No ordinary love....

Thank you Espy for giving me permission to do as I like.

 

Anytime, don't mention it... carry on.

 

Excuse me?! Fuck. you. If you didn't give a shit about my comments then you wouldn't respond.

And, since you can't seem to figure out what the "quote" meant, it was a general statement to include all of the idiotic rants you've been having lately. You have the audacity to claim that -I- am stupid and you can't even figure that out? What a fucking genius.

 

Correction...I enjoy your comments, I just don't give a shit about you. I was was being glib regarding the comment about my ass, but you seem a little slow on the up take.

and *yawn* I knew what your comment meant, but you made it seem like "I" wrote it. I didn't say you are stupid...

..did I?

...I said you aren't smart enough to put words in my mouth, which you aren't. Right now I'm just playing with my food.

 

Yeah, come back and talk to me when you know how to use proper punctuation.




P.S. This will help you with your poor photoshop skills.

http://www.quickphotographytips.com...hotoshop-cliches-to-avoid-and-how-to-do-them/

I don't feel like finding them, but whatever ones you had with the plastic wrap filter were atrocious. I never said anything originally because I'm nice, but since you apparently are not then I will share my professional critique. NEVER use presets in photoshop. It makes you look like a complete novice. You ruined halfway decent shots with shitty edits. That's the first thing they teach us at my college, though really it's common sense if you're not 12 and have even half decent design sense.

 

I agree , I was this way once. I'll never do it again. I don't have any kids but I do want some with the right woman one day. When dating a woman with children you have to really take a few things into consideration. More than likely the father isn't around, so bonding with the children can be easy or difficult. Finding a baby sitter every time you want to go out is always a crazy task and the big one that really hits hard is this...things don't work out child/children wonder "what happened to ???". This has been my experience and it just isn't worth it. But to each is own. Good Luck Bro.

 

homeboy,

....I was this way once as well.

 

You're making a lot of assumptions about all single mothers... generalize much?

Sheesh, all y'all need to try to open your minds a little and stop throwing everyone in neat little boxes based upon one common trait. I'm sure that makes the world a neat and tidy place in your mind, but it's not even remotely realistic. I'd think y'all would realize that given the male outcry when someone comes here and says all BM are thugs, ex-cons, shitty fathers, etc. What you're doing is no better.

 

Well thank goodness we have a world in which for some men, it is worth it. And thank goodness we have reliable babysitters. And I'm betting mothers who must find a way to explain to their kids why daddy isn't around anymore is probably much much harder on the child than explaining why the ex-boyfriend isn't around. Single Mothers(humans) need and deserve love, too.

 

Don't worry Kuno, we get plenty.

 

Ineed,

but I think that if you have young children your concentration should be on them......and not dating. The problem with our culture (and I'm speaking for Ameria) is that being single with children is nothing more than one having a flat tire......easily fixed.

....hey long as you have baby sitter....no problem.

....and generation after generation the ills of our society increase, and the common dominator. "fatherless homes" I am not sure what makes single mother "un-deserving of love" but I do believe that the children DESERVE to be the number one priority,

...and if they are.....dating while the children are young would be the last thing on a mothers mind.

 

Does this apply to single fathers too?

 

On a different note, I was chuckling because it occurred to me that Frederick will find a way to get pissed at that, too! You know, with all these neat wonderful labels women must squeeze into...

 

No offense but him and people who think like him can just go fuck themselves... because it's a sure bet that no one else will want to. Besides he won't venture in this thread, it doesn't mention weight or WW in the title.

 

This has been my experience and it just isn't worth it.

I'm not implying single mothers don't deserve love. Just from what I have gone through it hasn't worked out for me. When I was in my early 20's I said "I will never date a woman with children". I hit my late 20's I changed my mind. I'm 34 now and after a couple of real bad break up's I've made the decision again to not date women with children. I know I'm excluding a lot of good women now based on that decision and it sucks but I've been through too much!!!

 

I guess me saying "duh" would be rude huh?

...well I believe that it applies even MORE to single fathers. Young boys are now becoming men without the example of that which they are to become, and little girls are growing up without example of that which they should seek.

A lot of women ended up in bad situation having to care for their children alone, because some worthless pathetic piece of filth does not want to be responsible for that which he made...

...a life.

 

So you advocate that no single parent should date when children are young, so what under the age of 13 or so? Just trying to get where you're coming from here.

 

So why is the single mother seen as 'red-flaggable' when she may in her pursuit of finding a man to love, in that process, also provide for her child (based on your "ills" analogies), the benefits of a positive male figure for them?

You also can't discount that men of Sonny's age have for hundreds of thousands of years have fathered and capably cared for children, so it's not like it's a concept out of the realms of reality. 'It takes a village' is born of selfless fact.

 

pretty much......and I'd say closer to 14.

Lets use the young lady in the OP....

...so lets make an assumption of what we know. She's 23, with two children, dad not there... We can stop there. Ok....

...Divorce we know is around 50 - 60%, the rate of "separation" for people who are not married and just dating is closer to 80%
..long distance relationships...over 90%.

Of course we all believe we will be the couple in which it works. But based on the anecdotal information that we know we can come up something that have a very very large chance of coming to fruition.

...so first there was dad
...next there is SonnyShao
...then there is the next dude after him

A rotation of men around her children. not wise.

Being so young with children...not wise

Dating with young children...not wise.

 

So what will you decide to do when after a couple of real bad break-ups with women without children? Not date them anymore?