Why You're Not Married

I was knocked on my ass after reading this part, which reflects to a T something similar I said on this board a few weeks ago.

The rest:

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/tracy-mcmillan/why-youre-not-married_b_822088.html

 

BS...I was married 20 years...shallow has piss all to do with it............

 

Hmm, definitely a more reflexive statement than a reflective one. Anyway, thoughts on the rest?

 

Marriage is simply an institution popularized by religion that has long since run its useful course in history.

 

Reflective, I guess too. She reached deep within and reflected on her past choices and failed relationships, I think. Sometimes, what gets my goat is when people let the good man, or woman pass them by because of social pressures, and the need to conform.There are so many good people out there, but somehow we are so regulated by other forces that we are willfully blind.

The Cinderella story for women, in my native country, the novels and stories from the staple of Mills and Boon had every girl wishing and desiring in her future, a prince charming, someone that would sweep her of her feet. Yet, life is a practical story : it unfolds and and expands with mixed fortunes of happiness and tragedies. Unfortunately, and willfully some resort to self help, and would wish the impossibility of fiction to reality.The idea of perception,where I feel, becomes therefore I see seems appropriate here.

Life is like a box of chocolates, it runs its course, as your life cycle runs its biological course. For those that understand markets ...value places a role in how humans perceive things, and societal trends determine and imagine value to life. Unfortunately, character is intrinsic, it comes without designer labels, it is boring and serious minded. Yet, folks go for bright lights and the image advertisers and illustrators use to frame lifestyles on TV and Cable.

Welcome to the dysnified world of graphics, allure, sex and consumer items. Everyone becomes a product packaged for the market. Everyone has to be measured on the criteria of "hangers" on the catwalk, or the stretched muscle machine by purchasers/buyers. The images and the graphics can be bewitching and misleading have duped people to misread reality.

Maybe for the writer, motherhood set her straight. Seeing her child grow up and seeing his needs, she starts to understand men in their simple form. Maybe then, she was able to reflect on her past and in that moment, she got it, I mean she understood it.

I think most folks want normal partners. Yes, they have to be decent looking, and yes, they have to have manners, and yes, as the challenges of life arrive, they need to be there fighting and surmounting them together, and like the rock, they should be rock-steady.

 

My views are similar but that opinion means nothing to someone who wants a ring.

 

More people should marry for practical reasons than do, IMO.
The practical reasons are the ones that will keep the marriage going.
If a person's height, eye color, amount of hair on their head or having knowledge of some obscure and/or useless piece of trivia enter into the equation, then you really have no business getting married.

 

Agreed.
Strangely enough, even the people who are or want to be married already know this. Ive had those urges at times myself and id be best suited to try and figure out where those urges stem from.

 

The false sense of security of marriage, is what appeals to most I think.
A false declaration of forever is not secure, that's where it comes un-stuck.

 

Yep. I also think its a symbol of progression in life. Especially for women.

 

I f you marry make sure you have a pre-nup broke or not

 

The "false sense of security" as you call it comes from people getting married that shouldn't. People that quickly divorce or that constantly complain about their marriages invariably got married for the wrong reasons or put little thought into marriage means and how to make theirs work.

Marriage allows you to:

1) Earn more money
2) Save more
3) Live longer
4) Live relatively happier lives.

These positive benefits alone should marriage more attractive to people than living alone. But marriage still requires that both parties put in the necessary work to keep it going.

No...I'm not married myself.

 

Can you explain #4?

 

I've been thinking about that lately and I think I'm running out of excuses lol.
At this point I just want a woman who can get me hard give me space when I need it and who doesn't expect me to carry her financially.
And we have to have at least one common interest outside of sex I don't care if its Family Feud but just one thing we can enjoy together and we're golden.

 

Family feud and a handjob :lol:

 

What more can a man ask for lol

 

You fellas are easy to please.

 

fellas?

 

Men/dudes/blokes

 

Easy to please, yes. But nothing seems to ever come that easy.