....

On the first date asking what size lingeree I wear... lol

 

My personal "red flags" when dating are:

- only wanting to communicate by text. If you have something to say pick up the phone and talk to me. Texting is OK but not the best way to chat IMO.

- if he sulks when he’s unhappy. Communication is so important in a relationship and I don’t always want to be the one to try and clear the air.

- being unreliable. If you say you’re going to do something, whether that’s phone me that day or do something for me, follow it through. Don’t promise and not deliver.

- Affectionate only when he wants sex.

- ogles other women in front of me. I expect a man to look but I do expect him to be discreet about it.

- Recreational drug taking or excessive drinking

- Anyone who says “women do…”, “woman can’t…”, “women like…” etc. I’ll tell you what I can or can’t do, what I like and dislike, and what I want. We are all individuals.

- if he has children. It’s not a deal breaker but does raise a flag. A good father will spend time with his kids which means less time to see me (I dated someone I could only see every other weekend because of this), and a bad father, who doesn’t fight to see his kids, is shirking his responsibilities and is just unattractive.

- fussy eaters. It just gets irritating after a while and I do find it quite childish.

LOL!:lol:

 

A red flag is supposed to be a warning sign >.> j/s. I don't see how things like "has a small penis" apply. But then I personally think that's an incredibly shallow view to have anyway(and one I've not really heard mentioned by uhh women who have had sex really).

Anywho, I have a couple, not many and there'll be no revelations here:

-In early stages, excessive or unreasonable anger at trivial situations. If you're fuming because the waiter brought you the wrong wine or raging about someone cutting you up then yeah...warning sign there. Especially in the early days as most people will tone it down, if that's toned down you have an issue.

-Texting during a date. If you're tapping away at your phone then my company is obviously not required, I dislike spending time with people who can't put their phones down and again, if you aren't making effort in the beginning, you won't be later.

Idk, I think it's more of an intuitive thing, they'll say something that sounds a little off or do/not do something that sparks a trigger for you and that's that. I'm not sure its possible to generalise enough to have a full-on list. Dealbreakers are easier to list.

 

Excessive baby talk, uuuhhhhhh! I hate that shit. Prime example, on that show with Lamar Odem & the Kardashian sister, she does it a lot.

 

Well damn. Looks like youre susceptible to getting date raped by stoned struggling artists on the first date :lol:

 

That happened to me on my last date. She actually called while i was driving home from the date and said. "youre probably not gonna ask me out again are you?" :smt107

 

You totally pulled my card on every point except for the recreational drug use and the kids thing but damn girl you got me cold lol. I think only texting is appropriate when you start dating. Only real conversations face to face. Phone conversations are very time consuming and I don't believe in giving you girlfriend time until we've established you're my girl.
As far as generalizations about women are concerned I think it's fair from time to time. There are universal traits women share I don't see the problem in acknowledging that. Sometimes being unrelible builds intrigue but there has to be a good excuse like for work or family stuff and always say "I'd love to ask you to come along but I'm kind of selfish and want you all to myself" never fails. Of course stuff like this works when you like the guy in the first place red flags rarely apply. You "look" for them when you're so so about the guy to begin with.
Even though you didn't ask just my two pence

 

People may hate it, but a lot will still engage in it with a partner, it's highly contagious lol.

 

You just noticed? you late man.

 

You forgot small hands apparently that is also a red flag for some.

You just noticed? you late man.

 

That is just too much,,,,, I remember driving home from a movie date and had three texts waiting to be read by the time I got home.

So did you ask her out again? lol

 

I considered it but she sabotaged herself. 5 days later she asked me out for miniature golf for the upcoming weekend but I said no because I had bad allergies that recently got worse....Which was true. In fact, my eyes were blood red and itching on the date with her.

Anyway, instead of responding and saying something like "sorry to hear that" or "hope you get better" like a normal human. She completely disappeared. :lol:

 

Forgive me but I’m not au fait with some of the terms you’ve used so unsure what you mean. What does “You totally pulled my card” and “you got me cold” mean?

I’m a cut the crap sort of woman and really can’t be bothered wasting time with texting; it’s very hard to write anything worthwhile, it’s pretty shallow, and worst of all you get no sense of intonation. Smilies only go so far but nothing beats hearing someone’s voice to get a sense of them. In the beginning of a relationship I want to know whether the man is worth pursuing or not, so we have to speak on the phone and meet in person. A cute text from time to time to touch base is sweet though, but not as a way of getting to know someone. If a man doesn’t feel I’m worth spending a few minutes chatting on the phone to then it doesn’t bode well IMO.

Hmm, not sure about that. I have a dislike of being pigeon holed and stereotyped, and find it quite offensive not to be treated as an individual. A lover once told me “Women love this” as he proceeded to fiddle with my clit in a way that did nothing for me! He learnt that not all women loved it! Besides, it’s been said on occasion that I’m not a stereotypical woman in many ways.

Such as?

Not for me it doesn’t. If a man is unreliable it shows a lack of empathy and respect for me and that is very unattractive. If he can’t do something he’s promised, or has a sudden change of plans that affects me, I expect him to have the courtesy to let me know. Plus I loath mind games in any form.

Nope, that would be a red flag for me because I’d think it was bullshit, sorry. Even if it were true I’d be concerned that the man was too possessive, so either way it’s a negative.

 

tea?

 

Agreed, it's a major red flag (deal breaker) if he's not reliable. Shows immaturity and an inconsiderate personality.

 

lol...classic

FG has good taste in men as always