Keeping your friends close

Discussion in 'Conversations Between White Women and Black Men' started by stiletoes, Apr 30, 2011.

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  1. stiletoes

    stiletoes Well-Known Member

    Do you prefer to have a few close trusted friends or a wide variety of acquaintances?
     
    stiletoes, Apr 30, 2011
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  2. Be-you-tiful86

    Be-you-tiful86 Well-Known Member

    A couple of acquaintances isn't bad but it's always good to have someone who you are on a deep level with in regards to trust. I'm more an introvert and generally don't let too many people very close to me.
     
    Be-you-tiful86, Apr 30, 2011
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  3. FG

    FG Well-Known Member

    A few really good friends and a few acquaintanceships....
     
    FG, Apr 30, 2011
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  4. wtarshi

    wtarshi Well-Known Member

    i have around 7 or 8 extremely close friends and more than i can handle acquaintances. i often feel stretched thin and have guilt that i can't spend time with them all.
     
    wtarshi, Apr 30, 2011
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  5. Tamstrong

    Tamstrong Administrator Staff Member

    I have a few close friends & a few acquaintances, but I tend to be something of a loner a lot of the time.
     
    Tamstrong, Apr 30, 2011
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  6. curleyblonde

    curleyblonde New Member

    I am very similar Tamstrong,,, I have only a couple of really close friends that I confide everything to and then a few acquaintances... I don't necessarily like being an open book to all.
     
    curleyblonde, Apr 30, 2011
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  7. Tamstrong

    Tamstrong Administrator Staff Member

    Yeah, I don't get close to people too easily, but there are a couple of people I've actually let in, but the rest I keep at arms length. I definitely prefer it that way.
     
    Tamstrong, Apr 30, 2011
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  8. FG

    FG Well-Known Member

    co-sign that.. I mean Jaisee that!
     
    FG, Apr 30, 2011
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  9. curleyblonde

    curleyblonde New Member

    I Jaisee this also :D
     
    curleyblonde, Apr 30, 2011
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  10. Tamstrong

    Tamstrong Administrator Staff Member

    ;)
     
    Tamstrong, Apr 30, 2011
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  11. curleyblonde

    curleyblonde New Member

    Sadly enough I find it better to keep most people at arms length, maybe I feel safer that way as it is harder for them to effect me or hurt me in any shape or form.

    Maybe it is a defence mechanism.

    I am always open to be the person to confide in and I seem to be the go-to- girl when someone needs to vent, but you won't see me doing the same thing back. Unfortunately when I have confided in people they have failed me in the trust department more often then not. Hence why I now keep most people at arms length.
     
    curleyblonde, Apr 30, 2011
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  12. Tamstrong

    Tamstrong Administrator Staff Member

    I identify with this 100%. I'm definitely more comfortable being the one others come to (which they do quite often), but it's hard for me to trust others to do the same in return. It is a form of self-protection against being hurt or negatively effected & I keep people at a distance for that very reason. I've been burned too many times.
     
    Tamstrong, Apr 30, 2011
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  13. GFunk

    GFunk Well-Known Member

    A few are in my group of friends.
     
    GFunk, Apr 30, 2011
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  14. curleyblonde

    curleyblonde New Member

    I hear you Tamstrong.

    I am generally a very bubbly, happy and optimistic person all of the time. I don't like to surround myself with negativity and try to avoid negative people who are always down on life and see the bad things in everything far far far away from me if I can help it.;-)
     
    curleyblonde, Apr 30, 2011
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  15. Tamstrong

    Tamstrong Administrator Staff Member

    That's a good thing to be conscientious of...the negativity definitely tends to rub off & if one isn't careful, it's easy to become the type of person one would never want to be. I've been around it too much in my life & I have no desire to let it continue to drag me down.

    Keep up the good work, Curley. :smt023
     
    Tamstrong, Apr 30, 2011
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  16. stiletoes

    stiletoes Well-Known Member


    This exactly. I have 3 extremely close friends that I tend to do things with on a regular basis and who I confide in. I love most people, but the negative ones have to go. I also tend to go through phases where I love to go out and socialize, but then again, I have those times, like now where I prefer just to be more mellow.
     
    stiletoes, Apr 30, 2011
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  17. 11eleven11

    11eleven11 New Member

    Both!
     
    11eleven11, Apr 30, 2011
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  18. archangel

    archangel Well-Known Member

    I prefer a few close friends. Like my best friend.
     
    archangel, May 3, 2011
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  19. Nico

    Nico Banned

    I don't get the question. Who wouldn't want a trusted friend?
     
    Nico, May 3, 2011
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  20. mama

    mama Well-Known Member

    I only have a few close friends. I prefer to have people i WANT in my life rather than know a lot of people.
     
    mama, May 3, 2011
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