Forgiveness: Is it Possible?

In the saga of Tiger Woods, his wife has recently said that forgiveness is the last step in the healing process. What does that mean? Could she someday forgive him for having multiple transgressions? Can someone truly forgive their partner for such betrayal? I find this revealing in this time when so many marriages and relationships are falling apart. How can one forgive someone who total humiliated them? If you ask me "the forgive me" today is as meaningless as saying "I'm sorry".

 

Depending on the transgression, it can take quite a long time to reach the forgiveness stage, but I think it's in everyone to forgive and I think (unless the damage done was truly heinous), I think it's in your best interest to forgive the person. It frees you from years of anger, stress, and holding onto unnecessary negativity.

Why waste your life hating someone for what they did to you x number of years ago? I think it takes maturity and time to reach that forgiveness stage.

I forgave my ex for everything he did, and when I finally reached that stage, I felt a weight lifted off my shoulders and felt not only calm but also a peace just enveloped me and I felt so much better about myself and my life.

Hanging onto the bad is not a healthy way to live your life.

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Lmao, of course she "forgives" Tiger. He gave her a 100 million dollar settlement.

 

you can forgive but you cant trust them anymore. you will have to deal with them with a long handled spoon.

I say if a person cheats that meant they had to lie to do it.if they can lie then they can steal and if they can steal then they can kill.

screwing around is the ultimate disrespect. it is about respect and trust.

 

I guess breaking away from a bad relationship without carrying all that baggage is good advise. life is so short. Why continue living it in misery.

 

I take Elin's word when she said money was not everything for her because she lost her family.

 

it is also the humiliation of it all. she was mad a fool of in the media's eyes because the first thing that comes out of peoples mouth are how did she not know. also everyone around her knew but didnt say anything and that is another betrayal.

 

All trusts have the possibility of betrayal.

 

Well yeah I am sure she was telling the truth there. Of course no one would want to go thru what she went thru but lets not all act like her life is now in shambles. She basically just won the lottery, has custody of her kids, set for life finanically, kids are set for life, she still has her health...she will bounce back.

 

Great spoken:smt038

 

Wow, that's quite a jump, there! :roll:

 

naw, its not it happens all the time. watch the news and read between the lines. I have friends that went thru the same thing. a famous case is the one in huntsville alabama. It was so dramatic that a movie for tv was done on it.

it was about a dentist who was killed by his wife thru a hit man with the help of her twin sister. the wife was having affairs all over the place. she was getting with anything that moved.

look at the mother in carolina when she drowned her kids so she can get with some dude and said a black guy killed the kids.

there was a guy who went to the kuwait war and when he returned was killed by his wife and her new boyfriend. they did not expect him to come back and was hoping for the insurance money.

the boston guy in the 80's blamed black men for killing his preggy wife. he was getting with other women too and he was going broke so he needed the insurance money.

the bible tells u if you broke one commandment you broke them all...physically and/or spiritually.

the statement i made is a street proverb and it holds true and it is adherent to the bible. There is no jump unless you get away from that person or the person stop themselves but that is a serious gamble to take.

 

Forgiveness is not only possible, but needed in most situations.

Forgetting is stupid.

I forgive those who have wronged me, but I do not give them the oppourtunity to do it again. Forgiveness without taking measures to protect oneself is stupid in my opinion.

When you screw up big time, you can bet you won't be part of my life anymore. I don't allow toxic people to continue siphoning away my happiness. I learned that lesson the hard way, and I'm glad I did, because it's easier not to take shit from people anymore.

Did she forgive him and take him back? Cause if she did, then I certainly don't agree with that. If I were her, I would have forgiven him and still said "ok, but there's no going back." and just kept on walking.

 

Those are all extreme cases which is why they're reported in the media. These cases represent a very, very, very small percentage of relationships "gone bad".

 

Perfectly said Bookie. That's what the Secret's philosphy says too...

 

what Im saying is that if you dont get rid of them they will take to the next step . also alot of cases dont get the news report like others. there are a lot of missing kids but you never see them on good morning america or nancy grace . when natalie holloway came up missing people acted like that was an extreme case but it isnt it is normal unfortunate happening. the other missing people cases dont get the coverage like that. so people who do slick stuff like I stated go unreported.

 

I think your missing the true reason for forgiveness:

You dont forgive somebody for their sake.
You forgive them for yourself!

The only way to truly move on.

So, yes, not only is it possible, its a must - you cant waste all that energy on not forgiving someone and holding a grudge.

That doesnt mean you forget about it.

 

Interesting point. I can agree with that. So to rid your soul or feelings that are riped with negativity you have to come to terms with yourself first in removing the bitterness.