Scenarios....

Emotional baggage is the same thing as baggage except it deals strictly with emotions. I mean Im pretty sure we would all agree (for the most part) on what baggage/emotional baggage is. Just use what you yourself would define as emotional baggage and I'll tell you if its along the lines of what I was thinking.

 

I'm sorry, I literally am lost on this one Kush. I'm not a very emotional person in general, so I'll let someone else make some suggestions.

 

Emotional baggage to me is someone who's maybe vulnerable emotionally from past experiences. As long as they don't bring that into our relationship I'd be okay but that's unlikely to happen. I think everyone has a little bit of baggage. I learn from my experiences and don't forget them but I don't hold what others have done to me in the past against other people.

 

Okay so like being cheated on would be considered emotional baggage for some people?

 

I think if you assume that all men are bound to cheat or you're suspicious of your partner all the time because you were cheated on in the past... or something lol.

 

the 4 kids with 3 different women would be a huge no no for me. it's not the number of children, its the number of mothers.

 

Okay, thanks LS. I'm having an obtuse moment and just couldn't come up with anything. I've been cheated on before, but I don't expect all men to cheat, I realize that was his issue and not everyone has that issue. So I can't imagine I'd bring emotional baggage into a relationship, but I'll have to think on it for a bit.

So I still need to know what this hypothetical guy has as emotional baggage, though it'd have to be really severe for me to not consider a relationship. I suppose if for instance he'd been cheated on and as a result he was super suspicious and clingy, like to the point of never letting me out of his sight, that would be a problem.

 

Lol you know you would still be down to be a booty call :twisted:

He has a hard time trusting women because he's been cheated on,
He has low self esteem because he was verbally avused in other relationships.
He also has a stressful career which adds to the tension.

Btw LS understood what I meant.

 

moi...??? why on earth would you think that i'm that type of girl...??? :smt083

 

Okay, as long as they didn't lead to out of hand behavior, none of those would be exclusionary criteria to me. As I said if the cheating led to him being overbearing and insisting on watching my every move, I'm out. If the stressful career results in him trying to blow off steam by smacking me, he's dead (or at last maimed) and I'm out. The self-esteem issue can be overcome in time with enough positive reinforcement, as could the trust issue, as long as he's actually able to change.

This guy is shaping up to be a major project though, and I don't like viewing people as 'makeover' candidates. I think trying to change people isn't appropriate, so he'd have to recognize that he had those issues and want to improve in those areas. I have no problem supporting people who want to change for their own benefit, and I don't view people with that type of emotional baggage as undesirable. I think it's unfortunate that some people leave scars by mistreating other people, as long as you're willing to try to move past that I'm good. I have difficulty dealing with people who prefer to whine and do nothing to change though, so if he's that type, it wouldn't work.

 

Lol I was trying in the beginning to keep it simple, but I decided to say fuck it when yall wanted more in depth details. I might as well make this guy have some kind of problems , nuthin you fine women cant handle

Btw I like your answer.

 

Dont try to be innocent lol

 

who's trying...??? :smt102

 

You keep playing that song if you want to :rock:. You know you're top tier naughty minx material.

 

Well now Kush, you're dealing with women, so most likely a pretty face just isn't going to cut it... we need more to go on than that... we want details! Though I don't recall if you even mentioned any physical details? It wouldn't matter to me, but now I'm curious so I'll have to go back and look.

In general I try not to be judgmental, as I wouldn't like anyone else judging me. Actually people do that a lot anyway, and it irritates me to be presumed to fit any type of standard mold they have erroneously constructed in their mind. I don't care if every woman you've ever dated was hyper-sensitive, or every single mother you've known had ex-husband drama & bratty kids, or all women you know speak in riddles and lace every statement with hidden meaning... you should not assume I am any of those things, in fact you shouldn't assume anything until you actually know me well enough to form an opinion. So I'm sure not about to treat anyone else that way, I think it's narrow minded, ill-informed, and rude. Everyone gets a clean slate with me.

 

Its good to know you're like that, some people are ignorant in those regards.... Having said that details:
6ft
242lbs
A ripoff sexual butterscotch complexion
mustache and goatee
muscular arms but also has a beer gut
hmmm.... Need anymore details just let me know

 

lol...it's an upside down pyramid with the amount of naughty minx's round here:smt077

 

Actually those are pretty useless to me. I'd need details more along the lines of what's his birth date, for astrological reasons. Does he have a good sense of humor, as I'll overlook a lot, or rather not even notice other things, if the sense of humor is really great. Is he kind and giving, I don't spend time with selfish people willingly, and by giving I don't mean monetarily. Does he like animals, in my experience people who hate animals rarely work out well, but then they usually hate kids too. The more intrinsic qualities are what are important for me. Muscular arms and a 'sexual butterscotch complexion' are meaningless if that's all he's got... a pretty face wrapped around an empty head doesn't interest me.

 

There are alot of naughty minxs here, but as a minxologist I can honestly say you're one of the main minx ring leaders on the board.

 

I have to go ahead and co-sign Tarshi on this one. I'd run far away from this man.

Especially after reading this about him.

If the person you're dating has trust issues, they won't be a good partner for you until they resolve those issues.

Was he married to these 3 women? Otherwise, I'd have to wonder why he didn't use condoms??