Are you trying to get into my pants?

da da da ...exactly

 

u full of steriotipes

 

See in africa there is a somewhat sexual repression here and there is this notion that women dont go up to a guy and tell him he is fine and women do not initiate sex and many other stuff. This is what i grew up hearing and it didnt help that my first porn was interracial (german uctually) And our mothers and older people always said son never marry a white woman they are too sexually aggressive so i hope you understand where i am coming from and as i said it was crap so dont be mad mama .Can i have a kiss on the cheek? I am not agreeing with that notion.

 

I understand what you mean about the sexual repression but it's not Africa as a whole. Appiah you know though that In some countries you will find a man can marry a white woman with ease as compared to some places in the west of africa. I don't want to give myself away here.

 

*claps hands*

 

I'll respond like this, "We just like to cum home."

 

oooh, now i understand... lol!
but hey, can't i just grind my ass on a fine guy and just not want to have sex with him THAT night... but... let's say... after he asked me to marry him? LMAO

 

LOL...

 

LOL sure if he can control himself :wink:

 

Dancing, sometimes is mean't as a titillating tease.

And sometimes, it is another way people select partners on mutual compatibility and interests. If I love the way you dance, you might just spark a desire and make me pay attention more to you and the vibes you give and ooze out.

I think unknowingly when people dance they let loose, and are expressing normally repressed desires, unregulated, and this happens in a physical manner, and according to the rhythm in their souls.

The mood is important, its context frees people up, to chart unaccustomed waters. It is a bit disrespectful, in my opinion, to take 'advantage' of a white American woman in Ghana in such a blatant fashion.

As a host, and a native of that country, you want to make sure she enjoys herself, and if somehow you click which happens, then sex can happen, not coerced, or forced. Sexual feelings can proceed spontaneously when you both catch the fever, then you can say it is natural.

 

:smt023

Well stated and excellent sentiments bro.

 

My African brother are you serious?? Disrespectful?? I was dancing with her and keeping a decent distance then they started playing a song she really liked the she turned around and started bumping and grinding and little by little her ass touched my crotch and she stayed there and was gyrating. Now how the hell does a red blooded heterosexual male not have wood when that happens bro? She was very suggestive when we sat down after the dance and ask me what was that she felt when she was bumping and grinding among other sexually suggestive talking. To cut a long story short she said she didn't want to come off as a sleazy sex tourist hence her refusal on that first day , we have met 3 times already and we will be clubbing again trust me this time she wont say no that's all i can say

 

may I offer a suggestion? answer the question with a question such as: "what do you think..." or maybe smile knowingly & jokingly say "of course not, I'm saving myself for marriage.." any way, humor is sometimes a good option...

 

pardon my assumptions ...typed to early... LOL

seems she is saving some goodies for you then .. At this rate after the "show' she might relocate to Ghana. She might have wanted to be courted slow and steadily while hoping soldier man would part her thighs finally ..but her body spoke way to early...don't mind her it happens ..."body no be wood, my broda"

 

That's certainly PART of what I want...but certainly not ALL that I want.
Just like most women aren't "gold diggers" most men aren't dogs.

 

You came late to the party ...humour can't save this ...the levee already broke

 

seems my Ghanian brother has everything under control...let us wait till he keeps us posted on further developments

 

true; suggestions for, possibly, next time :smt102

 

I'm sorry, when I read this Eddie Murphy and "Coming to America" popped into my head. I heard the accent and everything.

Man she was just trying to play games. If a woman wants to fuck you, you being up front (as long as you are not rude) is not going to make her NOT want to fuck you. That's just silly.

Most grown, ass, women, KNOW. They want to be respected of course, but they also want men to be men. The chick you are talking about was just some tourist who didn't have enough alcohol to break down her inhibitions.

 

Yeah, I called it like you. She's just some immature chick, either because she seriously didn't know (and I doubt that), or she did know but was feeling lame so wanted to be told so she could feel good about being wanted then reject you (complicated but common with insecure types, most likely).