I've Heard A Lot...

In here, people touching on the subject in different ways about WW attracting/being approached by mostly BM and BM attracting/being approached by mostly WW. Me, yes, black men approach me more than white men. I think it could have something to do with Subliminal Messages http://www.successforanewage.com/articles/subliminal-messages.htm Also one of the 3 (and most powerful) Universal Laws, the Law of Attraction. Our thoughts have magnetic power and it reaches out into the Universe and attracts other thoughts that are vibrationally like it... and brings that to you: Your attention to subjects, your activation of thoughts, and the Law of Attraction's response to those thoughts is responsible for every person, every event, and every circumstance that comes into your experience (of life). All of these things are brought into your experience through a sort of powerful magnetic funnel as they are vibrational matches to your own thoughts. You get the essence of what you are thinking about, whether it is something you want or something you do not want. Giving thought to it is inviting it. Universal Law of Attraction. Yeppers.

 

I think what you are talking about is not subliminal messages as seen below in the article you sited.

The messages are within the limits of physical perception, but below the level of normal consciousness. Delivered properly, they are received directly by the subconscious mind. Their potential power exists because the subliminal messages are not censored or judged by the conscious mind.

It may very well be the Law of Universal Attraction, I find the same thing happening with me. But I have always been noticed by more black or Hispanic men that white.

 

Of course, .

You mean like "Body Language" and physical signals we subconsciously perceive and give out, right?

 

I would like more responses to this thread, please.

 

BM approach me more than WM, which is fine by me!

 

I think that your conditioned by those that raise you & environment plays a big role. Some may not agree with condition, for instance, you're black male raised by black parent(s) but like white females/white female raised by white parent(s). I often that these children have liberal parents that encouraged diversity in some way, shape or form. When the encouragement of diversity is absent, & children go against the grain so to speak, from what their parents expressed or modeled, their environment (which includes media, friends, their own social setting they put themselves in, etc.) kicks in. Does that nake sense or am I just rambling...

 

I believe that's true. At least for me it is.

 

It's a very interesting read, Brittney. I won't argue with this whatsoever. I lack the knowledge on the Laws of Attraction, so you may very well enlighten me on the whole thing. I may not be too keen on spirituality or mysticism. However, under these circumstance, I would love to hear more about this particular idea.

Anyway, more on this topic. I guess I could understand reasoning here, especially coming from the likes of you and Tinkerbell and many others. To be frank, I'm pretty much a hit-or-miss kind of person, however the attraction tends to come from white women, more notably, women outside the United States. I don't know...maybe my "energy" is a bit too distorted for people to read.

Brittney...you're the expert on this...perhaps you can shed some light.

 

I don't really have much else to say about it. I was just curious and wanted to read what other people thought about it and I have.

 

I've always been approached by BM since I hit puberty (boys back then) till now, but I remember a time where it stopped (I talked about this in another thread) for a while. I don't know if it was losing weight (thinner than I am now and I'm not talking about the stereotype that BM can't like thinner women either) or cutting my hair (bob). I'm only speaking from my own experience. I don't know what it is either, but I think you might be on to something Britt with the Laws of Attraction. I think we put out an unsaid signal cause that is who we seek and who we're attracted to. Then again, just cause I like BM, doesn't mean I want any ole BM either. I've always had the, "She likes Bruthas" vibe.
My mom notices it too. She said BM love you...lol

 

I do believe in the law of attraction....especially when I reflect on my past experiences with black men. Although, initially, I wasn't even aware of it- subconsciously, I was always attracted to black men- and it was just a few years ago that I met the gorgeous black man who sparked the desire in me for black men...now I absolutely love 'em!!!

 

I'm approached fairly equally by BM and WM, or perhaps slightly more by WM. I think men approach women who appear most receptive to them, and they base that on signals they get from women like making and maintaining eye contact, smiling, positive body language, etc. I make eye contact and smile at everyone who crosses my path, it's just a natural habit I have, so I think I just look friendly. Though I did have a BM tell me recently that sometimes you can just tell, and that the way I dress is a definite 'she's into black men' sign... I have no idea what that means LOL.

 

If a bm gives that stereotype about how a white woman can dress to attract bm, then they will miss out on other potentials. I wouldn't say that I am necessarily stereotypical, but, just because a wm isn't dressed as a "soccer mom," "preppy," or "country" obviously doesn't mean she isn't into bm. Does that make sense...I had trouble putting my thought into words?

 

It all makes sense except for the bolded part, I think that should be WW?

And for the record I wouldn't classify my style as any of those that you mentioned, I'm pretty eclectic in general.

 

Oh sh!t. I don't really say this much, but I'm going to have put it out there, no homosexual. Please admit what was omitted, WW.

 

I haven't found that men of one race ever approach me more than men of another. Both black and white men approach me. I don't personally ever approach men - call it being traditional or fear of rejection or whatever - but generally the sort of guys I'm attracted to tend to be attracted to me, regardless of race. Sure, there are some guys who chat me up who I haven't sent signals to at all, but I've honestly never found that black men approach me more than white men or vice versa. Maybe it's because I don't date one race exclusively and am openly attracted to a certail look and type of a man, rather than the race of a man?

The only type of men who do make a habit of approaching me are middle aged Middle Eastern men. Maybe this stands out to me more because their approaches are generally un-welcome, because in most of my experiences, these men approach me trying to make me their mistress. I've been offered money, alcohol, drugs and even an apartment by completely random middle easterns, with chat up lines like 'You don't look a day over sixteen.... I love that.'

 

I have never heard that line before, could have done without it lol. Won't be using that pick-up line anytime ever.

 

I find this topic interesting as well. I've had black men tell me that they could just tell that I dated black men, and I've had black men tell me that they never would have thought I would date black men. I think that some of it may be the man's perception. The black men that said they could just tell were men that were very confident in themselves and outgoing. The ones that didn't think that I would were more reserved and not as outgoing. They would have probably never asked me out if it hadn't been for mutual friends intervening and telling them that I date black men.

I also think that there has to be something about subconscious clues that I give off. During my college years, I predominantly had relationships with black men. One of my girlfriends always said that she could never go anywhere with me that black men didn't try to hit on me. She referred to it as my 'black man vibe.' Then, I had about 6 years where I had 3 relationships with white men. During that time, I rarely ever had black men approach me at all. My friend made the comment that I had lost my 'black man vibe.' About 3 years ago, I met a black man that I was really interested in and my interest in him actually brought me to this site. It didn't work out with him, but apparently, it returned my 'black man vibe,' and you won't hear me complaining.