Politics of Love: Upcoming Black/Indian Romance Flick

It's beyond rare to see a middle eastern person dating outside of their culture.

 

I must admit a level of surprise that people here haven't experienced relationships with other "brown" people, and doubt that such relationships occur. As I reflected on why I seem to have such different experiences I wondered if it was a function of the age of the guys here, or exposure to other cultures. Like a lot of people on this site I have experienced relationships with people from many backgrounds, including WW, East Asians and Middle Easterners.

I have had many opportunities to engage women of other cultures as a result of educational pursuits, a culturally diverse circle of acquaintances, an innate interest in other cultures and travel. If we consider the increase in WWBM relationships, don't we believe that a significant aspect of this increase is based on increased contact with BM and exposure in workplaces and other areas? Doesn't this increase in contact allow WW to consider for themselves, outside of the stereotypes they may have heard, that BM may be eligible dating and marriage partners?

So, why should it be any different for other "brown" people to feel similarly, when given that opportunity, especially when these people are less affected by historical and generational racism against BM?

 

Same. Born and raised there.

Your experience are contrary to what a lot on here have experienced.

 

In academia it's not that rare, IMO. Postgrad, undergrad.
If you're some random trying to pull up on an Indian chick that can be a mixed bag, however.

2nd and 3rd generation Indians and Pakis in the U.S. have in many cases vastly different views on race and dating.

But if you're some busta thinking why isn't ol' girl digging my grille, expect to be dissed!!!:smt020

BTW, what the fuck is that movie about??

That trailer was like, HUH???

 

i think one of the reasons this seems so unlikely within the indian culture...no matter how immersed they become in american business and interaction...the commitment to their heritage seems unwavering...leaving outsiders out of the realm of possibility...the family structure means everything in indian culture...my friend is divorced which is very rare...she worries that her divorce will effect how her daughter is selected as well as if her son will be considered viable...fortunately she still have very strong family ties in dubai and pakistan with noble professions...her children no matter how americanized will only marry within their culture/religion...her daughter looks like she could be a prada model and i was very curious if she dated outside...she is now in university and does not date but has has several meetings with indian men...something really funny is many indian women look at indian men as potential...i have seen several before/after pics...this is what he looked like when i first met him...this is what he looks like now...women accept men based on family wealth...occupation...earning potential...the rest they will work with...i am completely fascinated by the culture and could listen for hours to my friend's family stories...

 

No culture is monolithic. While I respect your friendship with the with the Indian woman, it's no indication of the thoughts, practices and beliefs of other, or even most Asian women, whether they are Indian or Pakistani. I know of several Asian marriages where the women are physicians, the high earners in the family, so the wealth or earning power of their spouses was not important. Perhaps, you are also aware of the Indian woman politician, who's married to a WM, recently in the news because her "secondary lover" outed her. These are just anecdotes but they indicate that Asians are not much different than the rest of society. They are just as affected by changes in their culture and Western culture. You are correct about the incidence of divorce being lower in those communities, but it's rising. The formerly lower rate of divorce, IMO, is more a reflection of the social mores in a male dominated culture. However, just as this changed in the U.S, so it's changing in the Asian community and divorce is on the rise as women fight for equality in marriages and consider their own happiness.

Attempting to paint the culture with a stereotypical view is as wrong as those who make assumptions about any other races or cultures. To assume otherwise is no different than a white woman meeting a well endowed black man as her first black lover and assuming that all black men are so endowed. One belief is as untrue as the other...

I have the benefit of having experienced the good, bad and ugly or their cultures rather than a perspective filtered through one person who admittedly holds feelings of guilt for her life choices. It would be very easy for someone is her situation to "uplift" the entire culture as a counterbalance for her own misgivings. I have lived in those communities in a very intimate way, with several different people, and have a real life perspective on the cultures. That's what I attempted to share in an effort to provide a balanced view of the reality of the culture.

 

I think that you are correct.

 

i'm sorry if i gave you the wrong impression...my friend and all of her close friends are well educated holding high earning jobs...they drip in designer clothes and shoes...drive mercedes and bmw...live in enormous homes...their kids go to private schools...they travel often...

i do understand what you mean as far as stereotypes...my experience/knowledge is limited...look at how far bm/ww IR has come...this could also be the future of asian cultures...thanks for sharing your experiences...

 

I dated an Indian guy when I did my post-doc. 1st generation immigrant, doing his grad work in Houston. I cant be the only one here?

 

Hooked up with an Indian girl in hs who dated one of my boys. She's married to another Indian investment banker though.

 

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Excellent drop, BigBrotherWise.:smt024

People talk like BM/IW relationships are the 'pink unicorns' of male/female couplings!!lol

 

when does it come out. oh yeah...she is hot

 

They're rare, so people may get the impression it's mere fantasy. But I do know Indian women personally who would consider keeping an open mind, despite their parents attitudes. I was helping out a friend of mine today regarding a paper she has to do. She's from South India and very sweet with her smile and long for desire. I actually conversed with her a lot about stuff and one thing we both brought up was relationships and I boldly asked her if she found me attractive and would she consider dating me? Her response was a bit of a surprise. She said, "Yes." She finds me funny. But at the same time, she still see me as like a brotherly figure, but slowly leaving that part away.

 

I look forward of seeing this flick.

 

Other than the color scheme, I have no idea what this movie is about!!:smt076

 

The movie along with Mississippi Masala and Bhaji On The Beach mentions the relationship of Brothers and West Indian woman.

 

I meant the actual plot, I could have guessed a BM/IW relationship was central to the movie!!:smt102