Go to http://www.whitewomenblackmen.com and click the chat link. It will auto-sign you in. I'm about to head out of it and get some sleep, it's a little after 10 PM in my timezone.
look at your tool bar...see site navigation...click...click on chat and it will take you there...it's happy hour right now...
Why isn't the Chatbox just at the top of the forum? Nobody goes because there's a separate link. I post on 2 sites where the Chatbox is at the top, because of that they are used all the time.