Qualities

People living near big cities have far too many options and just can't settle down. I have female friends who say it all the time "NY is a great place to be single and a great place for divorce but the last place you want setlle down" I'm sure this applies for most major American cities.

 

Lol, I think its true. Fat dudes have far less incentive to cheat not to mention they usually stay home. Just very little sex appeal ladies lol.

 

That may be true for some people, but personally that's not something I consider in determining attraction. One of the top two sexiest men I have ever known was about 5' 5" and around 280 pounds. He was short, stubby, and had a really prominent belly... as in no way in hell he had visible abs. Yet he was the sweetest, most amusing man, with gorgeous brown eyes, and every time I talked to him I was completely taken with him. His size, shape, or whatever you want to call it, didn't even register with me.

I have no set preference for muscular versus non-muscular in general, I just like men who can make me laugh, and who have a kind heart. Selfish assholes need not apply, regardless of whether they possess the physical characteristics most people would deem attractive.

 

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That may be true. I think in my case, I've met guys in my age range who are divorced, after long marriages and after telling me that they want long-term, they change their minds and decide they want to test out the waters and casually date.

I think I'm just not having any luck right now.

 

I love the longevity they have, but I'm sorry to hear it hasn't been a happy one.

Congrats on your parents and siblings relationships! That is great to hear....

Thank you GG! I really appreciate it! I'm hoping your Dad is well....

*Sings, You are not aloneeeeeeeeeeeeee I'm here with you.......*

I run into this so often....It's commonplace

That's what it is! Too many options....

 

Women in western societies no longer have to depend on a man's paycheck for their livelihood.

They're earning college degrees at a higher clip than men and generally "follow the rules"; both attributes are highly attractive to the private and public sectors. It isn't just men who are adverse to marriage, but women are holding off on it as well. Why marry and have children when you have that PhD to finish?

Whether that is a good or bad thing should be left to individual interpretation. As someone who generally does not support traditional values, it's going to be what it's going to be.

 

For those seeking LTRs

rumor has it that he's available!!!!!!!!

 

And I bet he's loyal.

 

Look how lovingly he's holding that burger...lol

I bet he holds a woman that way too...

That's hard when you were never taught how to love properly. I commend you for having the foresight to not make the same mistake as your parents and siblings. When you find "Hubby", it'll definitely be a healthy marriage and then they'll see how waiting worked.

 

Now that was funny!!

 

I'm right there with you...lol

Then again, they're supposed to find us....

*Waits with Tam*

 

Marriage is a job, point blank. Now having said that, just because something is a job (marriage) doesnt mean it cant be enjoyable. You have those who are glad to go to their 9-5, you have those who like their job for the most part but have their days where they dont like it, then you have your people who have keep their job for bs reasons, then you have those who hate their job, but keep it because they cant find a better one or because they need the one they have for survival, and then lastyl you have those who dont give a shit and will get in and out of jobs at the drop of the dime if they find anything (no matter how minuscule that maybe) remotely to their disliking. Substitute the reasons why I said people keep their jobs with the word marriage, and you can see a correlation. Your mariage (for metaphor purposes I'll say job) is what you and your partner make of it.

 

How many marriages do you have on your resume?

 

6 and a half... I know what you're thinking.

 

Love your analogy!

Great breakdown!

 

Sometimes you are wise beyond your years, young Kushy!