Anyone else refuse to date?

And that's cool. Some people will get pissed off about it. If you say "I don't date a woman with children" they come back "Oh what's wrong with women with children." Nothing, I just don't want what comes with it. Just like if a man said "I'm not attracted to big women" now the big women get offended.

people will accept your preference as long as it doesn't exclude them. LOL

 

Sad, but very true.

 

Damn Ymra don't hurt em with too much logic kid lol

 

You're in a good place, methinks.

 

Tu eres muy inteligente :smt052

 

Obrigado, minha amiga.

 

I don't know, I don't refuse to date, I'm just disappointed by men. My last dates have been with ridiculous people so if it has to be like that I prefere not to be dating. I can't find one interesting man that has more in his head than sports and some other irrelevant stuff.

 

Fuck dating!!
Burn your ex's pictures once it's over too..got damnit!! No need to hold onto that shit!! URGGGGHHHH:smt093:smt093:smt093:smt093:smt093:smt093:smt093:smt093:

 

I keep telling you America is waiting. All you'll get in Italy is Army guys and African immigrants. Plus we like curvy girls here. Yum

 

That's my dream man.

 

haha aw hell no, now you really have to spill the beans.

 

EEEKKK!!! poor you

 

I'm pretty tired of dating, too.

I think I've just gotten to the point where I simply don't believe in romance. I don't believe in love. I don't believe in soul mates.

I used to, though.

Everyone always says I'm too young to give up, but really, what's the point? I haven't had many relationships in my life... and the ones I had weren't great. And with my one ex I felt like I had finally found a partner, and then he just disappears leaving a note on my car and I find out he got some other girl pregnant at the same time that he was talking marriage with me.

What's left to believe in at this point?

And, I won't date a man with kids. Absolutely not. I've tried it, because I was told I was being unfair....but it's definitely not for me. Unfortunately, that pretty much cancels out the majority of the dating pool around here... and that's pretty sad for someone who's 28 years old.

Not to mention, people are usually threatened by me because of my education. I'm about to finish my Master's, and then I'm going on to a PhD. I don't require that the man I date have a college degree, just that he be able to carry on a conversation about the world and current events and is passionate about something. I had one guy tell me there was no point in my finishing my M.A. or getting a PhD because he'd rather I was home, barefoot and pregnant- and when would I get to use ridiculous degrees like that if I was home?

....Yeah. I am not the barefoot and pregnant type, as you guys know from my 'Child free' post.

Anyway...when did it get so hard to find a man who DOESN'T want children?! WTF?! And one who is honest, trustworthy, funny, friendly, appreciates the things I do, even if he isn't in love with them...and who will let me be a part of his life (as one ex said 'true partnerships only exist in the movies'- I don't believe that shit for a second. That's what I want- or wanted, really. I wanted a partner, a friend..a lover.)....I dunno. In theory it didn't seem so difficult. In practice? Whole other story.

I took myself off the market because I just don't have it in me. I've had my heart broken so many times that I don't think I can take it again. I'd rather be alone with my dogs than have someone hurt me again.

 

Be honest DB, do you really believe that in this day and age people are intimated by a bachelors degree? Not at all uncommon, even in buffalo.
Surely it's some other reason.

 

No..the issue is being almost done with my Master's degree when most guys around here don't even have a Bachelor's.

And when they hear I'm going for my PhD next, I get a hard time about it. Like 'Oh, you're going to be some big fancy Executive, right? Why do you wanna do that? Don't you want kids? Don't you want to stay home and be a mom? Why can't you just stop at the Master's and stop making the rest of us look bad?'

It's like..really? I get a hard time because I've got ambitions and dreams- I never demand anyone have a college degree. I'm doing it because I want to and because I enjoy learning.

 

Oi

Almost? What does that mean? And at this point a ph d is simply a goal. With all due respect, talking a lot about degrees that you don't have could be the part that some find off-putting.

 

Its hard to run into women without a degree where i live. Honestly, the pressure is on the guy without a degree, not the woman with one.

 

Having dreams and goals in life is important DB. I think it's great that you are so ambitious! Make the best out of your potential and dont let people talk you out of something you want and can reach.

 

I'm have conditional acceptance into my PhD program providing I graduate from my Master's program in June. And it's generally something that comes up in conversation....

People ask me what I'm doing and I say 'Oh, I'm in grad school.'...and they ask for what, and I tell them, and I usually get 'What do you plan to do with that?' at which point I say 'Well, I'm planning to get a PhD in x, and that with the Master's will help me do X and X. It's something I'm really excited about. What about you? What are you into?'

 

Damn kid its like you just plucked these thoughts out of my head lol.
Truthfully I think people like us just feel weather worn from all the ups and downs and it doesn't make it easier when you see your peers falling in love and getting married.
I'm going to five weddings this year three of which I'm in and it does become a little tiresome to see and hear people talk about finding their one when I can rarely make it past date two. At one point I tried Eharmony and they said I couldn't be matched which can make one feel a little damaged or at the very least tailor made to be alone.
But the awesome thing about life and love in general is all it takes is one person to shift your perception about the whole ordeal and I think being single at this point in our lives is just life's way of saying you're not ready yet.
For me personally as much as I get annoyed sometimes I know I'm not ready. I have just recently admitted what I am most passionate about and it has very little to do with money(surprise suprise right lol) and I need to feel successful at that first before I can let someone totally in. I'm beginning to see people who truly want to be in your life won't be detered by occupation or levels of education because they can truly see you.
Everything that you feel insecure about doesn't exist to them because its not a competition its not about being the best. Its about being your best and finding peace within yourself so that you bring peace and love to those around you.
So as bleek as it may seem from time to time just know that you're worth loving you're worth adoring and you're worth appreciating. Just remember to love yourself, adore yourself, and appreciate yourself everyday so others can follow your example.