something is wrong here

rayer:

So much focus on the forum is given to women who "will never date you", but there's a plethora of women on this site who will... Open your eyes and see what's in front of you.. that's all I'm sayin..

 

be more specific about the women who "will never date you" thing?

 

They're not my words, that's what I see guys saying all the time... latest example being in that "hottest black women" thread.

Not to mention all the talk about how "dime piece" white women won't give you the time of day, young ww won't date you til they're older and have less options, blah blah blah...

 

In my experience, the white girls I knoow that are interested in myself will also be open to date other races/ethnicities besides African American males. I think this to be evenn moore true for males. I don't do numbers, but it seems a lot of African Amerrican males that are into white females will be into most other race/ethnicites (as long as they look good, and they find their personality nice) with the exception of some because of a bad experience or someone they know had a bad experience.

I can't fault the fellas for liking anything on two feet that they find attractive, as well I can't fault the ladies. We acceept all peers on this site for who they are, we don't accept bits and parts of people. Are member are generally more
open, more liberal, it's not surprising that they are attracted and will engage wiith more than just white females and black males.

 

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Well said Tam, likewise I'm here because of my interest in intelligent white women. who can hold a conversation and in-depth discussion on varying issues.

I'm not knocking any other group of women but I know what I like and will go for. I respect and appreciate all the white women on here who are from all over. Drama free is how I like things to be.

 

This is not a phenomenon of just this site, nobody is good enough for anybod; the grass is greener on the other side, why do you think thee divo rate is so high? (Not to say this is the sole reason for divo of course) What's happening here is a micro exampe of the macro. Nothing seems to be good enough for a lot of males these days, as well as females (women are cheating/partcipating on adultery more than they ever have), everyone seems to be looking for the next best thing.

I have a lot of family that was born before the 50's, and they have some stories about being with partners 60+ years, very unselfish.

 

I believe it is cool to talk about the love we have for eachother at the sametime we should be able to talk about IR as a whole and how wonderful it is and why .

yeah the stereotypes and racists statments put a damper on things. as far as the woman coming on here talking about the bw/wm website was at first good intention but took a left turn when she stated yall can learn from us. In a sense we could but they could learn from us also ( Im kind of believing she was being arrogant.) we should in that case questioned her more and really tried to find out her true intentions (I on the other hand left it alone when she stated that). she could have just misspoke.

yeah, I dont see why it should be a prerequisite for person to only be interested in one race as long as they come in here and have fun and share with good heart

I wrote about that one time. Im not sure or not but I got slammed for what I stated. I said in summation that BM and WW have a lot in common in that thru history we both were treated with disrespect. yall wasnt given the rite to vote and other equal rites and BM was treated the same way (more violently but you can relate). we come here to complain sort of speak because this is the only real place to do so because other outlets will destroy us if we said anything even when all BM will agree with us. I had expressed the samethings to BM who are married to BW and they agree to what we say on here. it is not anomaly.

we do appreciate the fact you can sympathize. have you ever thought that because we say it in front of yall is because we know you can understand

 

It is funny you say that. Im just wrote a small paragraph for class on faith.

I stated the following. (Im sure the grammar is ruff because I have yet to proofread)

According to Webster’s dictionary faith means to have an allegiance to a person, duty and fidelity to a promise and firm belief in something for which there is no proof. When I pondered on that definition I had realized that faith has been the motivator for me in pursing what I love. Also, it has been the pain in my soul when I directed that energy of faith to something that was not worthy. Faith has given me hope and success but it also has given me the greatest disappointments. I learned to be prudent in where I distributed my faith.

In summation what we are saying is basically the same. direct our energy to something that is positive. sometimes however it is impossible because of our feelings. also directing energy to what is wrong causes positive changes. you just have to be wise in using that energy

 

As Soon As The Young Man, Young Carter Left..... So Did The Women rayer: Lol

Nah but for real, I have not logged in here for a looooooooong time (october 2010'ish) and I just logged in today and I read a few threads. Shit seems dead what happend? Goodlove the only brotha tryna keep this forum bumpin.

 

Key words to a strong relationship!

 

We appreciate you too Tam.:smt023

 

Maybe a lot of the white women here grew wee too tired of being on here because of redundancy and the usual trifles that goes on. People just move on and simply go about their lives.

 

A lot of good and true things are being said on this thread.

I especially agree with the above two posts. So much truth to this. There are no real values anymore, and people are always thinking they can find something better.

And there are many times that I've been so angry at some of the posts here. There is a lot of negativity directed at women on the forum and in general on here. It's nice to not log in at times.

Some days I get sick of being on this forum, because people just stop using the filters in their brains that most assuredly work just fine in their day to day lives. But something about the anonymity of the internet allows people to think that filters are no longer needed.

 

That's what it boils down to. Sometimes I learn something on WWBM and sometimes a get a good laugh here. But when the quality of the posts and interactions go down and people get disrespectful, crass, ignorant, etc. I'll usually just stay away. As someone else said, it isn't always easy to find an outlet to express some of the things that we encounter in interracial dating and interracial relationships. This site is great for that - until the negativity rears it's ugly head.

 

very well said over all. Like a made the chibby chasing thread and it was suppose to praise regular sized people not the model types and men especially acted extremely ugly in the beginning. yes it was praise in a joking manner but it was praising just the same and some of the guys got really ugly.

to me overall IR should be something we can come and talk about and come here as some kind of support for our IR situations. no we dont have to be serious all the time but IR serious issues need to be discussed. also it is ok to trade our IR romantic fantasies because we all want a real and loving IR. To clarify IR is not an abberrant to "regular" relationships or non IR.