Cheaters

Discussion in 'Conversations Between White Women and Black Men' started by Chigirl, Dec 14, 2007.

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  1. The Dark King

    The Dark King Well-Known Member

    Fair enough but it wouldn't it better for both parties to be in an open relationship?
     
    The Dark King, May 12, 2011
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  2. JordanC

    JordanC Well-Known Member

    MF, why are you needing an answer quick? I am confused. Are you thinking of getting involved with her? Your life would probably be simpler if you just stay in your own lane. Why get involved with someone who is already involved? :confused: Maybe the "cheaters" will come on here and give you a different perspective but to me I think you will complicate your life if you are thinking of being with her.
     
    JordanC, May 12, 2011
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  3. The Dark King

    The Dark King Well-Known Member

    Real quick is just a figure of speech out here in NY JC. But I do agree I should stay in my own lane and not let what others do affect me so much. Cheating really bugs me I can't help it. Are you familiar with Dante's Inferno?
     
    The Dark King, May 12, 2011
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  4. Bliss

    Bliss Well-Known Member

    Yeah, here too. Its like "right quick" or "for a second"..ie: can I talk to you for a second. But your post did kind of sound desperate, lol.
     
    Bliss, May 12, 2011
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  5. JordanC

    JordanC Well-Known Member

    Yes I am.
     
    JordanC, May 12, 2011
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  6. The Dark King

    The Dark King Well-Known Member

    The ninth realm of hell was reserved for betrayers, liars, backstabbers for a reason in my opinion. I guess since to my knowledge its never happened to me and thought of it is a real trigger for me. I just always believed if you really loved someone you couldnt possibly be so thoughtless and selfish, the fact people do this shit and then just pretend like nothing happened is amazing to me.
     
    The Dark King, May 12, 2011
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  7. lippy

    lippy Well-Known Member

    what i fear happening here is the dreaded self fulfilling prophecy...sometimes if a person is too worried or focuses too much on the fact that something bad might happen...then it will happen...

    MF....if you go through relationships constantly questioning if someone is faithful...making them feel like you are not secure...hovering over every little thing...being suspicious...it's almost like you plant the seeds and water them...don't worry about what other people are doing or if they are cheating...if you don't cheat...when you cross the commitment line in a relationship and make it clear the cheating is a deal breaker...then you just have to let it be...hope for the best...be such a good bf or husband that your gf or wife wouldn't want to cheat on you
     
    lippy, May 12, 2011
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  8. Tamstrong

    Tamstrong Administrator Staff Member

    IMO it's the worst thing you can do to someone you supposedly love. I also believe that if you really love someone, you would NEVER cheat on them. If something is so wrong in a relationship that a person wants to stray, that person needs to do the right thing, either by working with his/her partner to fix the issue or ending the relationship rather than betray that person. By disrespecting the relationship & one's partner, a person is also disrespecting his/her self.

    No matter what spin is put on it or what excuses are made for it, there is NEVER a good reason to cheat, it NEVER 'just happens', it's NEVER anyone else's fault, & it's ALWAYS 100% selfishness.

    Great advice, Lippy.
     
    Tamstrong, May 12, 2011
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  9. JordanC

    JordanC Well-Known Member

    Agree. I keep wondering on the ones here encouraging kygirl to cheat if they were her husband would they be so openminded about her having someone on the side? I seriously, seriously doubt it. They would be indignant and flipping out if they were being cheated on. When it's done to you it just doesn't feel the same as when you are the cheater. :roll:
     
    JordanC, May 12, 2011
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  10. Athena

    Athena New Member

    I agree with you JC.

    I have been cheated on yet I do think that KY has been treated kinda unfairly since so many guys are on here looking for something on the side and they seem to get a free pass and not only that, they get heaps of women flirting with them constantly.

    I just don't like the double standard. Cheating is lame to the 1000th degree and cheaters are all assholes but should be treated equally. At least here either they should all get run off or they can all stay and express themselves with respect.
     
    Athena, May 12, 2011
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  11. Tamstrong

    Tamstrong Administrator Staff Member

    You hit the nail on the head, JC. I also have serious doubts that any of them would want to be in her husband's position. In a relationship, being cheated on is just about the worst thing your partner could do to you. Why in the world would someone knowingly mess around with a cheater? If a single person is just looking for someone to fuck, there are plenty of other single people running around who'd be willing to do it.
     
    Tamstrong, May 13, 2011
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  12. Tamstrong

    Tamstrong Administrator Staff Member

    I feel the same about cheating regardless of who does it & I agree that cheaters are assholes & they should be treated equally. I know there are some people on the forum who fit in the cheater/asshole category, & although I express my honest opinion on the subject itself, what they do & the consequences are their problem.

    I do have an issue with KY & it's not about of her lack of scruples. My issue with her (& people like her) is her lack of respect & appreciation for IR & for BM as people. She speaks of BM as objects & views them according to stereotypes & I find it highly offensive. Real interracial relationships aren't based on that garbage. Many of us here have genuine interest in & love for one another & I don't appreciate someone disrespecting that.
     
    Tamstrong, May 13, 2011
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  13. pettyofficerj

    pettyofficerj New Member

    why make another thread if you already know other cheating threads exist?

    why give a guy a vagina if he already has a penis?

    why give a dog a bone if he has 2 already?
     
    pettyofficerj, May 22, 2011
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  14. lippy

    lippy Well-Known Member

    your first post:confused:who are you?
     
    lippy, May 22, 2011
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  15. Ra

    Ra Well-Known Member

    A new wanna be Drama Queen/King Shit Stirrer in the house I see....


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    Ra, May 22, 2011
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  16. archangel

    archangel Well-Known Member

    Could you explain how you can love someone and cheat on them? I don't get that. I'd leave if the relationship wasn't working.:smt102
     
    archangel, May 22, 2011
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  17. z

    z Well-Known Member

    YAWN.
     
    z, May 22, 2011
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  18. Tamstrong

    Tamstrong Administrator Staff Member

    Ditto
     
    Tamstrong, May 22, 2011
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  19. lippy

    lippy Well-Known Member

    :smt015
     
    lippy, May 23, 2011
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  20. lippy

    lippy Well-Known Member

    :smt005so when you take the sock off...who are you? simple question...come on puppet...tell us
     
    lippy, May 23, 2011
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