So I say....

what people ?

 

Some white women who think saying that makes them more appealing to the black men and some black men who do the same

 

Ok. yeah that disturbs me that they look at another race as disgusting

 

Did not say, you said it

That was my way of supporting the highlighted parts of your comment ... You misunderstood me , no worries we are good, my friend. I say it again, I support your comment, abi na co-sign I go call am?

 

Mid 30s to 40s. I also think sex is important at every age. And of course everyone wants a partner that is attractive, but even my 23 year old son says he also wants someone to enjoy thigns outside the bedroom with and who can carry on a conversation.

 

Yeah because your son is gonna tell you everything huh lol

 

Interesting post. Are you trying to convince us or yourself?
I think many women have many important things to offer the world. And I don't think anyone said that women are inferior to men but for me as an individual most women only bring only cost. In every situation? No not at all but our social convention dictates us spending a lot more time and money on you than the other way around.
No one said that women shouldn't be acknowledged for what they bring to the table but female emotions erode honesty that make appreciation almost impossible since many men live their lives trying to avoid arguments.
Right now any emotional or cerebral stimulation a woman can give me is given to me from friends and family. In my opinion people are entirely too whimsical to appreciate anyone romantic in their life. We are a generation of bigger better more and easily replaced so with that knowledge I know that right now beyond the physical there's very little a woman can offer me.

 

That is very much true. All of what you said is very much on point. But, I'd like to argue that looks and appearance (if you are capable of sight) tend to be the first thing people judge. That's normal for attraction. From there, the physical attraction must mesh with the mental. If that first stage isn't left behind, then a relationship can grow incredibly unhealthy.

 

Of course he is not. However, we are close and he has shown in his choice of girlfriends that he likes a personality.

 

Nicely said Tam!!! I was a guy who did not believe in women because they always tried to get something out of me or never said FULL truths which hurt me when I found out the full truth. I was well off in my day and women I met tried to take advantage of that for personal gain.

I met a woman like who you described above. She is for one independent and has all those other qualities you describe and more. For me its actually a PLUS that she is also drop dead gorgeous. But I would still want her in my life if she was not because of her qualities.

So ... I totally agree with you on this one Tam!!!

I forgot to add that one woman even told me that she will stick by me because she knew I would be someone of importance one day. I told her to fuck off even thought she was a fine ass black woman.

 

I agree 100% ....but where is this reply coming from?

 

This post is such horseshit. Most people can't keep together under the best of conditions ie the American divorce rate. The true lasting love is family. People don't commonly divorce their flesh and blood.

 

Interesting pov Tam. But no one said they had to stay together to keep a family going. Romantic love brings out the absolute worst in people. Jealousy, greed, insecurity. I seriously don't get the appeal of the reality. The fantasy sounds cool but the reality doesn't seem to hold up.

 

Your oh so wrong, hun... you are merely focusing on the bad and completely ignoring the good. You are exceptionally negative..but I have no doubt that once you get that you can change your own behavior, you will see different results.. I have no doubt you will change your pov one day. Your a smart man, dont give in.

 

FG I'm 29 and I want to believe perspective comes with age. I want to believe this is just the shit you go through when you're young at some point you meet a good person that changes that but unfortunately my dating pool consists of people my own age who are all lost and trying to figure things out and when one is lost one doesn't make the best decisions. As a result of those decisions you're left with people all scared of getting hurt because they made poor decisions and now view all people the same. Sometimes we're all lucky enough to find a good person but rarely have the maturity to appreciate them so more than likely most take them for grantite. Fast forward a few years after a kid or two and a divorce you just have jaded people or people who've been through enough shit to recognize a decent person. Unfortunately those kind of women are a good decade away my friend. I'm getting use to the idea that outside of physical companionship there isn't much a woman can offer me right now. I'm not being negative just pragmatic.
FG you're a scientist as well and we talk data and analyze it. I can't help what the data shows me.

 

Problem is, your only analyzing half the data