what are your personal "red flags" when dating?

Just had a convo with Karma and I never noticed how many women I dated had so much family drama and I don't know if that's just a interracial thing but I'm sure that shit don't help a soul.

 

I personally don't think its an IR thing. This type of stuff is frequent everywhere. And I made a decision I just cant deal with someone that has it.. Dated all sorts of men with that issue and I have learned I cant deal with it if its unresolved ongoing stuff, some people cant and wont let go - its hard to date someone w a grudge or chip on their shoulder, a bone to pick, anger, distrust, enjoy the drama of it etc. It is not conducive for a stable, honest relationship that actually would have a chance.

We all have someone in the family we don't like etc, I am just referring to people that have an ongoing family drama thing that they have not resolved or come to terms with otherwise.
When you know its going to be front and center of many conversations and family meetings and even your relationship. Cant deal.

 

I must add a new red flag: when a men gets something to drink (and I don't get anything because we just exited another bar) and when it's time to pay goes like "it's your turn!".
Awful.

 

Redundant

 

When someone says "liberry" or "laundrymat" or "joollery".

Is or was in the military or is/has been a cop.

Has children.

Will only buy American cars.

Posts pictures of his vehicle on a dating site.

Has a moustache with no accompanying chin-hair (absolute dealbreaker).

Thinks Sarah Palin is awesome.

Will not try new foods ie. ethnic dishes.

Gets paid by the day at his job site.

Acts/looks/talks like a frat boy.

Talks loudly in public or yells my name from across the room.

Is NOT well-endowed or reasonably so (not 12" or anything).

Has no real appreciation for the arts.

Makes fun of me or mocks me, especially in front of others.

Burps or farts on purpose in front of me.

Is short.

Is not kind to animals - does not have a pet.

Is not into self-improvement both emotionally and physically.

Uses a Ouija board, even for kicks.

Wears athletic shoes out to dinner or any time other than doing chores and/or working out.

Is obsessed with anal - once in a blue moon is fine, but not every day for fucks sake!!

Is not college educated.

Insists on going to all his ex-girlfriends' weddings no matter how long he dated them.

Is stingy with sex and/or affection.

Is lazy.

Has small hands or a fat bum.

 

So how's your dating life thus far

 

That drives me nuts.

 

I've managed to weed out most of those awful traits.
I am not looking for a mate right now because I am unemployed (not if you count a temp agency on and off for the past year)... I wouldn't want to date a man who worked for a temp agency so why should I expect anyone to want to date me?

I am not going to be seriously dating or looking to date until I get a few things sorted out, and HOPEFULLY not until I get my art exhibition together (in about a years' time).

I'd rather settle for nothing in the short term, than wind up saddled with less than I ultimately deserve.

 

And what do you deserve?

 

how about...let me axe you a question?....sends me over the edge...can not deal with it:smt074

 

I'll know him when I see him.

 

And the use of 'mines' to describe anything other than the holes in the ground from which coal is gathered.

lol

"That sammich is mines."

"That woman is mines."

Ugh.

 

:smt043too funny...

 

:smt081
Don't axe me if you can be mines before you've read some books at the liberry.

 

As of late I discovered I can't stand bitches who are overly opinionated, "I am the woman of the millennium" Miss Know it all gals. You go to cofee shop just to chill, boy oh boy, they talk your ears off.
Bitch, you got a bachleor of arts degree in liberal studies from college of last chance, come and philosophize and lecture me when you attend a good name school, fight with big dogs, go in hell thru grueling academics, compete at college level sports while you're going thru hell of family issues and dealing with primadonna Ex. Child please..........


Lol, may be this ought to be at the Fuck you thread, lol.

 

Wow, fits saintaugusta to a tee.

 

:smt043

 

Glad I wasn't the first one to say it this time. I'm often accused of running brawds like this off the forum.

 

I'm surprised you held back as much as you did! Her list was idiotic.