Who do you miss..

Sadly the fact that we have people here who see no problem with people who are clearly not in WW/BM relationships joining the forum and seem to welcome and encourage it.....any and all respect ,if there ever was any, for the forum can be pretty much said to be gone and never coming back.

 

That's what I don't understand. Not like we need policing, but the site has a premise and a purpose. There are millions of message boards to join if you just want to shoot the shit and look at pix.

 

Wow, it seems I have in fact been missing a great conversation over here while engaging in an 'over-spirited' discussion about definitions of black vs. white with someone I don't even know. You guys are right that there has been a lot of bickering lately, in my opinion unnecessarily so.

 

Now, now. We're insecure, paranoid, ignorant, closed minded or worse if we don't allow these good folks to take part and speak their mind here. After all, all we seem to do here is kiss each others asses and whine about the things we go through according to some folks.

 

And my apologies in advance to anyone on here if I have offended you in any way on the forum.

 

You haven't offended anyone. The discussion was an interesting one and there was a level of respect that remained. That's how discussions should be.

 

I don't mind the presence of people with different opinions about things, as long as they're here to be supportive of WWBM. Full stop. Beyond that, we can go back and forth, provided it's respectful. It is hard, however, to see why you would want to participate here if you're not in a WWBM relationship or at least want to be in one. I just had an interminable debate with a guy (I think) who objected to Mariah Carey being called 'black' because she wasn't solely black. I have had these kinds of arguments applied to my son because my ex and I were a WWBM Spanish/PR/African-American couple and it touched a raw nerve and I just got into it. After a few condescending comments I began to wonder why I would even continue, but I was pretty heated by that point.

 

There are a few of us who wonder the same thing on a daily basis. You are definitely not alone in your thinking.

 

@Inner Beauty

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LOL - Thanks for understanding!

 

Fact: If a child has one black parent and no matter if that child is accepted and is comfortable by both sides of the parents families, everyone outside that immediate family will view that child as Black. Talking from experience with my own two children and from pass experiences with people I have been friends with who are in B/W relationships.

 

My sentiments exactly. Then we went around and around about other groups of people who are not 100% black (Tuaregs, Latino mulattos, blah blah blah) and he objected to them not being considered as white and start attacking the one-drop rule (which I think everyone on the forum believes is BS) while I was only trying to acknowledge its existence whether we like it or not.

I got heated. When my ex and my son and I would go out in the midwest before relocating to Florida we had this kind of crap all the time.

 

LOL....

You should go into the Steve Nash thread and drop your 2 cents in....

 

My ex is from Spain and I'm African-American and Puerto Rican. We saw no problem but there were always racial absolutists (on both sides) trying to force the issue, from people calling my son 'white' for being pale and having wavy hair (as a child, which he isn't anymore) like this cat, to others trying to exclude him because he's half-black, which means, in the US...black. It got to the point where my ex would be telling people about the Moors in Spain to get them out of her face. Ridiculous to have a white woman having to give a history lesson to prove that she's got .000001% black blood somewhere along the way to not have to defend our wwbm relationship & marriage. That's why we packed it in and moved to Florida, where a wwbm relationship for us and being black and Spanish-speaking for my son is not some sort of contradiction.

 

OK.

 

I miss me, can I have me back?