No ordinary love....

now that is why I set that thread up. not all bro's have all the answers. Im not mad at him because he is young dumb and full of cum, but when his family and the signs are there dont fall in love . at least he has family saying something and he should be listening. he should be thinking about going to school, making paper and getting his dicked sucked all in that order.

when he become a college grad and makes tha paper then he can settle down. by then he would has some keeness on judging a woman because he has been dealing with em. not saying he will not make mistakes BUT DAMN DUDE

 

Some of y'all are really sad. Whew I'm thankful I'm not jaded, judgmental, or closed-minded.

In case no one noticed, Sonny did not say he wanted advice, nor does he need it. He's known this woman a year, I suspect they've covered everything they feel they need to, & clearly he's fine with the relationship & comfortable meeting her. That's really all that matters.

I hope it's everything you hope for Sonny & wish you the best. I hope you don't give any of this incredibly inappropiate crap a moment's consideration. Trust your own judgment & TELL EVERYONE ELSE TO FUCK OFF!

 

I'm looking for the part in his OP where he said he was looking for advice? I swear I tried to find it but I couldn't. So its safe to assume you are correct........he's not looking for advice.

But he did post this so he is looking

- response
- opinions
- conversation regarding his topic.

I'm not jaded I just can't believe some of you ladies are in here swooning..."ohhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh just as long as you are happy" when if you are honest with yourself this is a RED FLAG event.

And going JUST on the information he has present here, SHE and HE are both idiots. Her for her past choices and him for the choice is getting ready to make.

 

That's really all the matters at this point. Might have been good to read the original post well enough to ascertain that the first time. I think there's a saying... something about going off half cocked?

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You weren't kidding, you do have a bad temper. I think we can add tightly wound and easily sprung to the list too.

I can see that it's impossible to have a logical, well structured, non-emotionally charged discussion with you... the way you discuss is reminiscent of seeing monkeys throw shit at each other at the zoo. If you can't back up your POV with something other than 'you're just too stupid to comprehend my masterful conversation skills and irrefutable logic', just fall back. Since I know an exercise in complete futility when I see one, and I have no desire to participate in such, I'll just make this the last post to you.

And men think women are the one's incapable of emotional detachment. :smt005

 

you never met in person??? You know, the dynamic is never the same in person.

 

I don't agree. Sometimes it's the same, and sometimes it's better. I've only heard of a few instances from people who said there just wasn't any chemistry in person. I think after talking to someone for a year you'd have a good idea of what's there, presuming you've both been honest with each other.

 

I've never heard it being the same.

 

So you think it's never as good, or it can be better or worse, but just not the same?

 

better or worse, but not the same. sonny and the girl want it to be different than it is now by meeting each other; better than it currently is! After a year, and probably photos and web-cams, they should be fine, but I also believe in intrinsic qualities of attraction (smell, touch...) and the exchanges people have with each other while they are quiet. How and where will they meet? at her house with the kids?....

 

Sonny, I'm happy for you and hope that this trip works out. However, I will caution you: if this woman has you around her kids during this trip, run far away from her.

IMHO, no single parent should have their kid(s) around someone they barely know.

And you may have been talking for a year on the phone/skype/email/whatever, but you can't possibly truly know a person until you've spent time with them, in the flesh.

That's all I'll say on the matter. If you meet the kids, I advise you to run from this woman, because she clearly isn't putting her children first. However, if her kids are not there, I hope that things work out for you the way you want them to!

 

Completely agree with ya Ymra. The only way I would date a girl that had kids was if she looked like Marissa Miller or Adrinna Lima(or someother Victoria Secret model).

Waaay too much baggage there for me to handle.

And I highly doubt any of the females on here would date a 23 yr old divorced guy with two kids.

But if it makes this guy happy more power to him. Personally I would never want to take care of another guy's kids(or date a single mom of 2 for that matter)

 

I'm sure they worked out the details xoxo. Hypothetically speaking, were it me I wouldn't introduce a man to my children immediately. I also would choose a neutral location, rather than either of our homes. There are multiple reasons for that, safety obviously, common sense, and morals factor in as well. But as I said I'm sure they worked out all the details to their satisfaction.

 

Excellent advice, Bookie! I was thinking the same thing about the kids being there, which is, I think, what Ymra was getting at when he said she wasn't being responsible dating a man on the internet and inviting him to see her.

Sonny- if you are happy, that is what matters, however, I urge you to be realistic about the situation as well and take into serious consideration any red flags that pop up. But, truly, I hope that things work out for you and that you've truly found happiness.

Ymra and goodlove- Gentlemen, I get what you're saying at the heart of things (apparently so does Loki), but would it kill you to be a little tactful/diplomatic?

 

Take a deep breath...in...out...OK?

Why don't we go play in the Hot Black Men thread? lol

 

FUCK. YOU. ASSHOLE.

 

She never asked me to raise her kids. She never asked me to do anything for her children. I offer to help out with money and the like, and she always refuses. She was in a long time relationship with this guy she known since high school. they planned to get married, but it fell through. The kids are his. He is in the kids' lives.

As for her being uneducated, she's going to be a RN pretty soon. And as for her pinning her kids on me, once again she never done that.

In regard to Bookie's post, the children will be around, because its the holidays and her various family members are going to spend time with them.
I am not the father of these children, nor has she ever asked me to be.

We are rational. clear thinking adults who know what we are getting into. We talked, and planned things out.
There's nothing wrong with dating a woman with children.

I meant for this post to be a whats going on with me, heads up type of thing. I didn't ask for advice or assumptions. Opinions are like assholes, and everyone has one. Thanks to those who wished me well, those who didn't can go straight to Hell.

 

Im so sorry that you feel the need to justify your actions.
Nobody has the right to tell you what to do.
Not even people who are close to you have the right to cause they dont live your life.
People can give you advice but thats it.
We all have to make our own decisions. Some of us listen to their heart, some base their decisions on logic.
Only YOU can decide whats good for you or not.
I hope everythings works out great for you 2 and you have happy holidays!