What would you say has been the most defining moment in your life?

I would say mine was when I moved back to Alabama after living in Illinois for a year and a half. I moved back not knowing if I was going to have anywhere to stay, my grandmas dementia, paranoid schizophrenia, and alzheimers had left her only a tiny shell of what she used to be (My grandparents especially my great grandma are the only people I can honestly say Ive ever trusted 100%. It sucks that they all died when I needed them the most, but what they did instill in me going on into my ealy teens and lates teens has stuck with me), and I was having to wake up a hour and a half before I was suppossed to be at work so I could walk there to get there on time (I was walking 7 to 14 miles a day, whether it was rain sleet or snow). These were the times in my life when I had to find the inner strength to go on. I mean ALOT of things can be learned in life, but having heart is not one of them. I went from being spoiled upper middle class to possibly homeless at 20, and just straight up struggling.

Its crazy how ups and downs can happen in life simultaneously. Leaving you torn between happy and sad, angry and humble etc etc. Ive got to the point in my life where I can honestly say I know what I want in life (and Ill be damned if I let any one get in my way). I used to be one of those people that would say I wisha coulda shoulda ALOT and I use to say "what if I could do this over again". I now accept my past, my present, and future and how they are all intricately tied to together and make me who I am. I was wondering what so far has been your defining moment in life?

 

The three days I became a father. I don't know what it feels like to be a mother but there is no greater joy for a man that to be a father. "DADDY" is the most beautiful word I have ever heard in my life.



becoming a father changed how I look at life and how I look at love. I am not a perfect person, I can be a ass hole, I'm overly aggressive and moody has hell, but the sun raises and falls in my children's eyes. Whatever mood I am in "daddy come play with us" just makes me 100 times happier. I love them with everything that is in me. My baby girl 5 years old, a little diva, one day she said "I just feel like crying daddy, can you hold me" hell...I told her "I'll cry with you" My oldest son, not very tough, tries so hard to please me be like dad, tough like dad, confident like dad. He tries so hard, I told him "I don't want you to be me, I want you to be you...that is what will make me happy" he is a sweet calm kid and I love him for it. My 3 year old.

ha ha ha we call him Kye D.O.E.S. (Destroyer Of Expensive Shit), now that's the tough one. I can see MARINE in his future.

I am not even sure I can put into words how my children make me feel. that is what defines my life, that of a father.

 

You're children are beautiful.

 

Graduating high school.

 

This guy beat me to it.

Graduating high school was the defining moment. Now I am trying to find a new moment.

 

I've had a few defining moments in my life: my daughter being born. Another one would be when I had the courage to finally leave her Dad.

Defining moments are what make us who we are today. I wouldn't go back and change them, even though being with her Dad was the hardest thing I ever went through. If I hadn't gone through it, I wouldn't have woken up to become the person I am today. I like who I am now, so it's all good. :smt023

 

That's what makes you awesome.

 

Going to college. I remember freshman year having to answer the questio of whether or not gay people should be married and coming from a very Christian background I said absolutely not. So my professor asked me why? Being a dumb 18 year old the only thing I could say was because I believed marriage was for starting a family for procreating. Then she asked what about a couple who gets married and can't have children or a couple who gets married later life after the woman went through medapause. I seriously sat there speechless realizing that knew very little and couldn't wait to be an academic sponge.
I think that's why I enjoy debating so much. I like anything that challenges my current disposition its the only way I'll grow.

 

You hear that? Its the sound of your coochie stock going through the roof fam lol.
On a serious note you have a beautiful family and they're very lucky to have you.

 

Inspiring story brotha

 

I with you my friend. Im a father also. so when she was born my whole life changed. now Im fighting to have visitations and it made me more of a fierce person . Im hoping that it would be a lesson to my ex that she can do other shit but when it comes to my baby that is when you are in a war you will not win. Im hoping she would look at the whole episode and realize it was wasted energy , time and finances.