Older men vs older women

Who do you think has the edge in the dating scene (generally speaking)? Ive heard people say men are like houses they appreciate with time (because the main attractive qualities of a man are stability and security) and women are like cars they depreciate wih time (because there value is there looks). Me personally i think alot of factors come into play, like, how do you look, age, what country you're in, money, what kind of relationship are you looking for (like casual dating, fwb, marriage) etc. What are your opinions?

 

I don't think men appreciate or women depreciate. I think it depends on what each individual is looking for as to what qualities are going to be prized by them. If you want stability and security, you'll likely prize income, if you want someone everyone else will want, you'll likely prize the physical attributes that most people find attractive. In this day and age it appears money is in first place for a lot of women, and looks are in first place for a lot of men, it's not everyone but I think it likely may well be the majority based upon people I know personally and stories they've related. I think that's sad as both income and beauty are fleeting, and if that happens then you're left with nothing of value to you in your partner. I choose to see beyond attributes, traits, and finances and look at who someone is rather than what they have or how they look. However the only qualities I really look for are a great sense of humor and a pleasant personality, neither of which have anything to do with finances, security, stability, or looks, so as I said what you look for tends to dictate what you find.

 

Hi.

There are always things we need to take into consideration when trying to observe another person’s experience when dating.

Youthful looks will determine the amount of younger girls that cross your path. Bear in mind I am not referring to girls in which you make the first move.

There are a few older women that are attracted to youthful looks to the point of dating a young boy. However, a large amount of women are self-conscious on what others think, and will feel uncomfortable dating a baby face. If the bloke looks older than his age things will be different for only she will know his true age as they move about in society.

Which gender receives the most attention from the opposite sex is based on where that person stands from a physical standpoint. If one is very attractive, it is obvious he/she will have their share of luck on a daily basis.

Unless the person offers an accent that is noticeable to the point of posing a question, the place of his or her origin will not play a factor.

How compatible both parties are from an intellectual perspective is what keeps the conversation active.

I would suggest using your own experience (not others) as a guideline for no amount tactics will override certain things. It will also prevent you from creating an alter ego, which can easily be deciphered pending on how shrewd the person is.

Cheers!

 

Is it a competition?

 

Yes apparently it is, did you miss the memo too?

 

Example: In poor countries men have the advantage in the dating scene. In places like the DR, Colombia, etc a woman 28+ is considered by most to be old/past her prime. Especially if she has kids etc. in first world countries this is not the case. But no it is not competition. In certain aspects of life people have a upperhand over others. If this was a ? about who has the edge on getting a corporate job, a high school graduate or a college graduate would you say is it a competition? Im pretty sure you would probably say the college graduate would have the advantage.

 

In the corporate job example, they are competing directly with another for one reward -- one has to win, one has to lose.

That's kind of different from how I view dating.

 

I know girls that don't look their age in a negative way have are harder time meeting someone than girls that look young for their age. That is Universal and not based on a certain island due to economic status.

It stems back to what I mentioned in regards to youthful looks. I do know DR girls are head strong on looks.

Having lots of children may have some blokes looking the other direction. However, turning down a girl soley on the basis of being in their late 20's without taking other things into consideration, is something I have yet to witness with the majority of West Indians.

Cheers!

 

When I say high school graduate and college graduate I mean everyone that encompasses those groups. Im not talking about a one on one sort of thing. I should of wrote it in plural form to better express where Im coming from. And with the whole competition thing, some might make the argument that its only a competition when both parties acknowledge it. Others could argue everythings a competition. Would either one be right or wrong? I get where you're coming from, but when I made the title of this thread older men vs older women I wasnt trying to imply it in a competitive manner. I was just trying to get at, do people think a certain group has a advantage over the other.

 

I understand you, but if you go to forums like dr1.com, lifeinthedr.com, poorbuthappy.com you will see what Im talking about. In countries like that where machismo is widespread you will see guys tend to have endless options in the dating world. Also in these poorer countries they tend to have "traditional roles" more or so what I said about hearing people tell me men are like houses and women like cars reigns true there ESPECIALLY in the poor to lower middle class. Not so much in the upper middle class to rich class cause the women tend to be educated (therefore there able to get better jobs).

 

I have lots of friends from all over the world. Some of their complaints, relates to the same thing when it comes to girls… Blokes who wear name brand clothing gets more attention from girls than the guy who cannot afford to dress that way.

There is no difference between the poor girl who lives in the States that is mesmerised by fancy name brand clothing as the poor girl who resides in the West Indies, Europe, Africa, & Asia. It is the misconception on her part that money will solve all her problems.

Unfortunately, there are more complainers on forums than inspirational participants. Hearing people complain about the negatives in the area they live in is quite common on forums. If I visit a forum within my area, you will hear people complaining about a stray cat running the streets at night.

This is why it is always best read between the lines when you hear such complaints.

Now the question remains. If a girl is materialistic, why would a guy complain when, he cannot afford to shower her with gifts to make her happy? He must be mesmerised by her looks which makes him no better than the materialistic girl.

In defence to the girl, there is nothing wrong turning a bloke down if he does not fit her criteria. Girls generally look for guys that are either at the same level as themselves from an appearance standpoint or above their level.

In defence to the guy, if the whole relationship is based on the type of clothing he wears, he is nothing more than a showpiece. He needs to realise this before she finds someone else who dresses trendier and leaves him in the cold.

A lot this mentality falls within the grade school curriculum, which may be the reason they feel 28+ year-old woman is, over the hill. In other words, they are still young and their thought patterns (hopefully) will change once they approach the late 20’s.



Cheers!

 

Older men get younger women all the time. I don't like the double standard. I also don't like the idea that only white frat boys can get with attractive older women.

 

I haven't read all the replies, but I think since the Cougar movement has become more popular and society as a whole has taken an interest and has more knowledge on health and anti-aging, I think older women are in demand just as much as men. I agree with you. I think it depends on what you're seeking, how you look, who you attract and what you attract etc.

 

I've always dated guys that were older than me. I think most women do date older men, whether it be just a little older or a lot older.

I think hollywood shows a lot about older men vs. older women. It's always like girls in their 20s and the guys are like 30s or older a lot of the time hooking up or whatever. lol.

 

i seem to usually go for men younger than me...especially as i'm aging (gracefully of course). i find the older man can't always keep up

 

In my ENTIRE dating career, I've only dated 2 men that were older than me. The rest have been younger (and one was my age).

For some reason, maybe because I am the youngest (by many years) of 5, so I grew up around older people, that I now seek out people younger than me, because they seem fresher and more fun.

And as I'm dating again, in my late 30s with a kid, I'm finding that younger men tend to have less relationship hang-ups and baggage than older men. Strictly my own personal observations, of course. :smt023

 

At my age, older men are where it's at! Experience and maturity are sexy :smt060

 

I agree!

 

Interesting perspective Boobsworm. I'm the youngest of 3.

I've dated 3 dudes who were older than me...EVERYONE else has been younger. Even if they're my age, I was older by 3 weeks with one and 2 months with another.

My youngest so far has been 8 yrs.

 

lol...my age its youth and endurance mixed with maturity...!!!!