I'm getting tired of my Estranged Mother. (Here's a question)

That's it, everyone.

Let me ask you people a fine question.

My estranged mother had asked me about home address and I was grateful to give it to her and soon as I gave it to her, she was pretty mean and said directly to me in a horrible e-mail.

She insulted me "Little Boy". I went like..I picked my keyboard up and typed right away to tell her not to talk to me like that. My grandfather would be very disappointed in her.

I will not tolerate any kind of this behavior my family is behaving like that.

So..here's a fine question: Did she go too far by insulting me "Little Boy"? :smt108 It's the very reason why I'm living in North Carolina right now. She's trying to control my life.

She's crossing a fine line here. I'm getting very stricter and stricter than ever now. I'm no longer being nice guy when it comes to bad behavior and attitude. Yet, I'm trying to build my life here and I'm about to have a new girlfriend in my life.

Soo....:smt108

 

Do you know why she called you little boy.

 

No idea.

I was asked her politely. I just want to know why she need a home address..all she do was to called me a "Little Boy". That's unacceptable!

 

Well, as long as you stand your ground and let people, even your own mother that you won't be talked to in that manner, people will respect you. Unfortunately, this is your mother, so she will do and say whatever she wants, but you have to do what's best for you and if that's to protect your feelings, not be controlled and to just live more freely, than you gotta do what you gotta do.

 

just ignore it and move it along.

 

She's the worst parent I've ever had in my entire life. One second back, I was happy to give it to her, One second forward, she was mean to me out of the blue.

I just want a good explanation, that's all. She didn't give me one. So, I'm going to move on and stand my ground. To build my life down in the road in the future as I'm building my own family soon.

That's why my father never liked her in the first place and move on with his life, we just don't see each other that much anymore.

 

She's obviously not going to give you one.

That's all you can do in the bolded part...

 

I agree with Inner Beauty. Some parents will never give us what we needed as children, will never be what we want them to be. It's sad, because it's the only mother you'll ever have, but as an adult, you can choose other people to surround yourself with that nurture that part of you that you missed having nurtured by your mother. Maybe not ONE person, but many/several good friends.

It seems a lot of people take a goodhearted, tenderhearted person's openness as weakness, and will try to jump on it whenever they have the opportunity. I sense that you are at heart a strong person, who will take whatever sadness you have encountered in life and turn it into strength. Like IB advised, it's best, if you can, to move on from your mother. She's not going to change. You can still be a "son" of sorts from a distance, but always realize that YOU are in control of how she "makes" you feel. You are stronger than what she is trying to do to you, and you will win in the end, by creating your own happiness. What's more, you'll appreciate your happiness all the more because of the struggles you've been through.

Keep your chin up, Bradin. It's all gonna be okay in the end. Just have faith and keep moving forward to becoming the man you know you can be. You're already doing great!!

 

Well, ladies and gentlemen, I'm reporting her right now. She's threatening my life right now.

 

your mother may not be well...if she is infact threatening your life...you may want to cut off all contact...this means that even though you would like to fire back through email...letter...phone...don't do it...if she writes to you do not open the letter and write return to sender on the envelope...block her emails online with your carrier...block her telephone calls by calling the phone company...

also ask the people you are close to not to engage with her at all about you...if she asks about you...ask them to please not answer and end the conversation...

i hope things get better:smt061

 

I've reported to my counselor Mary. She will know what to do. I told her to contact me immediately once she read this. She thinks that she's rule of this world. :smt108

It's not funny anymore. I've take the action right now. I've warned her not to talk to me like that. She's threatening to choke me. If she's coming here, she's going to ruining my counselor's plan for me and for my life that I've been tried to build ever since.

That's why she will never lay her hands on my children in the future. I'm going to have a resisting order against her somewhere in the very near future.

 

do what you need to do to protect yourself.

 

I'm drawing the paper to place a restraining order on her very soon. I will do whatever it takes to protecting my life and my future. As I'm trying to becomes a filmmaker and writer as well!

She doesn't care, but wants to destroy my life to begin with. I'm going to make sure that she don't.

 

With your misadventures and encounters...this would be a good start for your film-making career.

 

Yes. Very good start for my film-making career, if you will. Granted, I love North Carolina very much, but one day, I have to move out to live in California. That's where best filmmakers live there.

 

LOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOL!!!!

Let me get this straight, she called you "lickle boy" because "shes your mom" and youre filing a restraining order on her? AHAHAHAHAHHAHAHAHA.

You corporate fool.

In life, everything is linked to everything you do, and all these are variables which generally occur for a reason. So my question: Do you act infantile around your neighborhood? Are you quite attentive to home economics or hygiene? Does your incompetence therefore, force your house maid or mates to work twice as hard to compensate the slack while cleaning up after you? Chances are ,a total attitude adjustment, regular logical thinking, and putting a little effort into your social skills would make things more pleasant for not only yourself but also, maybe your mom will render you a little more respect.

But then again, shes your fucking mom and thus makes you a little boy in her eyes.

Now go outside and play with a kite, or make a sand castle.......boy

 

What I know is this.

My mother was LESS than stellar and this is putting it lightly, but because she was...

I AM

I was blessed to have an amazing father, hell if I become half the man he was I will call it a success. I don't regret anything that has happened to me. I don't regret my parents or my mom, or the events that lead to be becoming a man because those events made me who I am today.

My father once told me that the difference between a boy and a man is that am endures. A man endures. I am sure there are other things you are not spilling but you, a young man, seem to be allowing her to shape your actions. That's not something a man does brutha, that is something a boy does

A little boy.

You don't have to contact her, you don't have to speak to her, but restraining orders? Being a shook up as you are now? These are not the actions of men. She sent you an email / phone call, calling you a little boy? SERIOUSLY?

young bruthat endure.

if this is the extent....(and for now its really all you posted)

SO THE FUCK WHAT

Come on dude? Seriously?

Yeah, I'd say you are acting reall little boy-ish right now. And perhaps there may be some justification as to why she called you that.

In the end because SHE IS...YOU ARE...and for that alone she should be respected, even if she has none for you.

 

fuck FINALLY a voice of reason.

....umm....what he said (but i was TRYING to be a bit more smooth) cuz I can tell the young brutha is hurting and a bit confused.

Yall ain't gonna like this, but there are cultural differences between whites and blacks and how we relate to our parents.

 

It pains me to say this but is NCBradin black?