Why You're Not Married

Switch genders in the above post and all hell would break loose

 

I don't think so, karma.

I don't think anyone has a problem with someone admitting that they've got limitations when it comes to kids and why... they'd have a bigger problem with it if someone said something horribly offensive about single mothers.

 

LOL you're not a man so you've never dealt with the rage, LOL. All of the above would indeed be considered "horribly offensive" to single mothers. Any suggestion they'd be any less desirable than a woman without kids would be "horribly offensive."

PC DISCLAIMER: NOT TO OFFEND ANY SINGLE MOMS ON THIS FORUM BUT THIS IS THE MENTALITY I HAVE FOUND IN GENERAL, OF COURSE THIS IS NOT MEANT TO INCLUDE ALL SINGLE MOTHERS ONLY SOME I HAVE COME ACROSS IN MY ONLINE LIFE.

 

I gotta say it adds to Ymra's point about single mothers not dating. I just don't see how it works out for the guy and how can you be an effective parent if you're not home all the time.
What kind of guy is cool having a gf who they can only have private time with every other weekend. The sacrafices required to date someone with kids doesn't seem worth it.
Its one thing to sacrafice for your own flesh and blood but to do it for someone elses doesn't seem fair. More power to the single moms because that shit sounds like tough work.

 

Fuck the disclaimer I've seen women on here get mad for that very thing. I don't get what it is about being woman that makes a lot of them think they're as desireable as ever no matter the circumstance. It doesn't always come across as confident sometimes its just dillusional.
People don't want to deal with other peoples kids on any level anymore. We have schools where teachers are scared to death to address kids who are being little assholes in class for fear of false allegations. We live in a world where kids have far more credibility than deserved. So I can imagine a dude dating or God forbid living with a woman who has kids its always you against the woman and her child. And there's nothing wrong with that its instinctual but I don't see what a man can hope to gain from the situation.

 

i agree. the man or woman involved with a single parent must be understanding and patient, and it's not for everyone. we also cannot forget that there are evenings once the kids are in bed where you can have private time with your partner, which in the scheme of things, if both adults are working during the day it would be the same even if no one had kids.

 

i agree that kids seem to have the power these days, but that really does come down to the parenting. it would appear that parents these days are forgetting to teach children manners and life skills which isn't doing their kids any good at all. it's definitely a generation of i want & i will get at the moment.

 

Well, considering the single moms that used to try to attach themselves to my best friend, I can't understand why more men aren't straight up saying 'STAY AWAY WOMAN!' Seriously. The majority of single moms are awesome women... with strength I admire down to the tips of my toes.. but there are those few that give the rest of them a bad name.

They deserve happiness as much as the next person- but it shouldn't offend them if someone doesn't want to be with them because they have kids. It just means that person isn't the person for them. It's simple.

This is true, MF, and I saw what Ymra was saying in that case...But it is a double-standard... the women are often the only ones taking care of the kids, so why should they suffer because of the jackass ex husband/bf who's out partying instead of owning up to his responsibilities as a parent?

I have always said that I admire the single moms who are doing what they can and trying to have a life for themselves and their kids.

 

lol...i don't do bitch well, but believe me when it comes to the people i love, i can be a bitch on wheels...!!!

the ex's gf is intimidated by me. i have gone out of my way to be friendly, but i guess the 13 year age gap amongst other things is a little daunting. as long as she's good to my children i have no problems with her at all.

 

I don't know where we went wrong. I get some people are assholes but the way the system is now is the kid is always right. Its like fear has completely eroded critical thought. You can't even spank kids anymore its down right ridiculous.

 

LOL...

You're rare then- and actually grown-up!! Way to go, Tarsh! I know so many women that are like 'IF THAT BITCH EVEN SAYS BOO TO MY KIDS, IT'S ON!' OK, really? She's gotta live with them, too, ya know... *grrr*

 

And that's why I am not a teacher anymore.

Another year of that and I'd have brought back the ruler.

 

Well its not always a guy shrugging off responsibilities its just custody usually works out in favor of the mother. Its such a tricky thing. I hope to avoid it like the plague lol.

 

i must admit that i've never agreed with spanking, but the way that i've got my kids, i just need to raise my voice or give them a look and they fall back into line

i agree. in the end it's not about me or my feelings, it's about the kids and what is best for them. my ex and i communicate and as long as she's not physically harming my kids or mentally scaring them, she should be able to direct them when necessary, and hopefully my ex has enough common sense to not let some psychopath into our children's lives.

 

Hahaha talk about painting men with a broad brush, irresponsible party animals, glad you responded to that post.

If we were talking about females I'd need a legal disclaimer and "some not all" in 7-point type. Oh wait, I wrote one. :smt043

 

from what i've read in other threads, it's men who would like to paint us with their broad brush :smt047

 

My brush isn't broad it's fine tipped :smt058

 

and i'm guessing it's a permanent marker as well :smt047

 

No- you're right. I'm speaking of the single mothers that I know.

I have had male friends who've wanted custody of the children and had a hell of a time getting it. The system is definitely skewed.

 

Married women actually have shorter life spans. Married men are the only ones that live longer.