The other side of the coin

Im a black woman who has dated black and white men since I was a teen and now just date white men. I have no negative feeling whatsoever seeing white women with black men. I have had black guys chase me since I was 13 so I dont think white women have taken anything away from me. However I was doing a search for IR forums and found this one and couldnt believe all the biased against black women and just the misconceptions. Yes black women have given white women a hard time about dating black men but I do think it has died down some in recent years because black women are use to it. Regardless there is another side to it and I think people should acknowledge both.

I read on here white women dont give black women a hard time for dating white men because white women are not threatened by black women. Well I gotta disagree there. Not only have I been hated on by white women when I date white guys but ww who date bm have ALWAYS felt threatened by me. Yes alot of bm like ww but alot of black men still like black women as well and more black men are gonna say Beyonce or Meagan Good is his ideal versus Olivia Munn or kate Beckinsale. You dont think a white girl is threatened by a GORGEOUS black woman? The type that black men love and one thats universally hot that all men like? Im not Meagan Good but I have modeled in the past and for a woman thats not a celebrity, Im very attractive. White women expect to be the center of attention even when they arent attractive and this is not reality. When I was in highschool I went out of my way to befriend the white girls that dated black guys but it got to the point one of them didnt even want me going out with them because all the black guys wanted me. Most white women who ive befriended that has had a black boyfriend, the black guy has tried to holla at me behind her back and make horrible remarks against white women. Im not jealous. I have a white boyfriend. Ive never felt white women were the enemy but its just not fair to act like black women are the only ones threatened.

Not all black women are like precious and those are the ones white women feel more comfortable with. The ones like me THEY CANT STAND. Women are threatened by women. As far as the white standard of beauty, I dont think its that way anymore. I dont think black women are the standard, im not in denial about that but I think its somewhere in between black and white. Most men of all races I ask their type of girl and they say EXOTIC. They like multiracial, they like mixed race latina and they like asian. If they do say white girls shes a brunette. I dont think Ive heard a guy say they liked blondes since the 90s. Honestly it is CHANGING. If anything black women are more threatened by biracial half black and latina women then your average white girl because thats what black men like. The black guys that white girls are dating dont tend to be black womens type anyway.

And how can you guys say bw/wm receive no flak? OMG I wish that were true. White girls are sly and sneaky about their disapproval but its there trust me. Its just white girls get away with it since they are often seen as "delicate" and innocent" but ask your average white man (which a big number prefer asian women anyway) and they dont think white women are all that feminine and delicate. Im not trying to be racist but I was SHOCKED by all the hate towards black women. It derives partially from jealousy. Ive received that jealousy from white women. Yes its there. Have my east indian and latina friends gotten more attention than me when we go out? YES. Have white women? NO. So I think its a load of bull that black women are just so threatened by white women. Even when I go to white establishments with my white friends, I get hit on by the white guys more because as a really hot black woman, I stand out and its something their not use to. White girls are not competition for the exceptionally hot black women but other minorites are.

When things are one way for so long they start going in another direction. Thats just the way life is. In the 80's it was all about Blondes and now its exotic and multiracial women. I just dont see any evidence that white girls are still the standard. Look how many white men love asian women and white men say the SAME EXACT THINGS about white women that black men do us. So why arent white women blamed for white men leaving? Black women are just blamed for everything. I dont think the black men who idealize the white standard of beauty on this site represent all or even most black men or even a good number of white men. And yes white women who date black men are VERY MUCH threatened. Why do they always stop and kiss in front of me? lmao I dont even care!!! Their men are never my type.

 

Thank you Veronica for your input and opinions. Duly noted.

To the rest of the forum members, let's not go there :smt009

 

Thank u!!!!

 

Although I find any woman threatened by another woman, regardless of skin color, laughable - I find the bolded portion particularly telling..

 

I agree with you FG. Why are all these kind of posts the same? If she's exceptionally hot (hey I used to model lingerie, but this is the first time anyone here has heard of it so big fat hairy deal), why is she writing biased, generalized clichés that we've all head a thousand times before? She should be exceptionally secure in herself, her sexuality and mate choices and simply let the stuff she says doesn't bother her, just slide......

I was tempted to tear the post apart, but it's so typical.

Anyways, Veronica, welcome to the forum.

 

Well to be fair and balanced I have to say I agree with most of her post. I have always felt the women who complain about bm dating ww aren't that attractive to begin with and wouldn't have a chance with the guys their bitching about anyway.
I also agree with the statement more often than not most bm find exotic women more attractive. Me and one of my boys are the only ones who date ww exclusively and interstingly enough he's engaged to a woman who's half white and half native american but for the rest of my friends its either mixed race latinas and one dude likes Asians exclusively.
Look at our music videos and the cover of king its usually exotic women with big booties so I have to give her that one.
As for bw not being threatened by ww that's just a gross over generalization. You might not be but that sure ain't the case with most bw. Even bw in "happy" relationships feel the need to comment on my dating preferences. As long as I've dated ww and been around white people no one has ever questioned why I date ww nor do they ever question any of my friends for their preferences as long as their hot.
Bw are understandably threatened by most women since they are the furthest away from the general conception of beauty which is slender bodies straighter hair and lighter skin. Yes there are exceptions but for the most part they're all painted with same unattractive brush here in the US.

Anyway welcome. Looking forward to more of your posts.

 

I reiterated this point in your "Bank on a man's potential ladies" thread you created. Because of the statement that I put in bold, do you think there will always be resentment over BM dating WW/women of other ethnicities because the BW that sees it doesn't think she's beautiful enough in comparison to everyone else?

I am hoping that there isn't too high of a percentage in the future of BW who are single because if they feel left out with getting into relationships successfully, then ultimately it's everyone's problem to worry about. :smt009

I'm not going to restrict myself only to dating BW because of that possibility either. I'm seeking a girl of any race, and if the girl I happen to come across is white, then so be it. Most likely, she is genuinely interested into me and I'm genuinely interested into her and that's what is most important. If the person doesn't look like you, she's not an alien, she's still female and a human being, and deserves to be treated as such.

 

Black people in this country need to change as a whole. We need to become more educated and healthy to become more appealing. The problem with many bw is they focus too much on their skin and not becoming more refined and working on their bodies. Obesity is especially a problem in the black community with dummies thinking "thick" is sexy. That shit is unhealthy and deadly miseducation. I rarely see bw in the gym or at whole foods but there never a shortage at fast food places. We have a lot of work to do but its doable.

 

I doubt they'd hit the gym and go there to train consistently for several years to lose weight and such. The WW that I see at the gyms don't run on the treadmills, but they use the eliptical machines (bikes) at least.

 

nothings died down, alot of bw are still giving bm shit for dating ww and they continue too dont act like alot of bw dont do it no more, it sounds like you want ww to be threatend by bw, women who feel threatend by another woman have their own problems, the fact is ww dont give wm as much shit as wm give ww for being with bm, sure bw with ww get their crap but its handed out more to b with ww, what you prob call hate is people speaking out about the hypocrisy from some bw when it comes to bm with ww

another hypocritical troll manufacturing its agenda against bm with ww

 

I don't know about you but I've definitely noticed bw not making a big stink about bm and ww as much as they use to. They don't just come up to me and ask me why I'm with gf anymore. People don't stare as much as they use to so there has been a change.

 

welcome to the forum...lippy is not threatened at all by hot black women being a hot white woman herself...i do think that my son will more than likely chose a bw so hopefully she will be a sweet as she is hot...
:smt061

 

:smt038

You spotted and exposed that bullshit with a quickness.

 

ive seen it too many times to believe its genuine, people like her come to websites like this for bm and ww and try and mask her complaints and stereotypes through some bs ass story, sorry but from the bw i have seen post here in older posts they only come here to, hate, make up stuff they want to see, lay down political correctness, not once have i seen a bw come here and show support or show something else postitive, hell there was even a wm here a few day ago who wanted to show support for bm with ww

 

LoL, here we go again...............

 

If the Black man White woman pairing is so minuscule to you,why take so much time out of your life to type all of that? This isn't the kind of behavior that's conducive to some of the claims you've made regarding yourself.

You need to live your life and not spend so much time focusing on a dumb issue such as some Bm's opinion of you.

Personally I know the white girls I get with are the best option for me. They show me love and make love to me better than you or any other black woman can,so why would I be concerned with Black women?

I dont bring them up and if they are brought up I try to change the topic.

I know there are Bw who say bad things about bm especially to their white boyfriends/husbands,you STILL wont see me on a Wm/Bw site debating it like you.

You can't fool me though,I know you feel inadequate when it comes to white women and I know you're insecure.

You can say what you want but I know how you really feel...

 

Tasty,your boyfriend is a very lucky guy,you're so beautiful and intelligent.

 

Good post Veronica.

Welcome to the board.

 

good post and so true especially this bit, there was even a bw who came back to a thread she started awhile back tryin to tell people how this forum should be and what should be said lol

 

thanks, he also showed me alot thnigs that i didnt notice before aswell