Dating, Engagement & Marriage

With my ex-fiance, 1.5 years but we were very, very young. With my husband, 2 weeks. We'd been friends for over a year.

 

I was married once (16 years). We have been together 24/7 from the first day we got to know each other. We married after 9 months. No other engagement or marriage.

 

I had a somewhat long distance relationship with my ex for about 1 1/2 years (4 hour drive - I went to see him on weekends). We got engaged about a year or so into it, then he moved down here and we got married six months later - total time just over 2 years. Married for 10.

 

IM A MARRIED woman now too..oh lala a happy married woman!!!!!!!!!!!9 months of dating before marriage...id marry him after a week thought!

 

Your wedding pictures are beautiful ~ just lovely. CONGRATS, I hope you two and your little family remain this happy always.

 

WOW!

 

you have a nice ass, Saty.

 

When we met I was 27 and she was 23. We got engaged after about a year and married after being together for 18 months.

 

I am doubtful that I would get engaged before the age of 30. I have always wanted to live my own life before settling down (if that ever happens). But, there's no rule for such a thing. It depends on what the two people are feeling. People need to acknowledge to themselves that it is unlikely that wise decisions are made at a young age due to immaturity. I'm not saying it can't, but that people should understand themselves in a deep and honest way.

I've never been married and doubt that I ever will be. People come, people go - why be tied down?

 

Co-sign.

 

Congrats

 

dated 2 years my ex fiance engaged for a year was supposed to get married this past march before she cheated, as others said time limit means nothing

 

My wife and I both knew after the first date that we had found "the one" I even called my parents and let them know that same night. Now we still had to wait 11 months before she could move down to the U.S. from Canada, I was working and going to grad school and she was finishing her undergrad so we waited another year and a half until we were both done with school to get engaged.

 

thank u !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!yes we are happy ppl :smt055:smt002

 

Oh wow Loki.. I do agree that you just know you have found the one when it hits you in the face (so to speak) like it did for you and your wife on your first date. I think your story is a very special one. I believe there is no time frame, you just know you have found 'the one' when you feel it.

 

My ex and I had known each other for 7 years before we started "dating" if you can call it that, (it was more a long distance relationship, with very little time together at all) that went on for 3 years, he asked me to marry him after the first year but I didn't answer for another year, so then we were engaged for the last year of our "dating" relationship, married after having known him for 10 years. (But even then I didn't know him hardly at all- I'm not at all sure long engagements or dating experiences help us to get to know each other.)

We were married for 26 years out of which I would say maybe 12 were good.

I do think I'll marry again, but I don't care about timing, I only care about knowing the man's character before I marry him, so maybe I would be inclined to want to wait, but I don't think it's so much about time as it is about communication.

 

I agree 1,000% Tinks.

Our culture has trained us to think that we have to spend an incessant amount of time "getting to know" someone before marriage yet we can talk to someone for 30 minutes at a club and have sex.

Many people probably don't spend enough time asking their partners questions about their values, approaches to child rearing, spending habits etc. We wait until we are married before trying to hash out our differences. You will not agree with your mate on everything but it helps to know their vantage point with regards to maintaining a household and a relationship. It is useful to reach down deep and utilize your inner litigator.

 

3 years, I didn't want to get Married because it's retarded and sheepish... She just never gave me a good enough reason to but I eventually caved in to make her happy.

Actually it took a 65" HDTV to understand her PoV lol.

 

It is sheepish and wholly out of context with innumerable shifts in culture and society since the advent of marriage thousands of years ago.

Your candor is appreciated.