Dating or just kicking it?

Trolling as usual.

 

LOL!

 

You can go on a date, but not be dating. Whether you like it or not, you're dating when you courted more than once, closer to three times and continue to do so.

But this doesn't mean that you can't bend the 'rules' in your favor, or that the 'rules' that society creates haven't changed. I think some people still go through a more traditional dating process, but a lot of younger people 'kick' it as you say.

And I noticed, IMO, a lot more people aren't defining their relationships to people including themselves whom are involved in the relationship, they just go about things until one day (a long time later) either party says something indirectly about it or does something that sparks the exclusivity.

 

So true. Speaking as a younger person I tend to "kick it" with a guy and I'm cool with that. I have a really casual, relaxed view on dating. I hate pressure/taking things too fast.

Completely co-sign with the last paragraph too. That's how it's been with me.

Like, right now I'm "kicking it" (I wouldn't even call it that though) with a guy and it's perfect with me. No expectations, no pressure and we have a cool time when we see each other which is once or twice a week. I usually stay over at his for a night. I like him but I also wouldn't care if he was getting with someone else. It's just casual, what I want right now.

 

See now, that's what I'm talkin bout. especially the bolded.:smt045

 

Thank you.

 

Look like it's a abstruse problem.

 

Actually I think that "old days" are just fantasy from romantic books and old movies. Back in 50s or 60s reality was pretty much the same like now. Our grannies and mums just don't like to tell, or maybe don't remember how it was - dating men, I mean real dating. Frustration and guessing is part of dating. And at least for me it was always clear how the date goes and what kind of final it will have. To be honest we, girls are playing too. If guy asks us out and we agree what does it meant? Are we ready to say that we like him or in love or want? What? I think that in most cases we just want to try and meet this particular guy in new situation, more intimate maybe... And then, if during date we understand that he is not the one with whom we want date, what are we doing? Telling him truth? lol! No, we are playing "we are just friends" game. The same do guys. We are not so different as it looks Let's leave "old days" for retirement when we will need to tell beautiful stories to our granddaughters.

 

I think dating has a new definition and a set of new expectations as well. It has forever changed our culture and how we define social norms. This explains why everything seems so distant.

 

Hello -

Just curious, are you Igbo, Yoruba or Hausa?

 

Well said :smt004
I stopped feeling sympathetic for women's relationship hurtles years ago

repped

 

Hope you don't mind me being curious 2?

H starts before I , why where these ethnic groups sorted according to those categories with Igbo preceding Hausa?

I belong to one of the categories you mentioned ...maybe you want to test your stereotypical assumptions on each ethnic box....just a game ..try it

 

I didn't know you have to alphabetize words when asking someone about their culture. That's a new one to me...

I don't have any stereotypical assumptions. The mere mention of the word, "stereotype" makes it sound like I view each one badly.

My best friend is Yoruba and my best friend prior, was Igbo...

Forget I even asked though....

 

you did not ask about my culture,but my ethnicity, I hope you know. You asked are you, " are you Igbo, Yoruba or Hausa?" . Yet, when i asked about the ordering of the ethnic groups, i sought to know whether you ordered them based on your experience/intimacy with them, you seem put off. why, i am not so sure.

Ironically, you proved me right since your historical friendship with your friends bares out the ordering, or should i say seems to give an unconscious validity to my inquisition.

On stereotypes, I did not mean it the way you interpreted it.The mere idea that you wanted to know my category based on the inference you drew from possibly my name means you working with categories.

Still, I interpreted your curiosity (stereotypical assumptions) as an instrument, a working model, in which to understand where to proceed on our commonalities in 'culture,' not ethnicity. I think that is where we differ.

To be honest, I hold no malice. I only wanted to engage you honestly and explore what more you knew. I hold know stereotypical assumptions either. I only wanted a healthy dialogue. It seems I have killed that prospect

Take it easy on me , baby. ok? I told you it was a game ...now come back and let us dialogue...don't give up on me too soon.lol

 

Naija, you wan make the gal angry or what?


I get your point.. you are such a stirrer though.

 

She is one of the sweetest people I know here. I am now one of her fans. I was still a greenhorn back then.

 

I didn't even see how old the thread was.. looking for distractions.. supposed to be working.

 

I wasn't trying to get into a back and forth with him, so I let him be, but we're cool now.

Thank you, Naija :smt058

 

I am attracted to white females

Just call me Adam.
Hi ladies!!! I am attracted to white females!! I don`t know why? I have seen many beautiful coloured woman and I my self am coloured man. You may say brown just like Will Smith. However; I admire big size beautiful white girls...

Nice meet you all
Adam Abduaziz

 

I feel it is what you both are looking for. Do you both want serious or casual or one of you one and one of you the other. That is what the first few dates are for and you can "feel each other out" while you are together. I have found at my age (early 20s) most guys are not ready to settle down and be serious right away.