No ordinary love....

lippy is just doing some catching up...sonny, great to hear you met someone and followed through...hopefully you will be back to update us soon

i read this entire thread and the one thing that stuck out for me is that sonny is 23...what an incredibly mature guy to spend an entire year getting to know someone and still wanting to pursue the relationship even though she has 2 children...good for you sonny!

:smt023

 

That's not mature it just screams of desperation

 

HAHAHA!!

 

Lippy at least be woman enough to sign your neg reps lol.
The reason this screams of desperation is because the kid is in the prime of his life dedicating himself to a girl he has to
1. Travel to see
2. Has two small children that if he continues to date her will be responsible for some way.

Why lock yourself down that way at 23? Not to mention why the fuck are dating someone you need to take planes to see. It makes you financially responsible for the relationship and requires you to sacrafice more of your time so tell me how this is a win?
As for being 30 and never being a relationship that's false. I've never truly been in love but so what most people can say that whether they're in a relationship or not.

Its sad for me to see young dudes give up on themselves like that. I know he may not see it this way and others might disagree but a young man dating a girl who lives hundreds of miles away with two kids screams "I don't think I can do better".
And before anyone throws a tantrum about how insensative or fucked I am. If you don't want input then don't post it dummies.

 

What are you saying? You can only find love with people from you own neighborhood??

 

My mom thinks the same way too (would hypothetically agree with your statement), I somewhat disagree with her.

 

I'm saying at certain ages its easier to meet people. When you're in your younger 20s there are so many ways to meet people that you shouldn't have to fly out of state hundreds of miles especially one with 2 kids.

Truth be told this situation wouldn't be as bad to me if it were one or the other. Either she has two kids or she lives far away. The combination is what makes it seem so desperate to me.

 

What are you saying?? I think you caaaannnnnn find love in many places.

 

Yeah, perhaps. I edited my post. I would say the best I've gotten where I'm currently at was some glances from some WW who I haven't seen before, I'm not sure what they're conveying over when they do it.

 

Yeah but at 23 you have no idea what you're getting yourself into when you make decisions like this. Its just not smart.

 

listen mr. not so fantastic...i read the entire thread...you gave your redundant opinion over and over and over and over again in the previous pages...let me give you a little FYI...i didn't respond to any of your bullshit...sonny has been around much longer than you and for a 23 year old man his maturity level overshadows you 20 times over...i have heard all about how you fuck all the new interns at your accounting firm...you have stated numerous times that you have never had a relationship...so who is desperate? i'll give you three guesses and the first two don't count...YOU...you are desperate to put sonny down...what are you afraid he is taller than you? more handsome than you? what he actually spent a year getting to know someone and then went to visit her...how can that be a bad thing? even if it doesn't work out or didn't work out at least he has what it takes to follow through...most 23 year old guys don't even have the attention span for a long distance relationship that stretches out a year...i think you are looking back and realizing that you haven't made a connection with anyone and wondering how sonny did it at 23...

now i am going to go take my own advice and quit stalling and book that plane ticket today!

 

Then you travel to meet them in person. Just as Sonny did. MF you are such a hopeless romantic..

 

You know what I'll take a page from your optimistic book even though my head tells me different. I really hope it works out for him but one thing a lot of people regret about their youth was putting too much time into a situation they know wouldn't go anywhere.
Just my two cents.

 

I just want to point out to the hypocritical fucks that won't say anything to you about insulting me first that you started it.

Ummm what pages upon pages did you see replies from me. I said good luck on the first page and comment four more times after you loon.
And truthfully I hope Sonny is taller and better looking than me because that would make him one sexy ass dude if you're using me as a starting point. And I do hope he's more mature than I was at 23. I want him to make great decisions for himself but this particular choice doesn't illustrate that to me. Dating women with small kids is a lose for guys especially when they're young. Its pretty much fact. I'm a fairly secure person what others have or don't have don't make me jealous I got my shit to focus on.
I'm not going to try and change your mind because I know you're incapable but instead of insulting try to see things from my pov. I take the time to see yours but I can only conclude your bat shit crazy especially talking in the third person like that. Straight up weird. No one else will tell you but I pull no punches.
And fyi I never brag about my sexual relationships neither or in my personal life. Its tacky I really have nothing to prove. Who can't have sex when they want to?
Have a good evening fuck face.

 

I can say the same about you smart ass lol.
Let's be realistic relationships are hard enough and then add hundreds of miles and small children?
Good luck

 

Well for me, who ever the girl is who really likes me, I doubt I would be breaking up with her in the future.

I think that relationships depend largely on the person and whom that person is around.

 

Until I hear otherwise I'm not gonna believe they were sending ims and emails back and forth for a year until they made the mutual decision to see each other but alas I could be wrong it could be kissmet. Good for him and her. More so her because she's getting a hell of a deal.

 

Mike no offense but your whole relationship perspective is based on what you hope happens. You have experienced yet fam. You're 18 just have a good time. Focus on your studies those girls will be there when you turn 25. Be the best you can be so you can attract what you truly deserve.