Child Free by choice?

You ladies fascinate me.

 

Marriage and kids are definitetly NOT for me. I have absolutely no aspirations to be a father. Never had. I really don't see myself changing my mind at all. I guess you can say I'm selfish or that I will change my mind in the future. I disagree. Frankly, I get really tired of people saying that. I value my personal space very much, I don't connect well with people as it is, and I don't have the patience to have a child. I don't hate kids. I like kids(sometimes) and sometimes I get along with them, but to be around them all the time, especially on a daily basis, no thanks.

If I did have a kid than I would make a lousy parent anyhow. I'm screwed up. I alot of issues, but who doesn't. I will make no apologies for not wanting to have kids.

 

If someone were to describe you as selfish for NOT wanting children, they would have to be remarkably short sighted. Knowing yourself well enough to realize that children are not for you is enlightened, not selfish. There is no need to apologize for choosing to live life without children, it's simply another option for our time on earth. Celebrate your life and LIVE it baby!

 

Thanks Athena. I just don't know why some people pressure other people to have children. They are short sighted. There is absolutely nothing wrong with not wanting to have kids. I'm going to live my life the way I see fit. I like to think I'm doing a public service by not wanting to reproduce. People should be thanking me.

 

You are doing a service, actually. Overpopulation is a big problem, and apparently we reproduce like rabbits.

Besides, I like it when people choose not to have kids. I think that's way better than being a bad parent. Having kids shouldn't be a requirement. I want em, but that's my own personal choice. I don't see any need to judge.

So hey, thanks for not reproducing.

 

I loved what you said here...every single word of it. Rep!

 

Aww, thank you for the rep.

You got exactly what I was thinking, too. I had originally typed out a bunch of stuff about abuse, etc, but then I changed it before I posted because I didn't want it to appear like I was insinuating people who choose not to have kids would have abused them...cause that's not what I think at all.

However, if some good for nothing, shit-stains masquerading as people would use contraceptives more then a lot of children -would- be spared terrible, miserable lives. Not just for the duration of their childhood (if they are even able to survive that) but by the time they're adults they're pretty well fucked for life.

But people don't always make good choices. Case in point...the amount of children a person tends to have is directly associated with their level of education. The less education, the more children a person tends to have. Now, this could be due to a lot of prime reproductive years being spent in school...but I don't think so. In two neighboring states in India they tried two different methods to curb the population growth. One state was given forced contraception. The other, education.

Guess which one worked? It wasn't the contraceptive state.

I'll put up links if I find any later. The subject was a part of a lecture a few weeks ago in Environmental Science class. It was really interesting, though.

Our professor even went on to mention that after a while the quality of life changed drastically between the two states that started out on equal footing. The one with more education (and in turn, less children) saw a higher quality of life. She said that now the state has more money and a lot more college educated professionals, where the other state still has major issues with poverty and the birth rate is about the same, or has gotten higher.

It doesn't mean someone is dumb to have children, or have lots of them. That's a personal choice. However, the longer someone goes to school the lower amount of children they tend to have...so it kinda makes sense.

 

I got 99 problems but a little bastard kid aint one.

 

really good stuff!!!