ASK the wwbm forum .: Love edition

Im not sure if we have a thread like this (relationship gripe thread) but if we do Im sorry. Anyhoo, here we go.

I figure we are all fam so we can talk.. I feel we should be able to get information from eachother so If you have a question or a situation lets talk in the context of the title of the thread.

Rule 1) give enough detail so we can give the best answers to your situation but dont write a book or just ask a brief question.

rule 2 ) we are mature adults so be nice , honest and not mean. be respectful

rule 3) have fun. show love.

rule 4) you can post articles on love and relationships.


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I will start as an example:

UUUHHHMM. It is hard for me because Im not dating right now.....Ok. here is a question.... Are women more comfortable with a man approaching them in a store ( or some fashion like a bar, resteraunt ect... you know he just introduces himself) versus meeting them through a friend ? which would you prefer ?

 

I'd rather a man approach me themselves. Going through a third party or a friend isn't that bad, but I like a man that will take charge of a situation even if it means he might be going out on a limb.

 

So what kind of guy are you into? Outside of me of course lol

 

aaaw I like a strong, funny, charismatic, social, intelligent, opinionated, spontaneous, sexy.....just to name a few.

I can't STAND passive men. Drives me insane. Mainly because I can walk all over them and that's my number one turn off. :smt019

 

Steph why are beating around the bush just "Andrae you're the one" lol

On a serious note I hear a lot of my female friends talk about wanting a guy that's opinionated is that the same as putting a girl in her place?

 

agree tami...!!! i had a gf who tried to set me up with her husbands best friend & he just wasn't my type at all. the night was uncomfortable and embarrassing. a man approaching me because he's attracted to me always wins

 

Of all important things in love, I've always approaching to beautiful women to take charge of the situation myself to asking them out. Granted, I may have nervous heart to skip a beat...

I still be man myself. I just can't be afraid like an child who can't take it from here. Sometimes, we of all have to be adults. That's how ladies likes when Men comes to approaching them.

Despite that I'm partially deaf..I sure know how to take charge of the situation myself!

 

Good. Knowing that, it's not cool.

 

It can work both ways. If you have a friend that knows a nice guy and you viewed him first and asked about him and he checked ok...then that would be cool i guess because you friend screened him first. then you would be in control.

on the other hand , I like approaching a woman but you would be totally blindsided if you dont catch the S.O.C's . I like the chase.

It would be cool if a woman hollered at me first. If she had a friend that screened my on the sly then I would be flattered.
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Hey ladies, what is the worst thing a guy has every stated in trying to meet you ?
Myself I like to keep it simple. Im very str8 forward at times. I even done things suchas I would see a woman approaching me in the city on the side walk and I would just stop her and say something off the top of my head. I usually have a 20% success rate doing that. You get shot down alot because you hear Im married thank you and they have that funny looking smile. I just bust out laughing.

 

would you rather tell your girl hey who is that guy ? whats up with him ..yadda yadda so introduce me. thus you would be in control ?

 

Indeed.

 

I can dig it.

 

I have been set up before and I hate it.
First, if I want a woman I will ask her out myself.

Second, I hate other people in my private business, when you agree to meet someone through friends they become a part of it, 'my attitude is you are not a part of it, so get out of it'.

Third, I am confident enough to trust myself, I am very selective, some of my friends and family members think its arrogance, cockiness, conceit, whatever but, you don't hear me complaining about my exes (unlike them), I found the woman myself if it does not work out I am forced to look in the mirror and see if it is something I did and improve.

Fourth, if she is not worth my own effort then she is not worth it anyway.

 

that is a big down side because they want all the news and stuff. the upside is that they can become good screeners for you.

women versus men. who are the best screeners ?