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Discussion in 'Conversations Between White Women and Black Men' started by goodlove, Jan 19, 2011.

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  1. Ymra

    Ymra New Member

    To be real I hasn't see so much of this "degradation" you speak of. Anytime the topic of size is brought many of you women (I don't mean you directly) get automatically defense. The degradation seems to be self inducted...and anyone someone does step out of pocket the whole site is upon them. I think what I already said is the real reason...

    ..again, you will find faaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaar more white women who are into black men on mostly black sites, then you will on a site called "White Women / Black Men" The other problem is the name alone "hints" at a sexual based relationship. (Don't ask me to explain it, it just does)
     
    Ymra, Jan 20, 2011
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  2. Tamstrong

    Tamstrong Administrator Staff Member

    Thanks, GQ. I appreciate you & your good attitude. :)

    That woman was all about arrogance, stereotypes & racism, & all that ever does is create a negative & sometimes hostile environment. I believe she knew exactly what she was doing.

    There are many ways that ww & bm can relate to & sympathize with each other. Not to say that we know via our experiences exactly what the other goes through...I'm not a black man so I can't say I know what it's like to be one & a black man can't say he knows what it's like to be a white woman...BUT what I am saying is that when there is a willingness to understand & love & have faith in someone & have their backs, there is an ability to identify & appreciate where they are coming from. There is nothing more precious than that in any relationship.

    I think that there is an element of feeling the ability to speak freely because it's a safe environment to do so, but sometimes it's taken too far & it becomes something negative & ugly. I understand the need to vent, but it shouldn't get to the point of bitterness & disrespect toward those who have your back.

    Well said, G-love. :cool:

    Thank you, Tony; you're a sweetheart. :D

    There is so little appreciation for the positive things we do have in this life (on the forum & out in the world), it destroys their value. Bad attitudes & lack of positive action accomplishes nothing.


    Quality interaction is definitely the key. We do have some awesome men on here...those listed & a few others, too...who exemplify the qualities that we ladies appreciate. More men fllowing their examples would make a huge difference around here.

    Very well said, Veema. :smt038

    I get what you're saying, Ymra, but I also think that regardless of the amount of degradation, it's always too much. A person has his/her preferences , but there is no need to tear down those who don't have what you prefer. If you prefer a small ass to a big one, good for you, but that doesn't mean you have to talk shit about the woman with the excess ass or the folks that like that big azz. Yeah, sometimes people overreact, but it's usually because we get sick of hearing the negativity.
     
    Tamstrong, Jan 20, 2011
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  3. Ymra

    Ymra New Member

    Again,

    the only time I see stuff like that is when some troll comes in or when person [A] is having it out with person a lot of times you guys stoke the flames of bullshit by getting into something that is between person [A] and and then stand back and claim "Everything is so negative."

    Everyone wants to be the first to tell the other person "you ain't shit" I guess that is how yall roll. My Tam, I ignore so much bullshit its not funny, while those of you who complain the most about negative shit are always the ones knee deep in "those" threads. If there is one thing this site isn't its negative. Not by a long shot, and not even close to other sites I have been on. Yes there is going to be bullshit, bullshit is everyplace.

    ...but I just don't see the rampid degradation, nor do I see the overwhelming negativity. The fact of the matter is that MOST of the people (In America) have less than perfect bodies. The problem is many of you (not you generally) don't feel good about yourselves, so you internalize everything and anything. This is more an individual problem then it is a problem with the site.

    This site is fun, I like it........but the reason why people don't care here aren't because of being called "fat" or because its "so negative"

    (from my perspective)
    - once the bruthaz find out its not REALLY a dating site where one can get some easy white pussy
    - once the white women find out that the closest they are going to get to these bruthaz is the internet...

    ...they move on.

    IMO of course.
     
    Ymra, Jan 20, 2011
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  4. FG

    FG Well-Known Member



    It is clear you have missed a lot on here then - if you say that. There has been as LOT of negativity and degrading - directly. Pure and simple. Maybe you should be glad you missed it. The worst of it was right before you came onboard, but it still bubbles up here and there.
     
    FG, Jan 20, 2011
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  5. Ymra

    Ymra New Member

    ahhhh......well I am glad that I did. Then again, I probably would have left. It would have made some people happy.
     
    Ymra, Jan 20, 2011
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  6. Tamstrong

    Tamstrong Administrator Staff Member



    The issue with the trolls isn't what I'm referring to. I think we should definitely go hard on bitch-ass trolls because there is no positive purpose for them being here. Sometimes the trolls have it too easy around here IMO.

    FG is right, you've evidently missed a lot of the ugliness toward women around here. I think that's why you get some of the reactions you do to some of your posts...people read too much into them due to dealing with prior ugliness & don't get where you're coming from. I've seen you react in the same way at times...it's human nature & we're all guilty of it at times.

    As far as the folks moving on, there seem to be more women than men leaving the forum.

    Great point, FG. :cool:

    I don't know about that...I kinda like having your crazy ass around. ;)
     
    Tamstrong, Jan 20, 2011
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  7. karmacoma.

    karmacoma. Well-Known Member

    Yup.
     
    karmacoma., Jan 20, 2011
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  8. karmacoma.

    karmacoma. Well-Known Member

    Yup.
     
    karmacoma., Jan 20, 2011
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  9. karmacoma.

    karmacoma. Well-Known Member

    Oh, if only, my friend.
     
    karmacoma., Jan 20, 2011
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  10. karmacoma.

    karmacoma. Well-Known Member

    Whenever I suggest it should be all about BM/WW as per the site title, or suggest maybe these black men shouldn't be drooling over black chicks here, I get a) the PC Squad on my fucking back or b) ignored.
     
    karmacoma., Jan 20, 2011
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  11. karmacoma.

    karmacoma. Well-Known Member

    Peace.
     
    karmacoma., Jan 20, 2011
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  12. Kushton Slater

    Kushton Slater New Member

    Yes and no, I mean I get why people go off on trolls, but at the same time its a waste of energy. So many people complain on here about trolls and about how negative threads get more attention than positive threads. Yet when you look at the threads those very people that dislike them, are the main ones in them keeping them alive. Ive said it once and I will say it again, if you post in a troll thread then you keep it alive (no matter what it is you are saying in there). If you dont post in troll threads then the thread will die, which will in turn cut out the bs and make the troll eventually leave (because who wants to be somewhere, where they have no say or are not acknowledged). A lot of people on here complain about stuff that they themselves have control over.
     
    Kushton Slater, Jan 20, 2011
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  13. karmacoma.

    karmacoma. Well-Known Member

    Don't forget the Indian Women thread.

    The only use an Indian chick has for a black man is to check her lugage at the airport, but that doesn't stop these chumps from drooling over their pics.
     
    karmacoma., Jan 20, 2011
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  14. Kushton Slater

    Kushton Slater New Member

    Indian women can be white by phenotype....
     
    Kushton Slater, Jan 20, 2011
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  15. karmacoma.

    karmacoma. Well-Known Member

    Shut up.
     
    karmacoma., Jan 20, 2011
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  16. Kushton Slater

    Kushton Slater New Member

    Its the truth....
     
    Kushton Slater, Jan 20, 2011
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  17. karmacoma.

    karmacoma. Well-Known Member

    Politically-correct parsing and nitpicking is also a reason peeps get run off. They get tired of reading bullshit like yours.
     
    karmacoma., Jan 20, 2011
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  18. Kushton Slater

    Kushton Slater New Member

    How the fuck is that bs, that the fucking truth, you can be Indian yet still be white..... Countries arent as homogenous as they use to be, so to equate Indian women with non white is BS...Thats like me putting up a thread called American women and then getting pissy because people post American women who are not of the majority phenotype (white). If the person who made the Indian thread were to of put it in the Mens Locker room then I dont see a problem with it.
     
    Kushton Slater, Jan 20, 2011
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  19. Tamstrong

    Tamstrong Administrator Staff Member

    I agree to a certain extent, Kushi, but IMO the quicker we flush the shit out of the forum's system the better. The longer they are allowed to linger, the harder they are to get rid of. I'm not talking about complaining about them or posting over & over in their threads...like everyone keeps doing in the Why Do White Men Get Jealous thread thereby feeding the Kamile/Imanuela troll which makes no sense to me. Too many people take troll threads way too seriously when they should realize trolls aren't looking for serious discussion; they're looking to stir shit up. My point is that they need to be put in check & to know they are unwelcome; whether it's by calling 'em out on their bs, reporting their posts or via negative reps or whatever.
     
    Tamstrong, Jan 20, 2011
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  20. karmacoma.

    karmacoma. Well-Known Member

    We need an IQ test before peeps are allowed on this site and also you must have been in an IR relationship already, that should cut down the bullshit even further.
     
    karmacoma., Jan 20, 2011
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