Anyone else refuse to date?

Lol carry on sir. But I will say this I'm way more concerned with their money habits. Like my grandma always said its not about what you earn but what you say and my dad's updated version "its about what you invest". So a lawyer with bad credit and nothing in savings ain't gonna cut for me either.
My grandma was a cna and probably never earned more than 30 grand a year in her whole life but was smart enough to buy a multifamily home and rent out rooms to other Jamaican immigrants and buy two other rental properties in Florida. Her net worth was close to a million when she died. So financial smarts are way important in my book.

 

Lets not forget the jewish kid who stole the idea of face book and made that site, lol

 

We agree.

Seems like you all want to be the first to "you can't say all" me to fucking death and "I know a person who" until I "shart" my small intestine out.

....and you can "A lawyer with bad credit" as many times as you want. MOST Americans do not have "financial" smarts and the ones without a formal secondary education know even less.

Again, one makes choices that will increase the likelihood of success, and while Walt Disney (seriously???) did not attend college, how many Walt Disney's do we have? I care more about a woman's financial position then I career about her education and the fact of the matter is that those with higher education have a better financial station.

...that little bit about "love" being a factor comes later.

 

Thanks, Tam. It is imortant to stay true to myself. I just don't understand why guys bust other guys' chops for it. Hell, even females are like that too. I just don't understand what's so bad about being single and/or a virgin.

 

Prince, I'm in the same boat you're in. I'm single and a virgin also. You'll be bound to find the "correct" girl soon, just like anyone else. Then it wouldn't matter what race the girl is (ie. if she's white), date who you genuinely feel happy and connected with because that's the greatest thing that matters beyond what someone else believes.

I can honestly say for myself, if my parents weren't so racially sensitive about who I'd chose to date, I probably would have had sex with at least one or two white girls by now already without any issues. Unfortunately, they think it's ideal if I'm dating within my own union (black male/black female). It's difficult to get this kind of relationship going for a variety of reasons.

 

1. Take your own advice
2. Your signature is a little creepy, especially considering your situation

 

lol :smt021 STOP! ha ha ha

 

I know that, I do take my own advice, I'm still under my parents` wing right now, if you know what I mean. If slavery didn't exist in the past, then it would be a lot simpler now to do what you'd like. No one would be complaining about anything and that's the problem. It's easier for black women to date white men, but it's more difficult for black men (in particular) to date outside their race (any race). I'm just trying to figure out why that is.

Edit: Fixed the signature.

 

wait..........what?!?!?!

 

I actually agree with his statement. There's rarely ever any criticism when a black woman dates a white man.

 

You alone hold the keys to the shackles that you currently wear.

 

I'm quoting this ya dig.

 

There is actually evidence that states the "white male/black female relationship is actually more stable than the "white male/white female" relationship. There are many different reasons why this could be the case, so I don't think it would matter if I explained my reasons.

A professor wrote a book about it and makes money off of every sale, perhaps we should buy it one day.

http://www.northwestern.edu/newscenter/stories/2009/11/judice.html

Also, I just found this site (specifically for inter racial dating). Prince should sign up for this site, create an account, wait a few days and see what happens. The site also appears to be legit, you can create an account for free and their copyright data shows they've been on the internet since 2001.

http://www.interracialmatch.com/?tid=af5054871

 

I think it far more acceptable for a black man to date a white woman than vice versa. Far more...not only far more acceptable, but far more common.

 

Not quite. A white man dating a black woman receives less flack, not so much for its rarity, but the pairing still instills a certain form of "traditional dominance". While it's true that black men with white women are heavily more common, it's still considered more controversial and less accepted due to the stereotypes that follows altogether. To further elaborate, if it's a white man with any interracial pairing, it's more accepted and thus receive less controversy. Black man with any interracial pairing...normally equates to being problematic. While we have gotten better in terms of acceptance and relations, we still have a long way to go.

 

I actually don't see where this "flack" is coming from. I've only ever been married to non-black women and while I'm not going to hit you with the "I know plenty of people who...." WWBM common reply, I can tell you that in my own limited experience I've not caught "flack" My best friend who is "Indian" and married to a black women...now she does catch all kinds of hell. I can turn on the TV, see a movie, look at an advertisement and see black males, and white women. Flack not observed...

....WW and BM has all but made it mainstream, yet we still want to hold on to our victim status. And you will find more real life examples of black men and white women through history, and accepted than the contrary.

 

To respond to your friend who happens to be Indian, being married to a black woman...it's pretty much expected if we're talking family relations. Regarding society, the flack is there, but still less. The key things to point out are adjective (ethnic identity) and noun (sex/gender of that person). And I explicitly pointed out white men with black women, not Indian men with black women as an example. The reactions will not be the same, seeing that societal "rule" is still favored towards a white male. So that there would be less vitriolic.

 

I think you are wrong, without even attempting to word fuck you in return. ( am impressed however).

ehem...I digress

here is a tinge of reality as I have already submitted. Black man and
white woman is far more accepted than the contrary. More accepted by our foundation culture, more accepted by our popular culture (can you image Beyonce marrying a white dude) more accepted by history, and more accepted by the main stream American mindset as a whole....

...regardless of the flack.

...to admit that removes a morsel or victimization, and we just can't have that.

 

Dude your dead wrong on thinking that black men and white women coupling don't get flack. It's still very taboo. WM dating/marrying AW is by far the largest group of interracial coupling yet BM/WW is the face of the taboo. Asian women are never asked why they like white men(as seen on years of talk shows with the topic IR dating)
BM and WW are always asked to justify their attraction to one another, to give reasons more than just fetishism.
You might not have experienced any difficulty dating ww or any non black woman but a lot of bm have war stories of dealing with the racism they recieve from the family's of the ww they date.
BW rarely if ever recieve any public criticism for who they date, there's never an inquiry as to why they like any non black because as far as society is concerned anything is better than us no good uneducated always imprisoned bm.
Btw that was a good attempt at not referencing "people you know" lol