Still living with your parents??

What age do you think that you shouldn't be living with Mommy and Daddy anymore for a Man and Woman? This should be interesting, since WWBM forum has ppl from different cultures, So the ages will vary.

 

I'm going to say 25/26. If the person is pursing a higher degree and can't work full time then maybe extend the age more. For instance my friend's brother is 24/25 but he's pursuing a JD( Law School), there are restrictions to how many hours you can work. So he really can't make enough money to live on his own.

 

You've got to view this, first:

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2011/04/15/jobs-graduates-work-full-time_n_849874.html

This is really scary. But I would say, once you are 19, you should be able to live on your own. This would work for more people if the economy was ok and educational costs were lower.

 

The young are screwed in America

 

I'm going to go with 30 excluding the exceptions. Anything lower than 25 is just unrealistic in this age unless you are out of college or university.

 

I'd say 18. I was 18, just out of high school and I never looked back. Hell my parents wanted me to stay another year with them but I told them "I need to become a man". So I made that 4 hour move to Atlanta the rest is history.I vowed never to go back home and live with my parents. IMO if you have a hustlers fortitude you can make it.

 

I have always thought of American kids as wanting their independence as soon as possible, and it's often encouraged. Most of the people growing up with me were out of the house after high school, some got jobs and got married right aways and others of us went on to pursue higher education. We typically graduated with degrees, started work and never moved back home, or continued our formal education and then went into the work force. So, I would say the age for men or women would be 25, with few exceptions.

I'm not sure about all of Europe, but I was surprised that my Spanish ex, when I met her, was still living at home in her late 20's, as well as her brother who was a couple of years younger. She told me that this was typical and that children usually lived with parents until they were ready for marriage.

 

I was out at 23 but to be honest I think you should live with your parents for as long as it takes for you to come up with a sizeable down payment for a condo or townhouse because its just smarter. If you have to pay rent why not to your parents to help them get rid of their mortgage quicker or if you have a mom like mine she'll save that money for you when you move out.

Independence is a cool idea but the one thing I notice from the wealthy they set their kids up with the best possible outcomes.

What's funny is I just asked this question on fb but I more focused on the fact that when bm live at home past a certain age they're mama's boys (which I proudly am) but when white men do it they're just trying to find themselves or figure things out. Anyone else notice this?

 

nope I didn't notice.
Any how I think your first paragraph was made of words of wisdom. You have to be able to finance the move. It is not logical to just move when you don't have the cash because of an age.

 

Exactly. Leave with the greatest chance for success. I know we hear these bottom up stories and think just perservance and hard work get you to success but most times its being smart enough to choose when to make move rather than being forced into it. Leaving home at 18 just because your 18 with no money and no skills makes absolutely no sense. I'm all for the hustle but hustle with a purpose and have a good plan. Any decent parent is gonna work that out with their kids.

 

They're called roommates. With them you only pay a small portion of bills (which can be afforded on minimum wage/part time work) without having to live with one's parents.

Roommates, however, don't do your laundry or cook you breakfast (generally), which makes it less desirable than one's parents.




I'd say it's time to move out once it becomes apparent that there are more excuses for the offspring to continue living at home than there are real reasons. There's no actual number because everyone is different. I moved out on my 18th birthday but had I legally been able to I would've left long before that. Had to move back in with my parents for a few months during my divorce, though I hated it because it felt like admitting defeat, but it wasn't cost effective to keep my two bedroom apartment for just me and my dog while I was trying to save up to move to Texas.

I still miss that place, though. It was the first time I actually lived -alone-, and it was -amazing-. My apartment was always clean because I was barely there and there weren't other assholes dirtying it up when I was gone

 

Moved out when I was eight.

 

I don't believe that kids should stay with their parents until their lives are "prefect". Don't we all need incentive to move on beyond the status quo? Often that takes the form a gentle nudge to test the waters and understand what it means to be an independent self sufficient adult.

I'm not saying that you should move out based on a number alone, but many kids won't ever acquire the skills for independence, because they don't want or can't deal with personal responsibility. Home ownership is a nice consideration, but it may not be the smartest thing now a days since homes don't provide the investment opportunities of the past.

You can have just as much of a chance at success by living in an apartment and trying to accomplish your dreams. Alternately, you can be a burden on your parents while indulging yourself in buying whatever "toys" you want and saving for that day, with no guarantee that you will reach that goal, or when.

This is just my opinion based on seeing parents struggle with children who lacked the motivation to make it on their own. For some children, it may not be true, but it is a reality that exists.

 

I don't know if there is a "correct" answer. In this type of economy people are doing lots of things that in years gone by they wouldn't have. I don't think as many students "go away" to school, to save on the expense of dorms and apartments. More are at home and going to college. The most imprtant thing is to do what it takes to succeed in the long run.

I left home at 17, graduated HS early and took the next step. I went away to college and lived in a dorm though, so not really "on my own". My dad who thought he knew all, installed me in the all girl dorm. It was the only girls dorm on campus that had two male dorms sharing facilities/cafeteria etc. Including one that was all upper classmen/ and the whole football team. So my dad was still trying to lay down the law from two hours away. He just didn't know he picked the best party dorm.

I would say if you are still in school then at the latest 25. If you graduated and have a job probably best to take off your diapers, cut the cord and get your own place.

 

I was out at 23, around 4-5 months after I landed my first 'real' job. American culture rewards independence, so it's common to see people try to leave the nest as early as possible. It's a show of responsibility and financial security.

But, other cultures are the total opposite. They have no problem with multiple generations living under the same roof. If I were able to, I probably would have stayed with my parents and went on med school or something. Living at home with low to no rent or board, allows you to focus on the 4 years of med school and the unpaid durations you go through while at hospitals (instead of worrying about where your next meal would come from, or paying rent). So, I would say live at home as long as you can, so you can maximize your potential.

 

WOW SOMEONE GETS IT

 

it's the truth

my mom when she was alive, always said that I could stay with her as long as I had a job or was in school. I would have probably had a little part-time gig somewhere, to help out at home, but I wouldn't be required to work FULL TIME, taking away those vital hours which could be spent studying or doing clinicals.

bottom line is to suck it up and just use it to your advantage. If your parents are willing to continue to provide for you well into your late 20s, you're FORTUNATE. absolutely nothing wrong with that.

 

Reading different responses I have to say maybe I'm old school. The thought of me at home with parents is shit! It's good if you want to live at home until you meet your potential but what if it doesn't happen? I dated a female that went right back home at 26 after her parents asked her to and her parents said she could live rent free, buying her a new car,watching her daughter while she worked and the entire time I just couldn't understand that shit. I felt uncomfortable going to her parents house just spend a night with their daughter knowing they probably could hear us having sex!!! I've told this story to a few people and they were like "WTF". Out the house at 18 for me taught me how to hustle,establish independence,build my credit, get all the partying out of my system without mommy and daddy telling me what to do. I even had a roommate once but that didn't work out. If I have kids 18 they need to make a move to college or have some sort of plan to work! But I'll still provide them with a small financial cushion as long as the money is being used wisely.

 

Again exactly! People graduating from the top of their class aren't usually the people holding down full time jobs trying to pay bills and rent. That shit takes away valuable study time.

 

This scenario is unrealistic as very very few people are in this situation, attending medical school. Typically, it's just a choice, supported by a sense of not wanting to venture out and do what everyone must do at some point, make it on your own.

For those few students who have the grades and sufficient MCAT scores, work is not a concern. The overwhelming majority of medical school students don't work, and even fewer work because they lack the money to buy food or accommodations. The students mostly have a combination of loans and financial support from parents for their educational and living expenses. The students live in dorms or in apts. and spend most of their time in class, study groups, or lab projects.

The only guaranteed way to maximize your chances for success are to take full responsibility for yourself, manage your life, and be diligent in your actions.