Why I usually don't look at BBW

Do some of you know how to read or are you retarded?
Discussing a topic doesn't mean your "bitching" its just an intellectual debate. We as human beings discuss everyone elses business all the time. Do I have to be a victim of abuse to discuss it? Do I have to be a soldier to discuss the war on Iraq? A drug dealer or user to discuss unfair drug laws? You guys need to stop being so sensative about being fat or just lose weight. We've discussed how bm have the highest drop out rate and the majority of us were no where near upset as some of you broads lol

 

Esp all that shit wouldn't be so popular or make so much money if a lot of ww didn't agree with what was being presented.
As for consciously not noticing you're white is part of white priviledge because being white means never having to think about your race much like I'm not really conscious of being black when I'm in Jamaica its the cultural norm.

I think its amazing you don't think that way babe but unfortunately the vast majority does.

 

This is odd to me, that your consciousness changes Andrae. If I think about it, I can grasp why you feel that way, but hmmm... it's still odd to me. I'm just me, whether I'm surrounded by white people or black people, I'm still not conscious of being white. In fact several people have mentioned that something they like about BM/WW couples is the contrast between the skin tones and I honestly just never noticed that in any of my IR relationships before. Again, just hmmm... I'll have to ponder that some more, right now the whole concept is bending my brain.

As for the other, I get that most people notice color first thing, I just don't and my daughter's the same way. Any time I ask her to describe someone, there will be no mention of color. In fact most of my family is that way, perhaps that's because we all know it's not an issue for any of us so it doesn't bear mentioning. Maybe some people assume that's information that would matter to you and so they offer it upfront? I don't know, I think I'm back to hmmmm... :smt012

 

Race has been a big issue in this country since its inception. We are racially polarized here.

 

Hmmmm... :smt012

 

You know the longer you guys post the longer this thread stays active. I mean we are reaching 100 pages!

 

OOOPPPPS, did I hit a nerve Andrae?



It got nothing to do with being sensitive if we dont like they way some of you talk about women. How many times do we have to explain that it's about being DISRESPECTFUL?

I don't think you will get it.
And no, Im not the one who is retarded.

 

No nerve hit at all sweet cheeks thanks for asking. I don't get how anything I said was disrespectful. Everything I said was in a general sense, I didn't call any of you out by name. Is mentioning the topic at all disrespectful? Do you know what disrespectful means?

 

http://www.thefreedictionary.com/disrespectful

Having or exhibiting a lack of respect; rude and discourteous

 

ESPY the difference between you and I is I am using not only my personal experience but stats and LOGIC to back it up. You are only using personal observation. I maybe wrong but I believe a few posts back that you said you many fat BW with BM. I'm not sure if you said it but I believe you did. I also find that to be true, and when you look up the stats on overweight BW that is in line with that observation. The majority of BM/WW relationships I see feature an overweight WW and an average to fit BM. When you look up the stats on overweight WW in America that would be right in line with my personal observation.

Yes there is a stereotype that BM get fat WW, but most stereotypes are based in reality. The stereotype maybe exaggerated or twisted but usually it is based in reality. It seems like the only ones who are getting butt hurt over this subject are the overweight WW on this site. I am not saying that there isn't true love in these relationships or WW are forcing BM to like them. All I'm saying is the stats back up the stereotype.

 

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Yo Andrea.... Im sure that Unique CAN read AND she is NOT retarded!! What the fuck is your problem saying shit like that to her or Persephone duke??

If you're gonna address the FORUM then do that by clicking on "Post Reply", but dont Quote on just one individual and talk shit that you really indent to say to EVERYONE involved in your issue/discussion.

You addressed Espy on a "one on one" basis. YOU were talking to her by quoting her, which meant that you intended to send your message to her ONLY!!! That is very respectful in my eyes. One on one.... direct.

Then .... "You Quoted Unique" and you talked shit to Unique because she liked something that Persephone posted. That was a conversation between them, NOT YOU duke!!! You should have kept your ass out of their conversation. Trust me, if Unique wants to say something to YOU then she will, no doubt about that!!! You remember the post in the dedication thread you made right?? You asked Unique a question that was not meant for that thread and she told you what to do to get your answer right?? She will NOT hold her tongue duke. So if you address her again maybe you should focus on what you want to say to JUST HER!!!

I think your WERE very rude/disrespectful to Unique in your post. Calling her fat?? Retarded?? Asking does she know the definition of the word Disrespectful, like she is an idiot or something?? You DONT know her duke!!! How can you assume all of that?? Is it because she didnt agree with YOU?? Get over it !!!

I think that your words were meant for the forum, not just Unique, or even Persephone.

Like you said... you were talking "in general", not making any one person your personal target right?? Then dont post like that. If you "quote" someone then you are acknowledging ONLY THEM, not the world!!!

I think you owe both of those ladies an apology Andrea. You are very articulate from your posts that I have read. I think you know, just from your posts I read, that you could have gotten your point across in a more respectful and civil manner.

Dont get me wrong. Some of your topics are valid in NEW YORK. I think until you tour the world and see whats going on outside of where you live in NY, you should keep your unjustified opinions to yourself.

You can just start out with... In my OPINION... bla bla bla... But please dont think your words are FACTS until you can explore more of the world!!! Then I think its okay for you to say the things you say in this forum about BBW after you get a little more life experience.

I apologize for coming off on you with the words I used in the start of my post. I was raised in Brooklyn, New York. So I know why you feel the way you feel and why you see nothing wrong in calling females "chicks" or "brauds", "fat", "retarded", etc.

I think its safe for me to say that you are fighting a battle that you will not win from my experience. People are just that.... people!!! They will make their OWN choices in life. If a BM is into BBW then it is not necessarily for the reasons you believe. I think you are wasting your own time and energy worrying about the issues you discuss here. You can not change it and there has been no laws broken either. So why are you getting so deep and upset over something that even your opinion makes no difference in??

I ask you for two things now... first... please dont ever disrespect my Unique again, and two...that you PLEASE respect all women, including BBW, until you have a valid reason to disrespect them. IE ... they disrespect YOU!!!

Thanks.
Jay.

 

My first instinct was to tell you to fuck yourself but I do appreciate how you ended the message.
1. I'm not fighting any kind of battle fam, I just shared my opinions on a particular topic. I never once called anyone fat. I spoke about bbw as a whole.

2. I'm not trying to change the world I was trying to have an intellectual exchange but instead of taking their own advice people continue to try to change my opinions with emotion and not logic.

3. Slow down with the internet tough guy routine, I never disrespected your woman and apparently you don't know the definition too well. Did I call her out by name? Did I attack her personally? Make fun of her?
No I didn't, she disagreed with me and that's fine.

4. Finally I'm addressing everyone with this one. We are all adults and just because we don't like what someone says about a topic doesn't mean you have to act like children and just purely complain. What I say makes sense to me and if you can't offer a decent intellectual exchange than pay me no mind it cost you nothing.
If you need an example of intelligent exchanges check out the Atheist thread. We can have a great discussion about God without people getting so damn emotional.
WWBM: The only place where talking about fat is far more controversial than politics or religion lol.

Take it easy and have a good night.

 

Son, put the pipe down.

 

Back to blackvoices with that shit....homegirl.

 

Your ex-boyfriend's loss is our gain

Imanuela, first of all, you're gorgeous! Don't ever let any man - no matter what color - tell you differently. Your ex-boyfriend is silly for not seeing that.

 

LOL. we are glad to have you

 

nice to see it worked out in the end, i hate hearing women go through stuff like that, it makes me sad

 

Trust me when I say he did not deserve you.