Anyone else refuse to date?

It's vital that you continue your education ad leave everything else be. You're doing the right thing by discontinuing any measures of companionship for the time being because you need to focus on YOU and only YOU. For some guys, they can't feel superior to a woman if they are making more money. So it's that standard fare internal struggle involving themselves wanting to retain an advantage. It's morbidly sad.

As for me, I'm on and off considering dating (been almost four years since I last dated), however I'm setting myself a time frame and limit. While I'm focusing on my education now and keeping myself afloat, I'll "keep an eye" out for anyone who's interested in dating. But once I reach 30 years old, I'm cutting myself off the market for good and enjoy the single life. At that point, I'll enjoy life without the need of a companion. And it's pretty much needed nowadays.

 

No,no,no. It's spit the beans. (lol. That phrase will be forever etched in my mind.)

 

That's true in the DC area. But when I go to the Midwest, where I grew up, I've often gotten the same reaction that DB has gotten. I never "flaunted" my (BA) degree either. I even learned to avoid the subject because of some of the reactions I'd get.

 

Ok, I've said my piece. Good luck with your program

 

Possibly you can explain why it is so difficult for you to find someone within your college/university?

It sounds as if you are leaving out certain parts why you are not intertwining with the right people.

Cheers!

 

You must spread some rep around before giving it to Mr. Fanstastic. Great post

 

All you peeps are trying too hard. Soon as you quit caring, they will all come running.

 

Dating is very meh.........
Ive noticed when I'm not dating anyone then no one likes me, but at soon as I start dating someone thats when every girl and their mother comes out the woodwork talking about "how much they liked me" etc. In my personal experiene when I dont give a shit, I tend to have my best results.

 

Veema, I'm glad I'm not alone in this. I rarely talk about my education unless I'm asked.

Sir Nose- generally you and I are cool...but, I'm feeling a little attacked right now to be honest with you. What's your problem with what I've said, exactly?

Why is it so wrong for me to discuss my educational plans, when asked, when it's something I'm passionate about? Why is OK for a man to respond 'Those degrees are stupid...besides, you're just going to have kids anyway, what a waste!'? Maybe I'm misreading what you're getting at, and maybe you're misunderstanding me- or both.

Complex, because I work full-time and am working on getting my degree online. You don't meet people that way. I do local theatre, which is how I end up meeting people...and occasionally I meet people through other friends and work. It varies.

And why did this turn into a 'jump on DB' thread?

BTW..Drae, thank you. I forgot to quote you and respond, but I appreciate what you said. You gotta know your limitations and what's important to you.

 

I know what you're talking about, we had a convo about that. The fact is that I think it's a vicious circle. You talk to more people because you feel that none of them are investing in getting to know you so u try to feel the ground and see if those who are "potential" dates can become more, thing that personally never happened to me.

aw, this guy looks like he needs a men's night. Would u guys take him out?

Honestly, men are the same everywhere, black or white, italian or american. Boooo

That's ridiculous. Do women ask you if you have a degree before talking to you? I know tons of people with a degree that can't even spell correct english, and people, like you, who might not have a degree but are people full fo resources. Ideally a man with some culture is better, but a degree doesn't make the culture.

 

I agree with you but whether we like it or not, a lot of people equate formal education with brains.

 

Dont give up on what you really want in life DB!!! I was like you and had the exact same emotions. So I dedicated my life to the army where I could distract myself. I thought I would never meet HER. The woman who would make me feel like a trustworthy relationship was possible and without any red tape. I totally gave up on finding love, truth, faith, honesty, and someone who accepts me for who I am.

In the middle of a war zone in 2007 I found HER online. To this day we are still together even though its a long distance relationship and we dont get to see each other often.

Point is... YOU NEVER KNOW!!! Dont give up and think that such a person does not exist for YOU. The world is a huge place. I believe that there is someone out there for everyone's personal preferences. The problem is .... WHERE THE HECK ARE THEY, especially when you want them most???

I was lucky to find HER. I hope that you will find HIM!!!

Last... NEVER GIVE UP ON YOUR DREAMS GIRL!!! DONT DO IT!!! I MADE THAT MISTAKE WHEN I GAVE UP ON MY DREAM BECAUSE OF LEGAL PROBLEMS. SOME OTHER COMPANY IN CA HAD THE SAME NAME AS MINE IN NY. I LOST MY COMPANY NAME AND MY COMPANY BECAUSE OF SCREWUPS I DID WHICH GOT THE IRS INVOLVED. I DID NOT FOLLOW THROUGH WITH MY DREAM TO THE FULLEST AND IT COSTED ME LOTS!!!

So FIRST follow through with your dreams to the fullest!!! That should come first before any relationship in my opinion. Go for it and dont do a half ass job like I did okay?

 

Thanks, jay. Means a lot.

 

Which is normally horseshit but I think for women asking that question they assume it means the guy is employable but this economy is dictating otherwise.
There's a bunch of educated mofos working at Dunkin Donuts these days. Shit the only reason I have any kind of job right now is because I was a chess nerd as a kid.
So education sometimes doesn't mean shit.

 

Although you have a full-time job, you have more freedom to things than others that have children.

If you fall into the category of those who have families that work, go home and, be in bed by a certain time, you are limiting yourself from meeting other people.

Maybe it is time to be a little more spontaneous and not so regimented. Have you considered investigating where others meet that is pursing and/or practicing your field and do a little networking? Not only will you meet the right people, it will give you the connections to get a job once you graduate.


Cheers!

 

Quoted for truth. A degree means shit these days, everyone's got one.. and you certainly don't have to be intelligent to get one!! Smdh...

I graduated with some of the dumbest people, and the thought that those people are now employed teachers... that's terrifying.

Anyone who considered you less intelligent for not having a degree must be a simpleton themselves. Your intelligence and smarts are plainly obvious from an initial conversation with you...

 

I was speaking generally but thank u

 

I quit looking. I'm looking for them to fall from the sky.

 

It's sad how society has been programmed to believe that a degree = brains.

And if you have a degree, the people who don't feel inferior to you. I had that happen to me. The fireman I dated asked me a lot at the beginning if it bothered me that he didn't have a degree. Why would it bother me? I don't care about that stuff. I know more than enough people who don't have degrees that are just as smart, if not smarter, than many people with degrees.

And just because you have a degree, doesn't mean you're automatically smarter than the ones that don't.