Problems approaching white women?

Anyone other guys here have issues approaching white women(by women I'm talking 19-25ish)? I guess for the most part I'm an above average looking guy based on some of the things I've been told/experienced and every now and then a white woman well make it pretty obvious that they want me to approach them. In these situations I don't really have as much of a problem approaching them, because I know they must be ok with hanging out/dating/etc a black guy and that any sort of extra scrutiny we get for being in public she would be ok with. I don't get these blatantly obvious sort of come ons a lot though, and sometimes I just want to approach other attractive white women, but feel a little hesitant because of the awkward situation that might arise, because she may feel embarrassed to be seen talking to a black guy etc etc. This isn't really a fear of rejection that I have, cause I honestly don't care if one woman rejects me, but I worry that they might have "white guilt" and continue to talk to me and try to be nice to me etc even if they don't really want to and really feel uncomfortable. I'd have almost no problem approaching a black woman, but in general I don't find myself attracted to them. Thoughts?

 

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Once you stop looking at her as "a white woman" and view her as just another girl, you will regain your confidence.

I am happy you offered a minor explanation on what "white guilt" is for, I have never heard of such a thing. If the girl does not find you attractive, she is not going to linger around until you stop talking.

I would highly recommend not approaching her as "a white woman" but “as a woman” you want to know as a person. If the only thing you can see is "a white woman," I can assure you, the chances of you meeting one is slim to none.

If the following is true…

You won’t need to indulge in pick up lines, trying to impress her for you have one foot in the door. Casual conversation will be more than enough. It also shows you are comfortable chatting with people that are not same pigmentation as yourself.

I would also recommend having comrades that do not share the same complexion as you. The more universal your friends, the better the chances of dating interracially.


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First of all- applause for your post.. You appear to be a person with the capability to see a situation from different perspectives. You don´t accuse somebody for their behaviour, you just recognize it. Something I appreciate very much.

"White guilt" in the way you describe it is existing, of course and it can happen that a woman talks to you, although she doesn´t like to. But it is a difference, if she isn´t attracted to you and just wants to be gentle (what you can normally feel during the conversation) or if she is weak and feels ashamed, because you are black (what you normally can see, before you talk to her).

Weak persons are difficult to handle. You could try to convince her, but I wouldn´t. To be in an IR, you have to be strong. Weak people lie, cannot stand to you, but also not to themselves and in critical situations they are against you or run away.

The guys already told you that you should see a ww as a woman.. ww are not Queens.. maybe sometimes your wife is your personal Queen, but not all ww in general. You are a man with high qualities, too.

I guess you have enough empathy to feel to which type of woman you talk to. One type is valuable to convince- the other one not. I´m pretty sure you make your right decision. Good luck:smt023

 

Definitely the best way to approach any white woman.

 

Thanks Complex and Christine, you guys bought up some good points and affirmed something that I had already been thinking. Mainly that the 'white guilt' situation I wrote about was a little idealistic and that if a woman isn't attracted to you or uncomfortable it'll be obvious in her body language, and she may reject you nicely, but won't extend the conversation anymore than she has to, regardless of your race. White guilt probably isn't even applicable in this situation actually. I think what I was really thinking about when I wrote that post, is a girl who's attracted, but uncomfortable dating due to societal pressure, but that's a slightly different scenario, and has probably been discussed numerous times on this board.

 

:smt042 Never been approached by a bm that way. Can't say if that would work for a date.

 

lol..saty

 

I agree with some things said here, also I want to say WHERE you approach a WW is just as important. Certain cities and towns in the states are a no go. Where do you reside US? Europe?

 

No worries mate!

I’ve experienced two girls whose insecurity was based on family. Under those conditions there is really nothing you can do for they will need to come to terms with them self. What is most unfortunate with such a scenario is how it really tares them apart mentally. Ethnic/Religious background can play a factor for, those two incidents occurred from a Chinese & Jewish girl.

Bare in mind, we dated, had rendezvous fondled one another, what have you. However, it was clear from her side that it could not amount to anything serious. If you ever come across such a jester from a girl, rest assure it took her a few months to reach to such a conclusion.

Then there are those that are very flamboyant about the relationship, which will make you wonder if it is truly attraction or are you being used as a showpiece. The dead give away is the ones that sees nothing but Black & White and, cannot hold a conversation without bringing it to your attention. Such behaviour generally occurs when the girl is 17 and under with a small circle of friends.

I would imagine it is a phase everyone encounters venturing beyond your native skin on the dating scene. Do keep that in mind once you begin dating.

But alas, maturity prevails.

I have a theory. There are signs guys project unknowingly that let a girl know that skin tone is not a factor when he is on the prowl. The reason I say this is due to never hearing a girl ask me if I date “insert any race/ethnicity here” girls when they make the first move. They just assume I do. :smt017

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He is saying " You look good ....Now join me for a drink and shut the fuck up"

 

very good point. I have a problem knowing where to meet a ww in a setting where it is almost like a good meeting spot for openminded people.

 

Pretty much every rule has an exception. How would you know if you have found the exception unless you at least try? I find it hard to believe there are whole cities where not one woman would be inclined to say yes if asked.

 

Don't be so afraid of rejection. If she says 'no', then oh well. If it's because you're black, then fuck her. To not even talk to a woman who you may be interested in because she lives in a certain area, you're closing a door before you even open it.

 

Funny and true...

 

Whip it out and hope for the best.

 

lmao... And why not? What's the worst that could happen?