Men-Women Roles....what's your take?

....G'afternoon family. T'is been quite a while since I started a thread. I thought I'd put something out there for us to chew on today.

The premise of this thread is to open dialogue about your thought on your pesonal perception of roles in your relationship.

For example - Believe it or not, I'm actually very old-school. I'm attracted to "frilly-girly" women who have strong maternal instints. I don't mean treat a man like a child, I mean the type of woman who enjoys making her man's plate (ironically, I don't necessarily want that, but its a warm and appreciated gesture). The type of woman who likes to play the 'feminine-take-care-of-her-man-role'. I quietly like to be catered to, but I'll NEVER ask for it - I have pride issues and get embarrassed by too much attention.

Whereas I'm passively dominant. I talk very little and I'm pretty introverted, but I do the 'man-things'. I'll cut the grass, wash her car, fix her stuff, yada yada yada.

So what's your thoughts?

 

I can go either way. I just don't want a dumb woman. That means I have to do everything. Smart women are so much better because they can take care of the household should you not be there. That's about it.:smt024

 

Get your popcorn ready.

 

LOL! Did I inadvertedly start some beef?

 

i suppose me and the other half fall into the stereotypical roles for the most part.

he does the home repairs and most of the garden work but i tend to help him as im used to doing all that stuff ( i lived alone for years, you have to know how to do stuff, in fact i can change and rewire a plug, do the fuse box etc and he cant )

i tend to do the cooking ( he makes the occasional african dish ) and i do all the baking, laundry ( hes not sure of how it works yet ) and about 75% of the cleaning but when ive been ill hes been able to take over

if im doing a big clean it sure helps having him there to help shift furniture out the way

it works for us

 

That's a helluva woman!!!

...I'd probably adopt your same format.

 

As I've mentioned on this board before, I'm an old fashioned modern woman. I'm old fashioned cause I come from a traditional family with old school morals and values. I'm modern cause that's what I grew up seeing and I kind of had an "independent" instinct from an early age. Also, cause that's what we're forced into as far as (the Womens Movement) society goes.

I like taking on what's been traditionally a womans role. I feel comfortable doing that. I love to cook. I hate cleaning, but since I'm anal retentive and a neat freak, I have to! lol I don't mind taking care of a man and catering to him as long as I'm not demeaning myself or he's disrespecting me. I love being feminine and girly. I also have a strong need to be a mother and I hope God grants me that wish. I've always seen myself as a wife, but at this point in time, I'd be lucky if that happens even more so than having babies.

I love when a man is manly. I'm really impressed when a guy can fix stuff. I like when a man knows about the internal makeup of an automobile and not just how to fill it up with gas. I've met some guys who don't possess these qualities and it's not shocking, yet when they do, it's really impressive. I've always been a handy woman (not with cars), but with other stuff, but it's nice when a man is around to take on that role.

 

I actually consider myself a little old-school when it come to this topic too. I enjoy being with a man that knows he's the man, and I enjoy catering to him by cooking, doing the laundry or any special personal needs he might have. :wink: However, it's not to say that these roles are set in stone. I sometimes have late nights in the office, and it would be nice to come home to a hot meal already prepared. In the same regard, I can also take out the trash or repair something if needed. I do have some exceptions to these traditional roles. It really doesn't matter to me who is the breadwinner of the family. If I love someone enough to marry them, everything becomes ours and not yours and mine. So, in that regard, I'm not traditional at all. I also don't like the 'traditional' roles if it's expected. I want to cater to you and spoil you because I love you, not because it's my 'job' or because you expect it from me. All you have to do is love me with your actions and words, and all your needs will be met. :wink:

 

I'm all for adult responsible relationships where "the other part" can live by himself and sharing means sharing and if you sprinkle it with love, respect and communication, living together should be a piece of cake!

 

:smt054It's like we were separated at birth!!

 

Good topic Intriguedone

I'll say this. I want a woman to cater to me. Cook, clean, sex when I demand it( :wink:ha lol) . I'm not looking for a Housewife though. She should have a career and be ambitious. I want a balance of both. I can't deal with a lazy woman overall. I want her to know that I'm the MAN of this relationship, she's the WOMAN of this relationship. Women shouldn't try to be the Man and Woman, it don't work that way. So in a sense she should be a little Submissive as i should be Dominant. I'll never ask a woman to do this, she just has to be pre-programed of this behavior, hopefully.

My role is being a good provider. Holding down a job and having my finances in check. Having my shit together in General(Before one is MARRIED). Once i'm married. I'll continue doing what i have been doing. I'll love my wife and be a good father to my kids. Too many deadbeat Dads(Black Men in particular) out here. I look generally at my parents relationship and try to see how I can bring that to my future. It will be 25 years of Marriage in three weeks. They fight and have their little conflicts but they managed to make it last this long in a country that has a 50% divorce rate. So i'm impressed.

 

IB, that's a good look. I'll 'fix your things' anytime and give you lots of Intrigue Jrs.

 

so you should both have a career and be contibuting to the houshold finances but she should do all the cooking, cleaning and be available for sex on tap?

you sound like my ex husband, lol

 

Wait Robina lol. I will say this. I don't mind doing some cooking, cleaning,or whatever needs doing around the house. It should be equal work in maintaining a household. Though this typically has been a woman's role(I'm not trying to sound sexist) and she should be doing this more than I. If i do 51% of this, then there's a problem sorry lol.

 

We are like ebony and ivory up in this joint. :smt052

 

I hope you do 50% of the child bearing:smt042

 

thanks for clarifying, was sounding like you both get home from work, you sit on ur ass and she does everything, as i said ive had that relationship, it was not fun especially since he gambled and i paid all the bills, lol

my other half doesnt do much cooking but he does like to do the garden and the handyman stuff, i let him, fix it later if he did it wrong ( thou i dont tell him, i thank him and sort it on the quiet )
he knows i will fetch him drinks and snacks if he wants them and he will put in requests for cakes to be baked, i dont mind it thats how my mum was

 

Then please, try a bit harder because, believe me, it DOES come across as sexist as it can be! :smt055

 

lol...

 

:smt060

I need some maintenance too...LOL

How many Jrs. are we talking?