I never knew White Women felt this way..

I'm not going to argue whether the topic has validity or not. That wasn't the point of my post. My point was this: why add a 51st thread when one can just add onto one of the many existing threads?

That topic has been debated ad nauseum on this site for as long as I can remember. And frankly, the topic is getting tired.

 

Sorry Books, but I'll bite and address these questions....

Missing "race characteristics" in my biracial child: No. Why not? Because I'll just be thrilled to have a healthy child. Why would I want her to have a greater chance of skin cancer or eye damage or a variety of diseases that predominate in the caucasion population? So really "race characteristics" is not an issue in my mind. I just want her healthy & happy.

Using black men as a last resort: If this is the reason a couple is together, then they need to resolve it and it's NONE OF MY BUSINESS.

Larger ww with bm: Is it possible that some men simply like larger women? Would me telling someone, anyone that they should only date anorexics or straight haired or black haired or black eyed people, or older men should only date older women be at all appropriate in ANY situation?

No, I don't care who people date as long as they are both adults. Does me dating taller men constitute a discussable issue? Or men that are intelligent instead of homeless drug addicts? People like what they like, who gives a crap.

Ok, rant over. My point is - most of the women and men on this forum are intelligent, successful, open minded people who don't buy into those stereotypes.

And now, I will return to my happy place.

 

OOOO can I come, its pretty dreary here in NY today lol

 

lol, absolutely!

 

Like Bookie I'm not going to dissect and respond to all the various parts of your post, however there are a couple comments I'd like to make.

For people who don't like long posts, be forewarned this is one to skip.

This is obviously a public forum, therefore it is open to members to freely discuss anything they like. However, the question you pose and the way you choose to phrase it will impact the response, or lack thereof, that you receive. This is the dynamic that people have mentioned to you. So if you come off disrepectful, don't expect to get respect in return. Some people get off on the wrong foot when they first join, but by consistently continuing to post, people get a better feel for their personality and they eventually find more and more people interacting with them. Tarshi is absolutely correct in her statement that certain people follow a fairly predictable pattern. That is one of the first things I noted about people with alternate agendas, they tend to start off in a similar fashion, and follow a predicable route. Sadly if you happen to follow that pattern, chances are some people will assume you have an alternate agenda, but again stick around and over time if that's not the case that will become clear.

Two of the three topics you mentioned that you'd like to start threads on have been discussed previously, #2 and #3 have reached the 'beating a dead horse' level on here IMO. That doesn't mean that the topics have no validity, it just means the questions been asked and answered, and answered, and answered... what more could you possibly hope to learn at this point? The first, I don't actually recall a specific thread about that, but frankly I don't get the point in the question in the first place. As for the threads on WW using the N word, there were several of those in the past year, I recall two specifically, I'm sure if you do a search you'll find those and I believe one was active up until a couple months ago. Bumping a thread doesn't make you suspect, the way you interact with people does. I don't go around calling everyone who joins a troll just because they say something I don't happen to like, in fact I use that term carefully. I understand that some people just don't have the best communication skills, or don't have good manners, or maybe they ask what appears to be a stupid question because they really don't know the answer. But in general being respectful in what you do ask, and in the way you reply to others, will make all the difference in how people respond to you.

You seem to believe that people who choose not to respond to a particular topic or post are avoiding the issue, not intelligent enough to discuss it, or are just apathetic to it. That's not necessarily the case, for instance on this thread in particular it may be they simply see no reason to respond to a topic that's been discussed multiple times, or have no desire to reply to the OP because she's suspect at best, or they simply have nothing to say to you. For me personally it's a combination of all three. I've already made my opinion on the OP known, so allow me to say I didn't reply to your post because I don't care for the way you talk to other posters, and that's my right.

You are openly disrespectful to people who have not approached you in a manner befitting disrespect, again my opinion. Therefore, I'm not going to interact with you anywhere on the forum, again my right. So if someone doesn't reply you shouldn't assume they have nothing to say, they may just have nothing to say to you. It wouldn't matter what thread you created, or what question you asked at this point, given the way you've chosen to talk to people like FG and Tony, I'm not wasting my time talking to you. Fortunately for you most of the people here are not that way, they're bigger than I am in that respect. That's another reason I haven't been posting much at all lately, it's not disagreements, debates, or dialogue of the longer term posters, it's several relatively new members that I simply refuse to be pleasant to because of how they choose to treat other members. That's not me avoiding sensitive people, or letting a couple bad apples spoil the whole barrel, that's me choosing to not put myself in a position where I have to be hateful and nasty to anyone on a regular basis, because that just serves no good purpose. Now there are some new members that I think are going to be assets to the forum and I'm not talking about them here, if I've never given you negative rep, I'm not talking to you, and if I had you'd know because I always sign it.

This quote is one of my favorites, and often misattributed to Voltaire. However believing someone has a right to say anything, whether you agree with them or not, is not the same as hoping they will do so politely if possible. I defend freedom of expression, but there are effective and ineffective ways to convey a message. If you express yourself with disrespect, rudeness, or condescension, don't feign shock and surprise when meaningful, productive dialogue does not follow.

 

In his defense he's new and had no way of knowing that certain topics have already been discussed.

 

Maybe so. But with anything involving the internet: it's called the search button. :smt006

 

No offence but



The point most are trying to get across to you is ALL the subject matter you have said you want to discuss, is already here. Go to search and look through the old threads. People are tired of the whole "beating a dead horse" syndrome, thats been going on.

 

Amen Bookie! Try reading some older posts to get an idea of what has and has not been discussed. I think that's just common sense? I lurked for several months reading old posts before I joined, and it gives you a really good idea of who people are and what topics have been covered.

 

Now you guys are being unfair because you guys are the champions of everyone not thinking the same and just because you would take months to sift through old threads not everyone will. I came on and jumped right in just like several people and I brought up stuff that was old news for a lot of the older posters and called a troll for it. So all I'm saying is just be fair babygirl.

 

I believe I am fair. Frankly it's not what he brought up, but the way he brought it up that I find objectionable, again my opinion only. You caught some heat when you first joined, I recall that, but again it was not what you said so much as how you said it. You come on a little strong and abrupt, and as you know the majority of people in the world are taken aback by that. But over time people learned that's just how you are. I didn't call you a troll, nor did I think you were one, I just thought you were opinionated and blunt, and I'm fine with both. I haven't called this poster a troll either, but he is rude, and apparently ill informed. Joining a forum and immediately throwing around terms like hypocrite and coward, and being antagonistic to people you really know nothing about just isn't likely to lead anywhere good.

All I'm saying is you reap what you sow... modern translation, be an ass, get treated like an ass. I have no problem with people saying what they like, but they should be prepared for whatever response they receive, or no response at all. To be disrespectful and then seem surprised, hurt, offended, or angry with whatever response you get is just ignorant IMO.

 

Can I be honest in saying I'm not searching shit...

....that is all.

Someone told me about a picture v.o6 thread or something...

...meh.. The site is confusing enough without me getting lost in the vegetable soup that is the search results.

I'm good.

 

At least someone gets it

 

(raises hand & waits to be called on) - may I ask a question? why's everyone expending so much energy on this one thread? frankly, my ass is worn out from sifting through all this...not critizing, just making an observation...

 

had to rep you on that one. read it

 

LOL.. That was so funny.

Its just wise to have a general feel for the posters before you get antagonistic for no good reason and/or accuse them of stuff that has no basis in reality.
It takes a bit of sitting back and watching to do that.... You can post, but its wise to not be all agressive and antagonistic until you know who your talking to... It just saves oneself from looking like a fool.

Like has been said 100 times before, its not what you say - its how you say it. Its not about being PC, most of us gets that - its just that namecalling and personal accusations is really unessesary and dont further the discussion. Once that happens, the discussion is over. Every single time.

Its also an equally good idea to ask a question before shooting off both barrens based on missconstruding someones post.

 

what they get on you for ?

 

You are correct there Drae...I think everybody gets that - its was just an explanation of the events that happend trying to give him an insight of what has pranspired and that he can do a search.

Given that - he still has been unprovokedly antagonistic and rude, based on him missconstruing posts and taken stuff out of context... Its not a wise way to start. History here has proven that more often than not, it doesnt end well when you do that.

If he can keep it real and discuss these topics without being antagonistic and rude, by all means imo - he can choose to bump the threads that do exists... No one has a problem with that, Im sure.... people can choose to participate or not. But if that is done, as everybody do have a right to their opinion, there probably also will be a lot of groaning about it as well... and then we go to the "then dont go into the thread" discussion...
Rinse, repeat.
LOL

:smt081

 

I don't remember, couple dudes thinkin' I was musclin' in on their e-pussy. Meh. I got...

- look around
- search
- something about black women. blah, blah, blah,

I got pretty much what One to Remember got, I just gave them the attention they deserved....not much. I really like this site, but yall are some emotional cats (and I'm talking about the dudes) every damn thread turns into a dumb as argument.

There seems to be WAY more dudes than women maybe that's it. (at least more dudes posting). Yall ever wonder why they say "Ladies in free before 11" that's so the club don't end up with a bunch of hard legs.

And the new folk (I realize I'm) seem really to be looking for some easy white net pussy...

...and when they can't find it they bail.

I stay not because of the women; Lets be honest. I'm not here to try to get no ass. And if I was, I'm not about to pay a 1,500 plan ticket to go get no ass either. And most of the women dont' seem to be any where near my crazy ass.
...well ok I do want to see flyingeek in a bikini...preferable with a booty shot...and if god willing naked. But that's an asside.

I stay not because of the white women black men, really I could give a shit about the overall name of the site.

I stay not because of the topic, most of the topics are just FUCKING SILLY...I read the titles and move on....I don't even go into them.

....I stay because this seems, for the most part, the one place on the net where brothaz just hang out. Even for you emotional cats. This place is cool. Some of the topics are silly but I dig cats like Botan and Petty Officer....

 

Its so so so wrong, but I could not help laughing I spit my horrible hospital coffee out.